My MIL(soon to be) owes me and my partner $20grand for some property anyway she has failed to stick to the agreement and still 1 and a half years later shes not giving it, we asked for $15.00 at least a week and she said no so i'm so sick of crying over this that i have started seeking advice of a lawyer, my partners away for another 4 weeks so i will get his back up first of cousre, i know hes not keen but we have tried soooo many times that this is the fianl option. what will happen to my partners family will they hate him forever i really feel for him in this situation but i want my money should i bite the bullet and just go for it?.
2007-09-23 16:43:48 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take her to court because if you let her screw you out of that much money she will continue to try to walk all over you. Do it girl and don't feel guilty it's what anyone else would do.
2007-09-23 17:40:35 · answer #1 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are a lot of sides to this. She DID sign the agreement, which could possibly be binding in court. But then there's the moral side of it. She is your husbands mother.
Do the other family members get along with her, or is she just a "moocher" from them too? If she just takes from other family members, you may not be ailienating your soon to be husband from other family members. They may just be waiting for someone to step up and tell her "NO more!!" Really $15 a week isn't much, but you didn't mention her situation either, if she was working or not, if she had a good job, or was barely scraping by. The advice of a lawyer would be good for the legal side of it. But for the family part... You may want to seek a counselor to talk things through. Is there any way you could get together with some of the other family and discuss this situation with some of them? Maybe they could talk with her and help her to see why she should pay, or at least help you to understand why she maybe can't/won't.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-23 23:58:59 · answer #2 · answered by mystry72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer. That amount is well above the small claims court limit so a lawsuit may be expensive . Your lawyer should be able to advise on the action required depending on the loan agreement details. For that amount you should have had a legal agreement prepared.
Good luck
2007-09-23 23:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by mark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh don't go to court! You and your partner aren't even married yet, you don't want to ruin the relationship now!
First I think what you need to do is ask her WHY she won't hold up to her end of the agreement. Was there any paper signed? Was anything in writing? Go back to any documents and see what you can do with them.
Also, once your partner gets back you two need to have a very firm talk with your MIL about this. Explain the situation, be clear, concise, and firm. Establish boundaries and your partner needs to let her know that this is not okay.
After, I think your partner is the person who needs to do the rest. After all, this is his mother and he needs to reason with her and come up with an agreement. He needs to make it very clear-- VERY CLEAR-- that is not appropriate and you two put forth money, time, and effort to get her property or to help her with it, and now you two need it back.
2007-09-23 23:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymousgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah, i think u should just go after the money, sure its going to cause bad blood but if they are smart they will see that you werent being unreasonable.. u did something out of the kindness of your heart, and basically got screwed.. 15.00 a week is beyond reasonable for that kind of money.. and if she wants to use you, then why not give her back that type of treatment..
Its not like u havent given her enough time .. u've given her a year and a half, and its not that u made the payments unreasonable u only asked for 15.00 a week.. i mean give me a break, thats nuts that she cant atleast do that much..
2007-09-24 00:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first I think you should talk to your partner first before you proceed. You two should talk it out and make the final decision on what to do with this situation. But if you both agree that the only way you can get your money from his mother is by taking legal action, then that's what you have to do.
I wish you luck!
2007-09-23 23:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better wait until he gets back.....it will seem like you are doing an end run on him and he will be pis***...... Give him one last chance to work it out before you do anything. IF he does nothing, call MIL and tell her you are starting a lawsuit against her.....people HATE lawyers......it might be enough leverage to get her to pony up the cash.
2007-09-24 00:00:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family is family and business is business, when it comes to being owed that kind of money, family is irrilevent, if she cant pay, get the property, if you are paying for it might as well be the one own it. I'll bet if the shoe were on the other foot, she wouldn't hesitate to take you to court for her money, with an atty. give her a heads up about it first that way she can't act like she didn't know whats coming and maybe one last chance to start paying up. if not just say, consider yourself warned.
2007-09-23 23:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by mrsptb4life2002 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be prepared for the repercussions. Wait for your other half to return prior to seeking legal advice so that you both represent a united front at all times. I also think both of you should pre-warn his mom that you will be seeking legal advice.
2007-09-24 00:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would find out why she hasn't paid up. Otherwise if the money is that important to you, then sue her. Of course you know that there will be no snowballs chance in h*ll that you will live happily ever after.
2007-09-24 00:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋