Im hurting. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me hald a year ago and it was really painful for me. He was always contacting me even after the break up and was telling me that maybe in the future we can get back together but he doesn't want to continue our long-distance relationship for now. It was difficult for me to know what he really wants because he was always very upset if I told him that I am going to stop all communication with him. I went to see him a month ago and it was very nice and he was with me as if we are still together but then he told me we need to move on at least for now. I was devastated. About a week ago, I told him final good bye but he contacted me again telling me it's too hard. He asked me if I didn't want to save anything and break everything by walking away and cutting all communication. Since then I have taken his words seriously and did not manage to cut all communication. But now when I ask him to talk, he gets all stressed and says he is too tired from work.
2007-09-21 23:37:18 · 13 answers · asked by Elisa N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I asked him to talk yesterday as I needed to talk, some clarity, I have been struggling really hard but when he called me he said he is too tired from work and I only put more pressure on him and he doesn't want to spend his time on the phone and he finished the conversation so fast. I am so down about this. What can I do? I thought he didn't want to loose me but now he acts as if he doesn't care. He didnt even call me back since yesterday.
2007-09-21 23:38:58 · update #1
Your ex- is manipulating you. Please don't let him control you like that, and undermine your self-esteem.
Move along, and find someone who can value what you have to offer.
Best of luck . . .
2007-09-21 23:43:41 · answer #1 · answered by AgonyAuntie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let this jerk on an ego trip trick you into being his sex-friend or call you again. You dated him, he ended it and his warped little ego is now wanting to screw with your feelings and make sure he can get an emotional response from you. He doesn't sound like a nice person, you don't want this pig in your future, his hobbies are messing with women's feelings when he broke up with them and he likes women to cry and I wouldn't be surprized if when he isn't doing that he is getting drunk and molesting farm animals. Believe me, I know what I am talking about. There is a jerk across the street who tried to get me interested in him and when he thought I was hooked he made sure I saw his "just friends" spending the night over at his house. He got a shock from me when I found out a few of his flozzies did drugs and I had been taking down their license plate numbers for my police friends. Those bar witches soon parked on another street so I couldn't see they were around. Please don't ever let a man mess with your feelings. You are better off alone and if I were your sister and answered the phone when he called I would have a few things to say to him that would fry the hair on his rump! Love yourself, move on, the kindest thing he even did for you is end it, change your phone number. Tell him to contact flirtysheep@farmsex.com and find yourself nice people who would appreciate you and be considerate of your feelings and hope that I don't run into this ex of yours. Many blessings.
2007-09-21 23:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by sliverofmoon2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship is dead. The guy is just hedging his bets, keeping you hanging on and giving you false hope that you will get back together. If he loved you he would not do this, if he loved you he would not risk the relationship by breaking up and getting back all the time. He doesn't want to end all communication because that way you would move on and he would have no control over you anymore. Please change your number, do not contact this man, he has made his feelings clear, if he wanted you he would be with you. Walk away now. Be strong.
2007-09-22 00:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by Willow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you are both hanging on to a relationship that has really ended. In time you will be happier but you need to make a clean break for the healing to begin.
2007-09-21 23:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Badgerlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon all he wants is in your pants. he doesn't care about you. and don't keep believing him when he says it's hard on him. it seems to me that he isn't thinking about you. he is giveing too many excusses. dump him and hold your head up and move on. if he calls be nice and say i can't do this anymore and have a good life. he will try to get you back because you give him a challenge. but stand your ground and break up with him.
2007-09-22 02:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, he sounds like he is playing with your heart. One minute he wants you the next he doesnt, that doesnt sound like love to me. You need to stick to what you said, stop talking to him. I know you think you love him but seriously, think, if he loved you like he said, would he constantly change in how he acts towards you? He wouldnt, he would say one thing and stick by it. Ask yourself this too, are you happy in this situation or is it causing you difficulty? If it is then i think that is a sign to move on. So for your own sake move on, stop all contact with him and go out with your friends and focus on yourself. Like i said before, a relationship is not supposed to consume our lives it is supposed to compliment it. So if it feels wrong, then it probably is, please move on for your own sake.
2007-09-21 23:49:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously the guy doesn,t want to let you down badly. You really need to finish this and move on.
2007-09-21 23:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you have anything, anything at all that you can break over his head since he wants a "break?"
2007-09-22 00:35:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not decided whether to let you go or keep you. Make him decide and it should be final.
2007-09-21 23:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right ,move on .It may hurt but this is over.
2007-09-21 23:46:08 · answer #10 · answered by Eminence Vox 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋