Caught my husband in serious text messaging with a coworker. I kept the cell phone.We have been separated. He swears he does not have a phone. When he picked me up on
the weekend and rode in his car....there was a cell phone
charger plugged in but no phone. He got very defensive and
offended when I asked him if he had a cell phone. He told me
that his sister with whom he lives was cleaning out the garage
and and found this charger and he was testing. He said that
he plugged it in and tested it with an electric meter. It sounds
weird but he usually likes to keep everything and usually tests
every little electronic part. Do you think that he was lying?
I'm too caught up in the emotions to think straight. Please
help.
2007-09-21 18:24:26 · 14 answers · asked by zebra123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What will this solve if you find out or not? Let it go.
2007-09-21 18:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Shell Answer Man 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
LOL, that's a good one. "He had to test the charger." LOL. Not very likely. The likely explanation is that he immediately went out and got a new cell phone. You can't just take a man's cell phone like you're his mother! I think that, if you have children, you need to work on your relationship with a counselor. If you're don't have children, then you need to decide what to do. If you treat him this way -- accusing, nagging, taking -- then I understand why he wouldn't want to be in this relationship, and frankly I wonder why you would want to, either. Dr. Laura Schlesinger wrote a book that might help you, called "The Care and Feeding of Husbands." Basically, it says that you should treat a man so he would WANT to stay, not drive him away. Right now, your behavior seems like you're driving him away.
2007-09-21 19:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hard to know , if he does test every little thing , but why would he even play with a phone charger if he new that is what you split up over a cell , i think you should go with your gutt feeling , they usly are not wrong , he know you know he test stuff , so he could of said it to cover up everything
to all the people who say she is seprated , you are to trust each other and not lie , your working stuff out , if you leave it alone what is the point of sepration , you would just get a divorce , if you want to make it with your husband then you have the rite to know what he is up too , there is no cheating wail seprated , hope what is say helps
2007-09-21 18:31:41 · answer #3 · answered by lil_redmoon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who cell phone you kept? Is this the cell phone for the charger that he "thinks" he lost or doesn't own? If yes, then of course he is lying about a having a cell phone cuz you got it in your possession with text messages as evidence...
You sound like you do not trust him and there are some trust issues big time here.
2007-09-21 18:30:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥JDub♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That sounds like so much BS, I'm sorry, but testing the charger? Okay...He sounds like a liar (being all defensive). I think you should start looking for something to keep you occupied and far away from this loser.
2007-09-21 18:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would not believe him. I would not make a big deal about it but I would point things that seem unusual so he knows I am not stupid. Don't stress about it. If you are separated and he is doing his "thing" you should be a little selfish and focus about yourself. Do things that relax you and make you happy, watch his reaction when he notices that the world does not rotate around him.
2007-09-21 18:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the two and each month as quickly as I get my dwelling house telephone invoice, I ask myself why. i think of three human beings have the quantity. i think of i've got made and gained (finished of the two collectively, suggestions you) 4 calls on it interior the final 6 months. yet nevertheless...I shop it. Why? i don't comprehend...would desire to be some deep seated lack of self belief, lol, some as yet undiagnosed, unnatural emotional attachment to landline telephones? Yeah...phonaphobic separation ailment or something...hmmm...contemplate whether it would qualify me as heavily disturbed sufficient to ditch gainful employment and carry collectively a verify or something? Lol...nah, in all probability not, so i assume i'm going to easily shop paying an exceedingly ineffective invoice each and each month until???
2016-10-19 09:26:41 · answer #7 · answered by thibaud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you separated with him? Because both of you need to cool down, or you already kick him out?
2007-09-21 18:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by marylin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can the charger be tested if it's not attached to a phone?
2007-09-21 18:34:00 · answer #9 · answered by PAULA J 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And you believed him? He go defensive right? started getting angry ? maybe raised his voice to push his point?
Classic signs , get out now before you get serious or suffer like the rest of us women who trusted them .
Sorry for your pain but its reality .he's still texting her and god know's who else.
2007-09-21 18:32:22 · answer #10 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are separated, it's none of your business whether he has a cell phone or not. None of your business!
2007-09-21 18:28:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋