Marriage & Divorce - 21 September 2007

My husband treats me like a child-yelling at me in front of the kids.He throws stuff at me-shoe,couch,rocking chair-never spends time with me or the kids. I hate it/him?! I actually looked up how much he would have to pay in child support-looked it up mths ago. We argued tonight about me only paying a bill $80 instead of $100 that he told me too and said that I always never listen to him. I just wanted to have $20 in the bank(broke). So I left him a note for when he comes home saying....... " Don't p*ss me off or else you'll be-alone- have no car - have to travel 5hrs away to see your kids - have no house cause I'd take half - and have to pay me $700+ a mth for child support and possibly alamony so be nice :) " And yes the smily is there too. Am I being mean. Should I forget about it. I'm just sometimes tired of being stepped on by my own husband:(

2007-09-21 16:23:09 · 21 answers · asked by Marge 5

I love her. I don't know what to do. Should I respect her wishes or do I do whatever I can to get her to stay. We live together in our new place, so if she moves out I have to move as well because I won't be able to afford it. I have helped raise her two yr old son for a year so there is more than just the two of us. Please help. Feel free to ask questions if you need more information.

2007-09-21 16:19:44 · 17 answers · asked by Ryno 1

I know this is a strange question to be asking complete strangers but Im going to go for it.Ive been dating my boyfriend for only a few months. See we were friends for a month and then we decided to do the relationship deal, I relationship is wonderful and very loving, Its just since a few weeks after I met him I knew I wanted to marry him. And that hasnt changed.But for him he says he loves me and wants to marry me but he just isnt ready yet.I thought if you loved someone as much as he says he does then you would want to be married to them.And he is a marine and will deploy in March.And I moved and we are three hours apart.I just want to be with him all the time so by marrying him we will live together. He just doesnt see it my way, he says he just isnt ready. What should I think , or do? Should i say you have to marry me or you have to go? No I dont think thats right.But Im so anxious and just want to jump into it. What do you all think?

2007-09-21 16:13:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have always been open about everything. We always made sure we went out one night a week, (time to ourselves). Took many vacations. We both work hard, and my husband and his Father own a well-known Construction company. Money isn't really the factor. Does anyone ever have enough? My husband got involved with drugs about 8 years ago,(his Father has always got him out of everything). He was put on probation, and then it was revoked. He had to do a 120 treatment program. Since then he doesn't want to work, be with his family, (he was always a family man), he wants sex when he wants it. Never like it use to be. I never thought that would be a problem in our marriage. I do all the maintance on our cars, as far as taking them to a mechanic, work all the time for a large pharmaciticual co., and he chooses to hand around his dad's farm house. I feel like my life is wasting away. I've been approached by a few men. Never thought about cheating either. Now I don't no?

2007-09-21 16:05:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

we met online,dated two month . then she got pergnant. she though marriage was the only way it would work, so i did cause i was trying to do the right thing. everthing went well for a few month after that we argued alot . we got in a big fight now we are going through a divorce. should we have tryed to work it out or are we doing the right thing?

2007-09-21 16:02:54 · 7 answers · asked by michaelpz76 2

i have the chance to see mine after 14 years tomorrow only thing is i am married

2007-09-21 15:55:17 · 18 answers · asked by lifeiscrazy 1

if you had the chance after years and years married or not married single or not single would you want to see them and why???

2007-09-21 15:49:24 · 20 answers · asked by lifeiscrazy 1

2007-09-21 15:48:14 · 16 answers · asked by misscantbetold 2

What does it mean when he says you can contact old freinds?

2007-09-21 15:47:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

When you know the other person doesn't love you anymore, why do you stay in that relationship? Is it because you think you can win them over? I think once the love is gone, it's gone. They might still have feelings for you based on all the shared history, but I really think the *love* is gone for good.

2007-09-21 15:36:51 · 11 answers · asked by Fluffster1 3

It was a muntual agreed upon breackup and we made it as peaceful as can be. She just sold a house and says that she needs to pay other bills with it. She is going to give me $200 tomorrow and $100 a month and then said she will have it paid off bt February. What do you think of this?

2007-09-21 15:32:16 · 28 answers · asked by tony r 3

ok i am married with two kids and i love my hubby but not in love and he is a good dad and tries to provide for us but here it goes i have never stopped loving my first love and i found him back in march on the computer and we have talked on here since well he found out his wife was cheating and just up and left tonight and his family is from the area and he wants to see me after 14 1/2 years and i want to see him so do i or stay away do i trust myslef or not and by the way i am fat fat fat now and that bothers me so what to do please dont be to hard on me

2007-09-21 15:29:06 · 19 answers · asked by lifeiscrazy 1

My boyfriend watches porn. Big deal right? Well for some reason it really bothers me. For a few reasons...
1. today I got into my car and noticed on the passengers seat he had left things he took out of his pocket, like his bank receipt, a receipt from getting gas and a "porn" picture he had printed at work.
2. He says we don't have sex much because he only likes sex when he's in the "want to rip off your clothes mood" and that his sex drive has just gone down. But I don't understand then- why he looks at porn almost every day & gets off(or at least it seems that way).
Does he have a problem? Or do I have the problem? I've never had a serious relationship where the guy was into a lot of porn once we got together (at least not that i was aware of- i know they looked at it sometimes.. just not ALL the time)
And it's not that he's downloading tons of porn movies to watch- he just gets pictures- but his 'hidden' folder on his pc on porn pictures has like 1100 in it.

2007-09-21 15:28:18 · 16 answers · asked by Amy Clark 5

why does my husband seem to only want me when he wants sex? is that a guy thing? i try to talk with him and he ignores me or changes the subject....i ask him to help me with things..he doesn't.....i try and do things as a family (me him and our 20month old daughter) and he would rather be playing pool with his friends or working....i feel as if he works to drown out life...but it never fails...we can have a horrible day..fight (verbally of course) just things are horrible but as soon as its bed time and we get in our room he is all over me trying to have sex......90% of the time it makes me so mad that i roll over and go to sleep...but other times i just lay there and get it over with b/c i know he wont leave me alone........am i in the wrong for not wanting to have sex with him on his every becon call? or is he just being selfish and using me for his sexual needs?

2007-09-21 15:21:51 · 24 answers · asked by jewelry lady! love my job 3

For fun question: If you had to choose for you and your spouse between being; A) a buxum wife with a husband with a small penis, or B) small chested wife with a well endowed husband, what would you choose?

2007-09-21 15:19:56 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

really wants out of that same sh*tty marriage? I have read so much about what the shrinks call "exit afairs". Self explanatory I think. They dont know how else to end the marriage, so they destroy it. My husband had an affair, and I am trying hard to determine if he would have rather I kicked him out instead of teling him we can try again and try to save what little is left of our marriage. He has bent over backwards to prove his remorse and intent to want it to work, but who knows about that, he lied for 5 months while he was banging some other woman. I just dont know what the truth is anymore. Somtmes I think I should just let him go, and other times I think he made a VERY poor choice when he was faced with a failing marriage, instead of just telling me he wasnt happy. is it possible unhappy marriages can drive men to cheat? and if the issues are worked out, the marriage can survive w/o future infidelity? I'm confused.

2007-09-21 15:07:27 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

to be 20years old and still live with your parents

2007-09-21 15:04:24 · 62 answers · asked by Chris l 1

2007-09-21 14:58:29 · 13 answers · asked by mommy2two 2

The woman has a Masters Degree and the man is a High School drop out. That is extreme, meaning they are at the end of each spectrum. People I know are have gotten divorced because of differences, egos and power struggles. (My sister, coworkers and some friends). What is the current research or statistics of unequal education in marriages and the divorce rate? Does anyone know?

2007-09-21 14:52:08 · 12 answers · asked by LAgirl 3

I was told that I waited too long to attempt to collect the 5 years worth of maintenece my ex was supposed to pay me. He never paid me a dime. At the time I was meek and mild and did not like to stand up for myself against him. Now I am good and peeved and want was was ordered by the courts. I cannot believe that too much time has passed, as I was married to the man for over 20 years. I reside in the state of NY. Any help would be appreciated.

2007-09-21 14:35:18 · 5 answers · asked by sheila m 1

My husband is a good man but very interested in his computer games and playstations and things of that nature. He would rather sit at the computer all day that to spend time with me and our 4 and a half month old daughter. I feel bad just telling him not to play so much because he is in school to be a game designer. I feel lonely and have tried everything I can think of to get him to pay more attention to us. Im scared that our daughter will wind up thinking her grandfather is her daddy because hes the one that helps me with her the most because of her daddy being on the computer so much... what should i do??? Please help me!

2007-09-21 14:35:12 · 11 answers · asked by sheena0501 2

I am not sure if thats normal I got that way after I had our two kids. And I feel just awfull about it. And thats not far to him at all.

2007-09-21 14:35:09 · 13 answers · asked by karrie c 1

I have been married 10 yrs and have 2 healthy boys although we decided not to have another child it has been on my mide lately. My yougest is 27 months,and i'm only 31 DH is 37, and money we can afford it trust fund left for the kids he keeps saying no, how can i convince him otherwise?

2007-09-21 14:25:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

ok me and my husband have been having problems for a while and i have been wanting to leave cause we dont get along. we have alittle girl also. anyways things went worse when he started another job and made some single guy friends then he started to stay out late blah blah. i left to go on a break from him for 5 weeks, when i came back things were great tell i found out that he was joining single sites. then he was staying out late tell 430-6 am and lie about it. he just lies about EVERYTHING! it drives me crazy, he smoked weed AT WORK with his stuiped buddys and i cought him cheating on me. oh and he can get violent also. anyways i lived far away from my family and was waiting to move so i could leave or see how things go between us. we are here with my parents and i just have major trust issues with him cause the cheating and staying out late happened like 3-4 weeks ago. he gets mad cause i have trust issues with him. oh i have seen him tell girls to lift up there ..................

2007-09-21 14:10:24 · 12 answers · asked by kitty 1

what would you do if you where married to a man that was lazy,dont listen,always making bad choices that effect the family in a bad way,never cleans up after him self,very disrespect,and cant hold a job to save his life,never can admit when he is wrong,and thinks he only have to listen to you if you have a degree.should i leave him or should i stay because he is my husband?

2007-09-21 14:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married for around a year now. The other day I got a speeding ticket for around 15mph over, my wife was furious she told me when she got home she was going to teach me a lesson. She ended up spanking me very hard with her hand. Most recently we were at a movie theater and I keep answering my cell phone and talking even when she told me not too. She made me put some kind of creme on my butt and instantly it started to burn badly. Is this normal I love my wife alot and we get along well. Is this something that I should divorce over?
Thanks for any answers

2007-09-21 14:03:54 · 22 answers · asked by soccerguy252004 1

About four monthes ago I found out that my husband cheated on me with the same girl for 2 years. I was sick when I found out. He said he told me because he relized that he had made a mistake. (whatever) Durung these past four months he has been calling her and she calling him. Then she started calling me and harassing me. When my husband found out he told her that it was over and to stop calling us and then he changed his phone number so I thought everything would go back how it was. Couple a weeks ago I looked on his phone and he had called her again I didn't say nothing to him just slapped him up side the head as hard as I could. He said he called to tell her good luck in life. (whatever).. Anyway I decided to forgive him in a way but I just can't stop thinking about what he did how do I get over it I want to be normal again. Four long months of pain can't take it anymore..

2007-09-21 14:01:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

they have her husbands name that she was married to then .my husband has never saw these children can she do this after all these years just out of the blue.is this legal after they have carried his name[ her husbands at the time] all this time. and his name is on the birth certifate also. they didnt know about him [my husband] until this year july 2007

2007-09-21 13:56:13 · 20 answers · asked by papsladie 1

My parents never approved of him because he drinks and rides motorcycles. I moved in with him and his parents when I turned 18. Now I'm engaged to be married next month. My parents found out from my friends. My dad said he would never be welcome at his house, and told me if I married him he didnt want to see me again. No one approves of me marring him. He's not welcome at none of my families homes. No one approves of him except me and some of my friends. What should I do. Dad says blood is thicker than water, and that I should never turn my back on my family and thats what I've done all summer. Will they come around if I get married and accept him. Should I get married or not? Help me please.

2007-09-21 13:54:02 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Someone who is such a coward and a jerk, that they can't "man up" and TELL you that they want to go out and have a few drinks with their friends. NOOOOOOOOOO, they have to pick a fight with you, to make it look like they have a good reason for leaving.
I don't have a problem with him going out occasionally, but God!!
Friggin' grow a pair, and be honest!

2007-09-21 13:39:29 · 25 answers · asked by Ms. GTO 7