If they were really sorry
2007-09-23 16:31:35 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe after I got even. Then I'd give her the boot.
2007-09-23 16:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kenny E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation a couple of years ago, though I didn't take him back cause once a cheater always a cheater regardless of how sorry they are. Move on with your life and find someone else who you can trust. I did and now im married. Goodluck in your decision.
2007-09-25 16:52:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to this question is asking the cheater what was the reason for cheating. If a problem caused the cheating than that is fixable. If there is a problem that can be fixed, then yes, take them back. If the person caused the cheating, you are going to have a problem. If the person just couldn't stop themselves, are generally dogs, or have commitment issues, then no, don't take them back. I love my wife very much. If she cheated on me, I'd want to know why before I believed if she was sorry or not.
One thing to remember, if you are going to take them back, you have to forgive them and move on. If you are going to constantly question and not trust them at any point something seems odd, then don't put yourself or them in the situation.
One more thing. If they say, "honey I want to take you on Maury/Jerry to tell you a secret." RUN!!
2007-09-23 17:57:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jason Las Vegas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the situation, if you are young, not married, no children, I would probably say no. The phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater", I don't agree with. I cheated once, but I was really young, it tore me up, and I could never do it again to anybody, and I learned from my mistake. If you are married, give it a shot, but ultimately you need to decide if you're ready to go through it, and IF you can get over it and move on
2007-09-23 16:51:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy_1030 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a quite simple test for this. Do you feel you can trust him? If the answer is NO then then there is no chance of remaining together. If you answer YES or MAYBE then you need to look at his history.
A person that has one affair can be a moral mistake, but may have learnt from it and may never do this again.
A person that has had more than one affair or had one affair over a period of time has a moral flaw and if the opportunity presents itself they are almost certain to cheat again and should not be trusted again.
2007-09-27 12:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by Rational Thought 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, yes I have. But he was REALLY sorry, not pretending to be. Anyway, I may not be the best person to answer this. I am a very competitive person and I know how to make my hubby wonder why he ever strayed in the first place. And if he messes up again, he knows for a FACT that he will never find anyone as good to him in every way as I was. This puts me in charge of the situation while enjoying my little 'ol self at the same time. I learned this the hard way, from a previous marriage to a He-Hor.
2007-09-23 16:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Chiksita 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, it's not worth the headache. I could no longer trust him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.
2007-09-23 17:13:00 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Shania♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the big picture. Was this a first time-short or long time? Who was she seeing, a family member or my best friend-Yes then GET LOST!
You need to understand the whys and wherefores to make a decision that will not cause you to lose your sanity. People make mistakes and deserve forgiveness. It is only within you and your gut feelings to make a good decision. Your asking for input while giving very little info. Best of luck to you.
2007-09-23 16:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LMAO @ really sorry.
My 1st husband sucked so far up my rear end after his 1st 2 affairs I thought I was becoming a siamese twin , by the 3rd affair my heart was turning to stone on his sucking up and by the 4th I'd had enough , found out 12 months after I kicked his @zz out he'd been on his 5th affair.How stupid was I hey.
My 2nd husband cheated "ONCE" , and now we're on the path to divorce , I will never EVER again believe a man who say's he is sorry even if he's really really sorry with cherry's on top.
2007-09-23 16:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater but every situation is different and can work out the 2nd time around.
2007-09-23 16:35:27 · answer #10 · answered by Star 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if i felt that i could trust them.. the cheater has to earn your trust back.. and not with words but with actions.. there actions will tell you lots about a person.. earning trust can take weeks or months even years or never.. but if i did and they earned that trust back then i would more then likely try again.. that is if i still wanted him back also.. good luck
2007-09-23 16:39:29 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋