they have her husbands name that she was married to then .my husband has never saw these children can she do this after all these years just out of the blue.is this legal after they have carried his name[ her husbands at the time] all this time. and his name is on the birth certifate also. they didnt know about him [my husband] until this year july 2007
2007-09-21 13:56:13 · 20 answers · asked by papsladie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At 18 your husband would not be responsible for child support anyway. What is your question? I would think that these children would like to make sure of their medical history now that they are adults. You can not get retroactive child support for the previous 18 years if that is what you are worried about. DNA tests can prove who the biological father is.
2007-09-21 14:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
So basically she lied. Somewhere along the way, she had an affair behind her husband's back - twice - and got pregnant - twice - and then lied and said that those two kids were his when they really weren't.
First of all, you will have to find out what your laws are where you are - because her husband's name is listed on the birth certificates, "legally" he is the father, if not "biologically".
Both she and her husband will have to request DNA testing to prove otherwise. By law, from what I understand in my area, your husband has no "legal" obligation to pay for anything for those kids - legally, the two parents listed on the birth certificate are the ones responsible.
Look into the laws in your area - maybe find a lawyer or even legal aide to assist you - and find out for sure.
As for if your husband wants to get to know those children, that's between him and the kids - No One Else. Just support him and his decision.
Yes, he did have an affair - was he married to you at the time? Or are you saying he had an affair because he was with a married woman? If you two have a strong relationship, support him and work things through with him as best as you can.
Seek marriage and possibly even family counseling to help you all get past this hurdle - if you can - and move forward in your lives.
Best Wishes.
2007-09-21 21:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are they wanting some kind of support? If not, the mother may have felt bad about lying to her children for about something so important. My husband is adopted. Although he has always know, his adoptive parents (especially his mother) never wanted him to meet his biological parents because they felt he wouldn't love them the same after that. I doubt any court would order any kind of monetary award for them, and I know this is a slap in your face, but if these children are a part of him and you love him, allow him to have whatever kind of relationship they would like. My husband met his biological mother and 6 half sisters and all but one live within an hours drive from us. We see his birth mom occassionally, and maybe some of his sisters once a year. The biggest obstacle for his birth mom was telling his 1/2 sisters, they didn't know about him at all.
This doesn't have to be the end of your world.
Good luck!
2007-09-21 21:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happened 18 years ago, then the children are adults. They have a right to know their biological father.
Sucks to be your husband though. Doing things with a married woman somehow seems to come back and bite ya in the @ss! Even after almost 2 decades.
2007-09-21 21:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by Elt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depends on what she's trying to do.
If she's looking for money then you'll have to roll the dice and go for a paternity test.
That being said there is precedence for a situation where the 'father' has been caring for the children and he has been court ordered to continue regardless of who the biological parent is.
Don't screw with this one. Get a lawyer. Makes me wonder if she's getting divorced.
2007-09-21 21:01:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well my advice to you is to ask the woman to get the children and your husband a blood test. Legally if they share the same blood line he has to atleast give child support. If she does not agree to get the paternity test then consider it not being his. BUT, if she agrees to give the children the test then I feel that he should be in his childrens life....... more then just financially. But this is something that you and your husband should really sit down and discuss!
2007-09-21 21:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by JustaThought 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Paternity Tests
2007-09-21 21:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by JG 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't about a name, it is about DNA. Pay the fee to have the DNA done and find out the truth. If they are his, he may need to pay child support, yes, after all this time.
Her current husband has been nice enough to be a step dad all these years he probably is angry too.
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2007-09-21 21:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes she can do this legally out of the blue...I suggest your husband get a DNA test and a lawyer...he could be liable for back child support.
2007-09-21 23:25:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband can do nothing. Non of that stuff matters except the fact that he is the father (if it's proven). That's what you get for having no morals and disrespecting your spouse. Consequences.
2007-09-21 21:05:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋