I have been married 10 yrs and have 2 healthy boys although we decided not to have another child it has been on my mide lately. My yougest is 27 months,and i'm only 31 DH is 37, and money we can afford it trust fund left for the kids he keeps saying no, how can i convince him otherwise?
2007-09-21 14:25:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he is feeling middle age creeping up on him and doesn't want to have another child when he will be too old to play football, baseball...etc. with them. If he has valid reasons for not wanting another child, why do you want to force the issue? I understand the maternal instinct...especially when the baby is almost two..now is when our bodies crave a little one. But honestly, if its going to create an issue with your husband, you shouldn't push it.
2007-09-21 14:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to him until you are blue in the face BUT if it was me, I would be going snip, snip just to make sure I didn't get anyone pregnant again. (I did do that after our third child) You need to understand that you should keep to even numbers when it comes to kids. 2, 4, or 6 but that way everyone has a partner. Odd numbers are not easy since someone is always left out. I would have had a 4th if I had of known then what I know now. BUT I also may have just stopped with 2. Talking together is all I can say. Good Luck but I don't think you will change his mind.
2007-09-21 14:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really two is enough in this day and age, but I think I see your point of view you want a little girl! But the chances are 50/50 are you going to be disappointed if it isn't? And Your children are young and your husband just probably wants to settle down, raise these children and have you back. But I may be wrong all the way around, but give it some time, and maybe you and him can talk about it another time in the future.
2007-09-21 14:44:39 · answer #3 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give it a rest for a while. You have two young children to focus on already. You can't change his mind anyway. Maybe after some time (and I don't mean wait 2 days), bring the subject up again to see if he has changed his mind. If this is really a big issue, go to counseling.
2007-09-21 14:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because he is fifty percent of the equation. As you have certain rights so does he. He may feel that two are enough to care for, and not want the additional responsibility. Remember as you are not a brood mare, he is not just a stud.
2007-09-21 14:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Beau R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered respecting his feelings? Maybe he would like to have his WIFE back!
Why should you decide? Please take the time to read a book called the Proper Care and Feedings of Husbands.
You cannot control or change anyone.
2007-09-21 14:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tadpoler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man lucky you.i've been trying to convince my husband for a year now to wait till i finish school to have kids.
2007-09-21 17:42:57 · answer #7 · answered by Meow4Moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to him about it and see if maybe when things get to a better place you have more money you could try to have another one
2007-09-21 14:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree.You've got your hands full already.Wait.
2007-09-21 14:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋