I love her. I don't know what to do. Should I respect her wishes or do I do whatever I can to get her to stay. We live together in our new place, so if she moves out I have to move as well because I won't be able to afford it. I have helped raise her two yr old son for a year so there is more than just the two of us. Please help. Feel free to ask questions if you need more information.
2007-09-21 16:19:44 · 17 answers · asked by Ryno 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you love something set it free. If it comes back to you, it is yours. If it doesn't, it never was...I feel that is so true. Free her up for awhile and see what happens.. Marriage that starts on shakey ground, will not hold up as a rule.. Better to let her spread her wings now than end up married and miserable and then go through a nasty, costly divorce..
2007-09-21 16:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her move out and you go find a place you can afford.
The split will be hard for her son.
What is it she thinks she needs to find out about herself that she doesn't already know?
It is better that the relationship ends now before you get married,than to wait until after marriage to find out the relationship sucks and then you have to deal with divorce issues.
2007-09-21 16:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ralph T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have questions. Is your penis small? Poorly endowed men often become surrogate fathers as they feel a need to compensate for their inadequacy, ie by being a father where a father is needed. Have you asked her about what things she needs to find out about herself? Likely she is curious about how much more sexual satisfaction larger men can give her than you. I think you should do all you can to keep her. This baby needs a father. Tell her you are open to the idea of threesomes with another man. Nothing would demonstrate your love and commitment to her more than that. She is never going to lust after you or respect you as a sexually competent man, but her love for your understanding and accepting nature will never die. She sounds like a good woman, it would be a shame if she got away.
2007-09-21 16:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you do whatever you can to get her to stay, then you have been successfully emotionally blackmailed. One success will open you up to it forever. Whenever she wants something, all she has to do is threaten to leave.
My feeling is that she wants to see other people. Respect her wishes, but don't count on her coming back. If she respected your wishes , she wouldn't be moving out against your wishes. She, therefore, is looking after herself first. There is nothing wrong with that but you should be doing the same.
2007-09-21 16:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is she trying to find out? Talk with her find out more. Does she want to date other peopl or just need some space. I woundnt fight with her to make her stay. No matter what u say she has to make her own deciosion on what she wants in life even if it doesnt invlove u, no mater how much u love her . Her decision will give u the opportunity to decide what u need to do. Is she getting cold feet?
2007-09-21 16:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by louise23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 03:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't force her to stay, nor can you force her to love you.
She wants out and she thinks she is being kind by letting you down softly. But, mark my words, she wants out. And I'd even be so bold as to say she has met someone new.
I'm sorry but in time I think you will find I am right.
You sound like a super nice man. You will find someone who will love you back and want to spend the rest of her life with you. But this girl isn't the one.
2007-09-21 16:30:20 · answer #7 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
discuss with her about your relationship. is "finding some things out about herself" for good or she just needs space for a time being? this will know where you stand. if she wants to move out for good, then let her go. if you cling on to her, you will end up in misery for both of you will be trapped in a hopeless relationship. if she wants to move out for a certain short period of time, then, make use of your temporary separation as a time to involve yourself in other more productive activities so you won't dwell much in your "breathing period"..or you can make that as a reflection period too to think things over if indeed you are meant for each other.
2007-09-21 17:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by stel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,but being a woman she wants out of the relationship. It is a standard technique. Hold on to your pride and let her go. Lick your wounds for a short time and then move on. There is someone out there for you. Trying to hold on to someone who does not want you, is not good for you or her or the child. Life is short,there is joy,happiness and love out there for you. Sadly sometimes it takes a bit of sadness and rejection to find it. Good luck. Prayers are with you.
2007-09-21 16:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by martinmartinjm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her go, she seems immature and not ready for a relationship. At least let her grow up a little. You will find the perfect place to live.
2007-09-21 16:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by silvergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋