we met online,dated two month . then she got pergnant. she though marriage was the only way it would work, so i did cause i was trying to do the right thing. everthing went well for a few month after that we argued alot . we got in a big fight now we are going through a divorce. should we have tryed to work it out or are we doing the right thing?
2007-09-21 16:02:54 · 7 answers · asked by michaelpz76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you both are very impulsive and your relationship was doomed from the beginning. Nobody can tell you if you are doing the right thing but you. You did not mention if she had the baby and if its life is and should be part of your decision. I believe that if a child or children are involved then you need to try every means possible to make a relationship work, but if it is not meant to be then it will not happen and life will go on. But PLEASE stop, breath and THINK about your decisions in the future. Especially if you are making decisions that will effect your childs life.
Best wishes to you. I hope you find the happiness you are searching for.
2007-09-21 16:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Lili 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good try but shotgun marriages work less often than traditional.
There is never a good time to get a divorce, especially when there are kids. If your conscience is clear that you did the best you could then that is all you can do.
I was in an eerily similar situation and it has been a nightmare for 9 years. Protect yourself and your relationship with the child. Do not let her move the child if she tries. Talk to a lawyer. I hope you get more than a child support bill like I got.
Good luck.
2007-09-21 23:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by joker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you moved the relationship too fast and are probably moving through the divorce stage too fast. You really haven't given any part of your relationship time to develop. You should have at least attempted to work out some part of your relationship. It sounds so hurried and confusing to me, I can only imagine how you guys feel.
Divorce is not always the answer.
2007-09-21 23:12:31 · answer #3 · answered by renamed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though things moved way to fast, and it is really hard to truly know someone in that length of time.Given your situation, although i don't beilive divore is the only annswer, it sounds as though you have done your best with a not so great situation. Good Luck, I hope things get better.
2007-09-21 23:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by SUNSHINE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you should have tried to work it out. Every marriage has it's arguments, but you have to be committed and work things out. You vowed to be together through thick and thin. Now there is a child who will suffer greatly in all of this.
2007-09-21 23:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but you are probably doing the right thing....move on with life and love your child.
2007-09-21 23:42:24 · answer #6 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to work it out.
2007-09-21 23:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋