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dorai
S Please clarify my doubt.?
my marriage is love marriage, 3 years back i got married, my wife doesn't know cooking and al. so i started cooking, washing, pressing her legs and all householding words. Because i love her very much. before going to office i finish every thing. my friends are calling me as 'wife's servant' (some are doing all household works in their homes, but they are not kicked by their wives). what to do now, don't advice me to divorce. i like to do anything for her. i like to be a servant to her. i am happy to be kicked by her. am i a great husband or a slave husband

i don't want to beat her and i can't
sometimes i search the way how to escape from her kicks

i knew that she doesn't know cooking before marriage

she started beating me beofore marriage

if she comes to know that i put this question in net, i will be admitted in an orthopeadic hospital immediately

Answer 1

I think you urgently need an injection of testosterone and your wife needs a shot of estrogen.

If you cant be a man and are happy to be a slave to your wife you dont need strangers to encourage your strange behaviour.

I think you and your wife need to go to a psychiatrist and get counselling urgently before the role reversal becomes permanent.

I think you may have been sexually abused by a woman at a young age and enjoyed the experience and this may be encouraging you to keep getting abused at the hands of a female and you derive some kind of perverse pleasure from this strange behaviour of yours.

There are some women who feel the proper role of a husband is to be a slave to his wife, and such women may find nothing strange in your behaviour and may in fact appreciate your behaviour because this is what they expect from men but please note that your behaviour is strange for a man and you need to get professional advice on the reasons for your behaviour. You have atleast realised atleast partly that what you are doing is not right otherwise you would not have asked this question, so go to psychiatrist and ask him for a complete evaluation of your mind.

Answer 2

If you still call your marriage a Happy one then be it. I am sorry for you. As being a husband there is nothing wrong in working in your home but the responsibilities are to be shared by both the partners. If she cannot cook; that's ok but you are doing all the other work, including going out to earn, and getting kicked too. Buddy there is something seriously very wrong in your relationship. There is no respect for you and your wife has become a controlling, idle freak (sorry to say that), explain her the fact. Do not be a slave, I do not know if you have kids or not but in this condition if you have kids your life will be a living hell. After few years your children too would find an obedient slave in you and surely you would be doing everything for your LOVE to them.

They say..(Chinese proverb) if you give a man a fish he will be happy for a day, but instead you teach him to catch a fish he will be happy for his life.

You call it a love marriage...well, I see no love for you from your wife. May be after sometime she will venture out to find a `real man' as your behavior will not be suitable for a controlling woman like that.

Wake up...there is still time.

Answer 3

There is a great book called The 5 love languages. In it is describes the basic ways we show love to one another and from what you said your language is acts of service! You are a rare husband! If it makes you happy to do these things for your wife then do it and ignore your friends. Now if your wife is kicking you then you need to put an end to that. We call that abuse here. Now you need to figure out what her language is and learn to speak it. Does she like gifts, or maybe touch, words of affirmation and the last quality time. Just because you show love by helping her doesn't mean she understands it that way.

Answer 4

hi

Such husbands are very rare.....but u know in life its always that the person whom you love the most should take care of you as much as u do or else it hurts a lot .. don't worry some day even Ur wife will surely realise ur care and love you a lot..The only mistake you have done is telling what happens at home to your friends who don't understand you..now stop telling all that to Ur friends.

Answer 5

You are a great husband.If you are happy in this relationship then theres no stopping you.Its your life.If you dont mind,i also think that she is treating you as a slave.Why do you have to press her legs when you are doing the household work?I think you are crazy for this woman & she knows this & she's taking advantage of it.If you dont like your friends comment then just ignore it.I just want to say this,DONT LOOSE YOUR SELF RESPECT.

Answer 6

I know the right adjective to describe you, but I am already tired of Violation Notice Emails.
But you are still that. Did not you know during courtship that she does not know cooking, or were you seeing a live organic girl for the first time in your life??
Your friends deserve to be lexicographers in Oxford panel. They know what word means what exactly.
I, unfortunately, have no sympathy for you.

Answer 7

U love ur wife and she allows u to love her.
People say u r ur wife's servant, think will she allow a servant to love her??
Kicking: tell her she is not kicking u but a football, she will stop kicking you ok!!
If she stops, then post it on yahoo answers for others to learn.
Don't forget to show her (your wife) all the answers

Answer 8

Dear,
U keep doing what satisfies u,that is serving yr wife.I will not ask u 2 divorce her,but atleast request her 2 make u lye in the bed and take care of rest of things.

Answer 9

Both but as long as you are happy doing this and being treated this way, so be it. It is your life. Most people live miserable lives. If you are happy who is other people to tell you differently.

Answer 10

JUST DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR FRIENDS AT ALL. If both of you are happy, thats enough. If you find household difficult alone, your wife will definitely share your load. wait and see.