I am not sure if thats normal I got that way after I had our two kids. And I feel just awfull about it. And thats not far to him at all.
2007-09-21 14:35:09 · 13 answers · asked by karrie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry to have to say this, but you seem to be a typical western female!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-09-21 16:40:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been married? Part of it is normal, but you have to get back what you felt for him in the first place, you need to talk, tell him how you feel, and it is okay to feel awful about it, Life take its tole on being a mother, everyone pulling in different directions, and you are tired, and just really don't want sex, and you are probably thinking if someone helped me out I wouldn't be so tired. Give it some time, and make suggestions and maybe things will get better.
2007-09-21 14:49:38 · answer #2 · answered by flannelpajamas1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right that is not fair to him. When he is having sex with you, he knows that you're not into it. How do you think that makes him feel? If you don't make him feel like a man and feel good about himself, he will go somewhere else. I wouldn't blame him. So what you have two kids, get those kids under some type of schedule so that you won't be so tired. What you don't do to your husband another woman will be happy to do it plus more. If you want him to have an affair, keep it up.
2007-09-21 15:19:13 · answer #3 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Yes, Yes. It happens a lot with women. It will take a while but you should come out of it after some time. Talk to him about a fantasy weekend without the kids and more foreplay. You hormones should return to normal along with your sex drive. Evaluate if he is doing things you like to turn you on or is he just jumping on and off. You may need to tell him to slow down because your motor is cold. It may take more to heat it up for a while and to take his time with the foreplay. There are many contributing factors but hang in there and things should get better.
2007-09-21 14:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW, that hurts, and sounds familar!! You didn't say your age, but I'm guessing, your sex life sould be at its peak, not over!! You better go the Dr., and find out whats wrong before he takes himself else where. Most men (me), thrive to have an active participant in their bed!! If you're bored, he'll think its his fault and withdraw from you, until some young lil gal comes along!! you know what I mean!! Quit whinning, get help, get you life going again!!!
2007-09-21 14:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it physical or emotional?
If it's emotional, there may be a good reason for it. Maybe deep down you don't feel sexy to yourself. Perhaps you just see yourself as a mom now, and you think moms can't be sexy.
Do something for yourself to make you feel more attractive to yourself. Buy some new outfits or something.
Your husband probably still finds you attractive and sexy, so do someithing that helps you feel that way about yourself.
2007-09-21 14:45:31 · answer #6 · answered by derek1079 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've fallen into what I call "the mommy rut". You and your husband need to have a weekend alone, no kids allowed, book a room in a motel and just enjoy wining and dining and getting to know one another all over again.
2007-09-21 16:12:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not fair to him. You just gotta find something that make you feel sexy and sexual again. Maybe, try a doctor. You may be having a female problem. I got that way too. I hated it with a passion. I loved him so much, but I hated when he touched me. Have you gained weight?What are you eating? Try asking a doctor or a nurse.
2007-09-21 14:44:21 · answer #8 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it could be because you're tired,does your husband help you with the kids? or maybe you're just not in the mood when he wants you to be,I wouldn't worry about it,unless it's been some yrs since you had the kids,not unusual to feel that way sometimes,I'd say it's a problem if it's all the time that you feel this way:)
2007-09-21 14:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's normal.I went through that too.It's called hormones.
2007-09-21 14:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by lollypop 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should visit your ob/gyn doctor.
2007-09-21 14:42:09 · answer #11 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋