I'm going thru a divorce and he still lives in the house. He goes out every weekend and I try to keep my child from seeing her father either come home late at nite or not return till the next day.
2007-09-21 18:24:48 · 12 answers · asked by Lyzz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she is 11...
2007-09-21 18:34:39 · update #1
U are doing the right thing... BUT THE SOONER the 2 of u separate the better..
This will teach the 11 yr old that it is OK.. to for her b/f, husband to treat her as such..
it is not the way life is suppose to be..
if she sees u allowing it.. then in later years she will see nothing wrong when someone treats her this way..
U need to move on.. and find another place..
u need to have small talks with her.. and let her know that u will always be around.. so she will never feel insecure.. she needs u now more than ever.. even if she doesn't act like it.. in another 3 years.. she will have friends and be going out.. u need a close bond with her..
so she will confind in u.. but u need to start that now..
some one said a divorce didn't bother them... they are very few that can say that..
My son came from a divorce and it has effected him in more ways than one..
So stay close to her.. give her love and ur support.. God bless..
and for heaven sakes u have gotten this far.. plz don't think about taking him back... if he would do this under ur nose,, no telling what he did behind ur back????
2007-09-21 18:47:21 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Blondie ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is the child? If the child is between 0-2 1/2 years, it won't matter. The child is to young to know much of anything except walk and get into stuff. If the child is older, you may have a problem. You could say you and dad are friends and friends don't live together.
2007-09-21 18:31:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore the situation with your soon to be ex. Your daughter sees what is going on so don't be making excuses for him. She will just learn to do the same herself for others acting badly or won't believe anything you say in the future. Explain to her that you both love her and she had nothing to do with the divorce. Sometimes people are not happy and need to live apart.
2007-09-21 18:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Robert J 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u didn't say how old is your child. but if your child is still small trust me, she doesn't care when her father coms home, also she should be sleeping anyway at time he comes. if she is quite grown up u might as well tell her that now u and daddy are divorsing and he is searching for a new mommy. there is nothing wrong with that.
2007-09-21 18:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by yeahright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is never easy for children and you will inevitably pay for it for the rest of your life.
I wish you the best of luck but do not expect it to be easy street, put your child first, pray for the best and prepare for the worst.
2007-09-21 18:29:01 · answer #5 · answered by Wolfie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my parents got a divorce when I was little, and it didn't phase me...It's not a big deal for the child if you ask me...But I suggest a therapist if you can afford one, or let him/her write in a journal about there feelings.
2007-09-21 18:28:12 · answer #6 · answered by Sabby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't about your child's emotions.
It's about the inability of you and your husband to properly separate. Try dealing with that.
2007-09-21 18:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by Secret Agent of God (BWR) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg - i can't imagine being in your situation.. going through a divorce and he still lives with you!! the divorce will affect your daughter for her entire life; it shatters their foundation. i wish to this day, i had worked my marriage out. love her and pray. you cannot control him obviously but you can't hide his behavior either. good luck.
2007-09-21 19:20:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u explain to her that just because mommy and daddy are getting a divorce it doesn't mean thtas either of you are divorcing her and you both will love her forever no matter what
2007-09-21 18:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront him and say either move out or stop staying out so late, for the welfare of the child!! It's your right to do so.
2007-09-21 18:27:10 · answer #10 · answered by MELBA1220 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋