Mine practically ignores me, would rather spends time with his friends, I think that he is cheating. He claims "Turkish men don't cheat," I told him that all men cheat. If he speaks to me it is with a harsh tone. I think that he is just buying his time till he can divorce me and stay in this country. I don't know for sure, but it seems that way by his treatment of me. He is a jerk to me. I am so lonely and depressed.
2007-09-21 19:32:22 · 6 answers · asked by Talent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know quit a bit about Turkish people and that is not the way man treat their woman and you are right all men cheat, it doesn't depend on the nationality. I think you have a reason to worry and to be upset about, sound like he is either cheating or just doesn't love you anymore. Maybe you still love him, so I would advice you to sit down and talk to him, tell him honest what you think and how you feel he is treating you....tell him EVERYTHING that worries you. And depending on his answers and reaction, you probably could find a solution. But don't be upset, don't feel lonely, try to get out there, socialize with people, you will feel better and who knows...maybe you will find somebody who will treat you right and love you back.
2007-09-21 19:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by littlejoelittlejoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what I can gather men are the supremists in Turkey.
Women have rights, but that's all. They are newly legislated (historically speaking) and difficult to enforce.
He was raised thinking women are inferior to men, and that he has the right to dispense punishment at his discretion. There are widespread accounts of women who "disgraced" the family (ie, were raped, were raped and pregnant) being murdered by family members to preserve "family honor".
If all he wants is citizenship, I'd look into what needs to be done to complete the process. I'd take my name off joint accounts. I'd keep my finances separate, and contribute half of the living expenses.
Start making a plan that accomplishes his goal and then lets you OUT.
Cultural differences in marriages are often deal breakers.
He doesn't think like you, he isn't going to think like you.
There will never be anything wrong in the fact that he married you to be in your country. There will never be anything wrong should he decide to have relationships with other women. (He isn't cheating he is excercising his right.) There will never be anything wrong should he choose to abuse you.
Do your budget, put the car in the shop so it's in good running condition, start paying down your debt, and make a good plan for living on your own.
Sorry for your trouble, dear.
Next time you might want to just marry a national. Saves a lot of trouble.
2007-09-21 22:26:53 · answer #2 · answered by Puresnow 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Men of the middle east treat women as scum basically.
You need to check on laws concerning you marriage.
If you are an american woman married to a man from the mid-east,you may not be a U.S. citizen anymore,but a citizen of Turkey.
The U.S. has treaties with mid east countries that surrender a U.S. womans citizenship to the husbands home country when they get married and their marriage is governed by his country.
Any children born are citizens of his country also.
Many mid east men take american wives and live in the U.S. until the wives get tired of the way they are treated and the men take the kids to their homeland.
You would be wise to find out now and if necessary,get out of the marriage.
2007-09-21 19:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're a jerk to him too.
He claims "Turkish men don't cheat," I told him that all men cheat.
You just called him a liar. And me a cheater. I've never done it. Had it done to me 3 times.
2007-09-21 21:32:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turkish men (as well as many other from that part of the world) view women as second class citizens and believe they owe them no explanation.... as far as cheating ...what a joke... they not only cheat with other women but also see nothing wrong with sex with another man.... in his eyes you are his property just like a dog would be... screw him.... divorce him while you have any sanity left.... your life can only be miserable with him.
2007-09-21 19:44:35 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its hard to say if he is cheating on you or if he loves you. But he certainly doesn't RESPECT you and that says alot. Tell him things need to change or you are gone. Atleast give him a warning that he is losing you.
2007-09-21 19:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by Ryno 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
divorce him now so he can go home. . . where he belongs. and he can marry a turkish woman who will take his bull**** and verbal abuse. you, on the other hand, find a good man who will treat you with tenderness and respect.
2007-09-21 19:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
So why do you want to stay in this marriage?
You should be happier in a relationship than you are out of it, and it sounds like he is making you unhappy. It also sounds like he is using you. Divorce him and find someone who loves you.
2007-09-21 19:36:23 · answer #8 · answered by ne0h0taru 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋