Marriage & Divorce - 21 September 2007

i'm getting engaged to my boyfriend very soon. we ha a conversation lst night and he tells me that he doesn't trurst anyone as much as he trusts his mother. In a nutshell, i dcan't remember the ins and outs but he's saying he doesn't trust me 100% the only person in his life he can trust is his mother. I felt kinda insulted by that and not sure if that is a good start for a marriage...what happens when were without hi mother, am i just a second in line but never live up to what she is?

question: is this normal and is this a bad sign before marrige?

2007-09-21 23:47:24 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im hurting. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me hald a year ago and it was really painful for me. He was always contacting me even after the break up and was telling me that maybe in the future we can get back together but he doesn't want to continue our long-distance relationship for now. It was difficult for me to know what he really wants because he was always very upset if I told him that I am going to stop all communication with him. I went to see him a month ago and it was very nice and he was with me as if we are still together but then he told me we need to move on at least for now. I was devastated. About a week ago, I told him final good bye but he contacted me again telling me it's too hard. He asked me if I didn't want to save anything and break everything by walking away and cutting all communication. Since then I have taken his words seriously and did not manage to cut all communication. But now when I ask him to talk, he gets all stressed and says he is too tired from work.

2007-09-21 23:37:18 · 13 answers · asked by Elisa N 1

Just the responsibilities. I'm not married yet and my parents doesn't tell me they said I have to find it out myself. So I tried the internet but to no avail. All I can search for is to 'love one another' and that's it. I thought that real people with experience might be able to answer this.

2007-09-21 23:21:53 · 5 answers · asked by Don 2

We have a 2 year old daughter. I want to know how can I keep me and my wife happy. Our ideas or thinking never match.She takes life very seriously. I dont get the sense of urgency for any thing. She is organized, also wants me to be organized. That does not get into me. she gets frustrated with that.
Should I compromise and live my life the way she wants me to do? Please advise.

2007-09-21 22:45:50 · 6 answers · asked by spal 1

My husband and I have gotten into several fights. I feel like I am to blame a little for when he hits me; I kinda of egg him on.
For instance, tonight we got in a fight, I can't remember who touched who first; I do however remember pushing him and then he hit me in my back really hard. Later he was standing there and his belt was unbuckled so I pulled it out of the loops and then he grabbed it from me and hit me with it. So am I the nut?? Am I to blame in this situation. I have even told him not to hit me and he says he doesn't care, he'll do it again...
After he hit me with the belt I got in the car and left but I only got about half way down the street before I turned around and tried to resolve, but he won't communicate when he is angry and it takes him long to calm down; I'm talking hours or even days... Can I please get some opinions?

2007-09-21 21:05:41 · 23 answers · asked by Audlee 1

''MARRIAGES ARE MADE IN HEAVEN ONLY WE CAN MAKE THEM A SUCCESS IN THIS WORLD'''

HOW LONG HAVE U BEEN MARRIED AND HOW HAVE U STUCK ALONG SO LONG ? ANY SPECIAL TIPS INCLUDING THE ELEMENT OF CHEATING?
PLEASE ADD WHAT U WOULD LIKE TO SHARE WITH OTHERS 4 A LONG HAPPY MARRIED LIFE.
THANKS

2007-09-21 20:05:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

i do a ton of things around my house and my wife loves it and shows me how thankful she is all the time!!!

if she didnt show me this i would stop doing it!!!!!

2007-09-21 19:44:35 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Mine practically ignores me, would rather spends time with his friends, I think that he is cheating. He claims "Turkish men don't cheat," I told him that all men cheat. If he speaks to me it is with a harsh tone. I think that he is just buying his time till he can divorce me and stay in this country. I don't know for sure, but it seems that way by his treatment of me. He is a jerk to me. I am so lonely and depressed.

2007-09-21 19:32:22 · 6 answers · asked by Talent 3

We have been married only 7 months and often my husband sits down for meditation at night time. He follows a spiritual path (initiated by a guru) which requires him to sit for meditation at least 3 hours daily. Sometimes when he doesn't find time during mornings and afternoons he would sit for meditation at night. I have nothing against this even though i don't understand this kind of spirituality which requires a man to neglacect his wife. But i am confused wether he has any feelings towards me anymore, since we hardly make love once a week. I don't want to upset his faith but i need to know that he loves me or not. I don't want to overreact as well. Is it normal for spiritual people to behave like this? What should i do and think to keep myself sane (have been trying to keep myself busy for past 3 months such that i don't get affected) Some help please

2007-09-21 19:14:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it normal or common for a husband to think sex with his wife is gross or bothersome? Within the first month of marriage? Anyone else run into this problem? I want to know if anyone else got sold a lemon like I did.....

2007-09-21 19:14:08 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2

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2007-09-21 18:47:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 39 no kids, she's 42 with 2 teenage kids.we've been together..(never married)..for almost 12 years.we broke up twice before but this time we really hurt each other bad. I agreed to let her buy me out of a house we bought 2 years ago and I moved out. I miss her and I want her back but she appears to avoid me..by saying she needs time to heel. I think their is another guy in the picture..what should I do? It's been 7 weeks since I moved out but we did sleep together 2 weeks ago..and it was beautiful but the next day she totally cut me off. I am now seeing a therapist now but.... I don' think I'll get her back....I really messed it up this time. I love her so much...any advice?

2007-09-21 18:44:44 · 11 answers · asked by RUCKUS 2

Everybody must list at least 5 in their entry. Thank you. BTW fell free to tell me your story if you'd like.

2007-09-21 18:40:31 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous

and he has thier son that is 3 he was so depred for month couldnt eat sleep or even go to work now hes getting back to living is it o k for him to date she has been gone for almost 5mos . and is on her 2nd man friend !

2007-09-21 18:40:01 · 8 answers · asked by Msdeb gee 6

domestic fight. at bound hireing complint called state attorney stated unable to come. lied she in the h.o.s.p. with a bronken arm. charge me with domestic bettery n jail. in trail. she a statement was not in the h.o.s.p. with a bronken arm. amented she make the first contack.court found me not guaity.

2007-09-21 18:38:34 · 14 answers · asked by peter m 1

2007-09-21 18:38:13 · 11 answers · asked by Shaaammm 1

domestic fight. at bound hireing complint called state attorney stated unable to come. lied she in the h.o.s.p. with a bronken arm. charge me with domestic bettery n jail. in trail. she a statement was not in the h.o.s.p. with a bronken arm. amented she make the first contack.court found me not guaity.

2007-09-21 18:35:32 · 3 answers · asked by peter m 1

I'm going thru a divorce and he still lives in the house. He goes out every weekend and I try to keep my child from seeing her father either come home late at nite or not return till the next day.

2007-09-21 18:24:48 · 12 answers · asked by Lyzz 1

Caught my husband in serious text messaging with a coworker. I kept the cell phone.We have been separated. He swears he does not have a phone. When he picked me up on
the weekend and rode in his car....there was a cell phone
charger plugged in but no phone. He got very defensive and
offended when I asked him if he had a cell phone. He told me
that his sister with whom he lives was cleaning out the garage
and and found this charger and he was testing. He said that
he plugged it in and tested it with an electric meter. It sounds
weird but he usually likes to keep everything and usually tests
every little electronic part. Do you think that he was lying?
I'm too caught up in the emotions to think straight. Please
help.

2007-09-21 18:24:26 · 14 answers · asked by zebra123 1

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dorai
S Please clarify my doubt.?
my marriage is love marriage, 3 years back i got married, my wife doesn't know cooking and al. so i started cooking, washing, pressing her legs and all householding words. Because i love her very much. before going to office i finish every thing. my friends are calling me as 'wife's servant' (some are doing all household works in their homes, but they are not kicked by their wives). what to do now, don't advice me to divorce. i like to do anything for her. i like to be a servant to her. i am happy to be kicked by her. am i a great husband or a slave husband

2007-09-21 18:23:49 · 15 answers · asked by dorai 1

I wish I could just spill out 1/2 my worries but I won't go on and on, so anyway my husband and I are getting divorced. Turns out he had been seeing someone else for at least 3 mos. before I found out myself, and since I have moved out of the house, he pretty much started moving her in the very day. This has been going on over the past 2 months and we have a baby together, so I have to have some contact with him. After all he's done to me (he moved all my things on the front lawn then told me to come get it, I didn't even get 2 pack my own things, but I came back with cops to go through the house later) not forgetting the intimidation and violence that had increased about the time he started with that whor*....how can I get over this and move on with my life? He obviously has. Without dating so fast, because Ive already made that mistake...

2007-09-21 18:19:15 · 22 answers · asked by Azalea 4

I met my wife over 3 years ago and now married for 2 years. When I met her she mentioned her previous men were quite large but I never thought much of it. Though our marriage never had any intimacy and seemed she was never satsified. Last week she said her previous boy friend was at least 9.5" and I was shocked she told me as though she must be still wanting it. I thought I was ok with 7.5" but now I feel I am wasting my time with her. Would it be true once a woman experienced an endowed man she would always want to go back for it.

2007-09-21 17:55:05 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you finally found out who was the woman your husband had an affair with would you Blast her name?
I finally found out everything about this woman and she also happens to be Married and has decided to make my life hell by calling me and asking me to meet with her becuase she feels the ugre to tell me everything that went on with My husband and her. I decided to meet with her next week but not to hear the details of the relationship just want to see her up close because I have been very currious as to what he saw in her. My husband and I are doing great. But this woman just wont let this thing go so I feel the need for revenge what should I do? should I invite her husband to the meeting since he has no idea till now about the affair. I just feel that an eye for and eys would be fair what my husband and this woman did turned my world upside down for a while and just when I am doing great now she is just relentless after me and feels she has to purge herslef. I need advise what should I do?

2007-09-21 17:19:17 · 38 answers · asked by Sandy 2

2007-09-21 17:04:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have tried to be civil and alow her to start a relationship with my kids but asked her not to have contact with me. Even thou she conctently feels the need to try to control the situation with my ex and my self and kids. Its not her family..right? I told him today that i need a break from the situation, becuase its not going well. It was then turned into "im not alowing him to have the kids because i dont like her". Im confused and sick of hitting my head against the wall. Please offer your advise!

2007-09-21 16:55:45 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I really hate to ask this question but I just like to seek earnest opinions. I must admit I am a very paranoid person and it seems that what had happened back in 2002 to my 2nd ex-gf (and the last) might be happening now :

I have been seeing a gal since last November and for prior to July this year, she has been tremendously patient and tolerant with me despite my negative speculation towards her in the area of guys issue etc. Each and every time she will care to explain to me they mean nothing to her.

For the past 6 weeks she has been extremely busy weeks after weeks such as going for company family outing, going back hometown, attending church camp and thereafter trying to clear her work within 2 weeks with night overtimes so that she could go for 2 weeks holiday in Australia which started on 14th September.

Despite her hectic schedule (which is so rare since I know her), she still keep in touch with me (as both of us are from different country) via text messages.

2007-09-21 16:33:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-21 16:33:20 · 14 answers · asked by "THE DEVIL" 2

My husband has been trying for a few months to start a busisness. We have been living with seperate relitives because my mom can't stand him and his mom's place is to small. Unfortunately he hasn't been working steadily but does earn a bit here and there. We are trying to get back on our feet and together. He is looking for steady employment. We have 3 kids and have been married almost 10 years. Ok so here's my question If your family started telling you that you needed to go after child support to force his hand in getting a steady job what would you think they are saying? I ask because this is what my family is doing to me and when they say that knowing how they feel about him it makes me think like they're trying to tell me to divorce him with out saying it straight out. I'm so hurt by them right now so please don't be judgemental. I love him so much and can't imagine life with out him.

2007-09-21 16:33:08 · 10 answers · asked by renee70466 6

my husband & i had bitter fites in the early marriage days ( an year ago) on trust issues. he was being friendly with people he used to have feelings for, but dint marry/ have an affair as they would not fit into his family( she was of different caste/ nationality). I wasnt comfortable with it, though he was open and frank in telling me all abt it, and also requesting me to forget past. I dint mind his past but was not comfortable with his friendship with them, as i thought he afterall dint chose them bcoz his parents dint want him to ( 2 such girls). Later on, after these fites, we finally came to the agreement that i shudnt worry if its just casual social contact, but he wont cross that line become kind of like close friends. Since them, I hardly am angry , and theres nothing that triggeres any anger in me, marriage has improved a lot. But he simply cant forget the fact that i was quarrelsome in the beginning. Now I can understand that a lot, but somehow it was my weakness,

2007-09-21 16:32:59 · 3 answers · asked by Minerva 1

I raise grey hounds for a living. The other night I came home and fould my wife mounted by Leslie who won the Westminster Dog show in 2004. My wife was moaning like never before. Appearently this is not the first time this has happened. To make matters worse we get $12,000 stud fees and he was scheduled for a session tomorrow. Now that he has done my wife I can't get anything from him tomorrow. What should I do?

2007-09-21 16:30:18 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous