if you had the chance after years and years married or not married single or not single would you want to see them and why???
2007-09-21 15:49:24 · 20 answers · asked by lifeiscrazy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I did actually & simply because he was the only person I loved. I recently wrote about my love story after 10+ yrs...ur welcome to check it out :)
2007-09-21 15:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by gmg2 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh yea! I got a divorce in 2000 and I was engaged to marry the love of my life in 1964. We broke it off only months after the engagement, never to see or speak again.. I was 18 and he was almost 19. I knew where he lived from the phone book but he never knew my new name when I married or where I was.. He got married first and my heart broke. I did marry a nice guy, but not the loving feeling I felt for him.. Ok so fastforward. .I found his name in the paper one night in 2001 and his work #. I just couldn't bring myself to call..so I let it go.. Then a few years later in 2004, I called the work # and left a message on the machine with my name, which included my maiden name. He called me back one morning a few weeks later! I was in shock.. He is still married, but asked if I would like to meet at a resturant for lunch. I couldn't wait.. We met and those old feelings came back to both of us! I never thought I'd hear from him again after saying goodbye at the luncheon.. But I did and here it is 3 years later, and we still see each other.. I love him so much still and him me, but he cares about the wife still, even tho they have separate bedrooms etc.. I don't want him to hurt her or anybody.. Sometimes he talks about leaving, but there is so much for him at stake.. His boys and the grandkids.. I never thought that we would ever still have the love we once felt.. It's amazing.. At the same time, I'm feel torn and so does he.. But all said and done, he says he's been the happiest he's been in many years, now coming over to see me and go out for lunches, breakfasts and whatever.. I see him almost everyday if only for 3 hours or so.. I have no idea if we will ever end up married but he talks about it alot. We just would hate to hurt anybody...So while it's wonderful, it doesn't come without a price.. He says he never loved her the way he loves me.. "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with" was always how he felt with her..So, it's still up in the air as to our future but even if he doesn't leave, I will always cherish all the moments we've had together these past few years. He and I both wanted to see each other before we left this world to say that we never stopped loving each other even tho we parted over 40 years ago!
2007-09-21 23:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I definitely would as there was no closure when the relationship ended. If I ever got the opportunity to see my first love again, I would thank him because if he did not break up with me, I would have never met my current bf. I would still be trapped in a relationship with no future and hope. Life would be so miserable and tormenting if we were still together. I would want to tell him that the best gift he had ever given me was my freedom back, and let me meet my true soulmate after the split.
2007-09-21 23:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by Rachelle_of_Shangri_La 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tried that, when I answer a question on this site, I have been there, done that. We tried this situation. We was both married, I was getting divorced and he was on his way to get a divorce ( or so we thought) He gave it another shot at my couching. I do adore this man. BUT we know that we can not be friends without being REALLY good friends, so we speak in passing. I do mean passing. I do not stop to hold a conversation with him and he with me either. So we still remain childhood friends and soul mates that Will never be together.
2007-09-21 23:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still periodicly run into my old h.s. sweetheart. After we broke up. Our parents had mutual friends. Now that we are both married (to others) our parents have become good friends.
It is awkward to run into each other. It is rare we are in different states. We actully notice each other awkwardly nod and go about our business at events. Civil but no talking. Did I want to see him after we first broke up -yes to be curious to see who he was dating. I didn't need to wonder for long.
Ironically, who he dated did not change much since those early college days. He actually cheated on me (his gf with her) his now wife. It actually worked out for them. So I guess they after all were soulmates. It hurt back then but as I got older I realized we were just that (young) love and he deserves to be with her his soul mate.
I think of him fondly-mostly there is a sweetness reserved for your 1st bf no one can take the place of. Do I regret not being his wife absolutely not-I'd pick my husband again.Even on our "bad" days. For I have not respected any many I ever dated as much as my husband. That is why he got to be the husband.
Good luck
2007-09-21 23:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me ,this is a very good question. I live with this question a lot. I'm doing the best I can to let it all go. As much as I love her, I believe I can't ever see her again. It'll just jump start my healing feelings all over again. For myself, I have to let go for life... I can only hope I have the strength to put her behind me.
2007-09-21 23:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by love bomb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not want to see my first love, because he might have been my first love but we did not stay together so it wasn't true love. Leave the past in the past and keep it as a memory.
2007-09-21 22:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Tracy G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Great question! I do not have any interest in seeing my first love, but there was a special guy that I dated in high school that I have not seen for a while and I would like to see him again because of the wonderful way he treated me and made me feel. He was not my first love, but he was someone who taught me what real love is all about.
I would like to talk to him again to let him know how he made me feel and how he shaped my feelings about love. I know that if I had made a profound effect in someones life it would be great to know it.
Thanks for making me smile and bringing back a wonderful memory for me today.
2007-09-21 22:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Lili 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I did see her. It was fun. We met each others spouses and children. Caught up on each other, each others families, and on gossip about our old friends. (I had moved away, she hadn't.) We had a great relationship in 11th grade. Shared first kiss, first make-outs, fond memories. We laughed. Our spouses enjoyed meeting our "first loves." I recommend it.
I have run into other old flames, with same fun experience.
2007-09-21 23:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure. I would love to see my first love. I used to run into him occasionally but not anymore. I just would like to see how he is and what he looks like now. He used to be very good looking and had a killer smile. He was immature when we were together and I would hope that he has become a much better person now.
2007-09-21 22:56:40 · answer #10 · answered by mom4gr8kidz 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
When my relationship's end I move on I refuse to hold onto the past and that includes seeing them years later especially if they were @zzhole's to me during our relationship , it's all well and good to run into them again and remember how hot they might be but its funny how you forget what their downfall's in your relationship was.
So NO I wouldnt to see them again.
2007-09-21 22:58:19 · answer #11 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋