Marriage & Divorce - 21 September 2007

my husband has abused me and i even filed police reports agaisnt him. i had to vacate our apartment for a safe place to live. we have mutual restraining orders against each other. twice he has violated them. once he followed me from school and the last time he was at my son's daycare all day. he has filed for sole custody of my child. what are the chances of him getting that. i m in school and currently work part time not making too much money. but my son is in daycare (tanf) pays for it and the shelter has a wonderful place where my son and i play everyday.

2007-09-21 07:13:54 · 7 answers · asked by kiandra 1

2007-09-21 07:09:42 · 8 answers · asked by Wunout O 1

I understand if you are both working at different shifts and come home at different times, but what I mean is that if you all are at home each evening, is it okey for the man to go to bed and wait for his wife to come on bed or the wife to be on bed and wait for the husband. Support your answer as this cause argument somewhere I was today and we have been given until sunday to come up with the right answer to win a real 55" inch TV Plasma. It was a question raised in church family discussion.

2007-09-21 07:09:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiancees mom went shopping with me right after the engagement was announced. my parents are out of the picture..we went to a bridal sale and bought a dress for $200..i liked it..but i felt pressure that i HAD to get a dress or i was going to hurt her feelings..well..now that i am looking back...i dont like it at all!! i dont know what to do..part of me wants to sell it..and then give her the money back...the other part of me thinks that it will cause too many problems!! what do i do!?!??!

2007-09-21 07:08:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

my fiancee has grown up in nebraska. he is OBSESSED with the huskers...which i realize that it is his passion..which i am completely for! but he is refusing to consider moving to colorado with me after the wedding..he says that he will not move anywhere out of nebraska..now i have lived in close to thirteen different states throughout my life and i LOVED the experience of new things...i want our kids to be able to experience life outside of nebraska...how do i get him to realize that a college football team is not important enough to dictate our future?

2007-09-21 07:05:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Can you get there with straight s ex or do you need more?

2007-09-21 06:44:50 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-21 06:43:32 · 13 answers · asked by blondie 2

About a month ago me and my husband got into a really big fight he said that my kids (3 from a previous marriage) broke the blinds, so I checked them and said where are they broken he goes in and rips them off the window, so I called him an idiot, He then turns to me and says he hopes the baby in my stomach dies (I'm 6 1/2 mos pregnant with his baby) so my first reaction was I pushed him well he pushed me back and during the struggle I got a really bad bruise, so basically he says that I have no respect for him and that I should of never put my hands on him, and if I had him arrested he would have me arrested also. So now its been about a month and we are litterally living like roommates, one side of the fridge has his stuff, and the other side has mine. He doesn't speak to me at all we basically just sleep in the same bed together, and the problem is we both can't afford to live there by ourselves, so basically my ? is do I try to make things work between us or just let him be?

2007-09-21 06:29:50 · 24 answers · asked by shorte716 6

i am from India ,i met a girl in a dating site,she is from benin,west Africa and she impressed me a lot ,we proposed to each other and she is willing to marry me.she will come daily for the chat and she speaks very nicely,she sent me all her photos and her address also,in the mean time i asked for my stay in w.africa,she told she will try to get a work permit for me and once i go there she will try for ECONOW passport also.as she is dependent on her mother for her living ,for the work permit she asked me 1000$ for doing the work permit.so pls let me know how far i can trust this girl and how safe is it for me to go and stay there.and how can i know that she is sending her pictures only.pls help me in this regard.

2007-09-21 06:20:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

and constantly yelling at the kids?
Talking has done nothing for the past 13 years. Where to go from here?

2007-09-21 06:19:15 · 12 answers · asked by mrs O 6

a friend of mine once told me she had never stayed faithful to a partner.
she is now married, can she stay faithful to her husband or is she likely to do it again?

2007-09-21 06:15:00 · 8 answers · asked by Davey J 1

The peak year for divorce is indeed 7 years after the wedding.(as in the film)

Lots of couples have taken the matter out of the equation by not getting married in the first place. The Proposal I saw eminated from Germany and it was simply that civil marriages are for 7 years with an option for renewal.

I haven't sussed out what happens to the children or how the house and pension and future earnings are divied up.

Any thoughts?

2007-09-21 06:08:34 · 19 answers · asked by Paul R 1

well she met him on some island trip or something and invited him for us to meet and I was casual about the whole thing. it turns out he's 'separated', i don't think he's divorced and just a year 'separated', so he says. i find out that during 'separation' he had another girlfriend (I saw her pic on my sis's mobile) and she was really slutty people. (this ex already girlfriend had brought in the cruise her 25 yrs old boyfriend while she's like 36 and said to everybody 'it's a sex thing'). he mentioned that several times, being bitter and all. listen, I really don't care about this guy. but pleassseee, is my sister stupid or what? and if she's not, hey, i don't think she thinks so highly of me, right? what a mess.
he said he'd like to see me again and his eyes were like he had taken drugs or something when he was looking at me. but now on second thought that would be stupid right? why do I have a feeling he's a sex maniac?

2007-09-21 06:03:08 · 18 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

How could this woman suggest that marriages last only 7 years????????
She has admitted to being divorced twice...twice....She is basing her suggestion on her personal experience....we don't know what precipitated her divorces...It could have been anything....There are thousands and thousands of marriages that last forever. My anniversary is in November and we will be married for 19 years...sure there have been rough spots but we both love each other....It is the people out there who are not willing to work for their marriages or who end up with the wrong person who are giving marriage a bad rep...We should NOT have to renew our marriage license or anything of the like because of those marriages out there that have not worked out.....

2007-09-21 05:59:14 · 2 answers · asked by Gerard L 1

If one is married in a religious ceremony in NY state and has not gotten a civil marriage license and then get divorced (based on religious ways), does she need to still file for a civil divorce? If she remarries without the civil divorce will the second marriage be voided?

2007-09-21 05:35:12 · 9 answers · asked by joe s 1

I have been married now for 3 yrs. I am no longer in love with him, am not even attracted to him. We lived together for 3 yrs before we got married. I have 2 boys and he has 1 girl all living with us. The girls mother does not come around and I really dont want to leave her with him. She is as much mine as the boys are. He isnt a bad father, he is just there. I do everything, pay all the bills buy everything, I am really just tired. I dont know if I can leave her behind, but at the same time I feel like I am dying staying here. Any advice??

2007-09-21 05:34:39 · 19 answers · asked by bzcuz 1

I swear dating is so weird and random and crazy sometimes! I was out sat night, saw a hot guy, he say me too, we stared and smiled at each other for a while. I went up to the bar finally, then he came over and talked to me. We talked for the rest of the night. He is really cute and nice. end of the night, he gets my #. Next day i still felt excited about him, but figured, he wont call. he called monday evening. We talked for abuot 20 minutes. He explains he's going home (out of state) wed and will be back sunday. He says, i know it's a week away, but would you want to get together when i get back? Im thinking yes! He said he'd call this monday or tues. So..i cant stop thinking about this guy! I'm thinking good outcomes, bad outcomes, it's crazy. I would rather not think about him at all! Has anyone ever experienced this and it actually worked out? Or do these situations usually blow up in one's face?

2007-09-21 05:29:10 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why do *many* (not saying all) at home moms feel entitled to boss around their husband to do cleaning chores after they get home from working 8 hours?

It doesn't take 8 hours to vaccume and wash dishes and do a few loads of laundry. I can do these chores (house-wide) in about 3 hours (yes I have kids). Then I have another 5 hours to PLAY (not work) with my kids. I take a break anytime I want. I have no deadlines to meet. I am never worried I'll be out of a job, or that I'll be reprimanded for a sub-par job (okay, so I didn't put away the dishes, and I didn't vaccume under the rugs!) My husband would never (even dream) reprimand me for lack of perfection.

What is it with some at home moms? Is it that they just don't see all the things a man does at work or emotions he feels in his heart?

2007-09-21 05:27:25 · 29 answers · asked by Xanadu 5

HER MOTHER COLLECTS $500 IN CHILD SUPPORT FROM ME A MONTH . SHE DOESN'T WORK AND HASN'T IN ALMOST 2 YEARS. SHE HAS NO INCOME. SHE LIVES WITH HER BOYFRIEND THAT IS A CONFICTED FELON NUMEROUS TIMES, AND WILL PROBROLY NEVER CLIMB A WORKING LADDER TO ANY TYPE OF MANAGMENT OR HIGHER. HE IS ABOUT 15 YEARS OLDER THEN HER. HE ALSO HAS DI ABETES. IS OVER WHAT AS IS HER. SHE HAS 3 KIDS BY THREE DIFFERENT DADS AND IS A VERY UNSTABLE LIFESTYLE. REFUSES TO PUT MY DAUGHTER IN PRE-SCHOOL AND HAS ALL READY THREATENED ME NOT TO SEE MY DAUGHTER AND SHE DOESN'T HAVE HEALTH INSURANCE FOR MY DAUGHTER.
I ON THE OTHER HAND I'M 25 AND AN EXECUTIVE CHEF AT A PRIVITE COUNTRY CLUB, HAVE WORKED UP THE EMPLOYMENT LADDER TO THE TOP WITH PLENTY OF ROOM TO GROW STILL, HAVE A STABLE HOUSEHOLD, MARRIED WITH A 14 MONTH OLD BOY. I WANT MY DAUGHTER IN SCHOOL TO LEARN HOW TO ASSOCIATE WITH OTHERS, SHE NEEDS HEALTH INSURANCE, AND MY WIFE HAS A STABLE JOB AS A PARALEGAL. IS THERE ANY WAY AT ALL I CAN LOSS THE CASE

2007-09-21 05:25:09 · 8 answers · asked by BIGMAC SR. 1

I am a single mother w/ 2 kids and have financially struggled to support my family. My boyfriend of 2 yrs & 3mos. does help me on a weekly basis and cares for me deeply. Likewise I feel the same. Communication has been a problem because he will not emotionally open up to me (he is a man of pride). We both go out on the weekends - separately. I just turned 30 and am ready to get married with my love. He tells me in the near future we will marry but will not confirm when? I am a hard worker and ready to move on and easily drop him if need be for the sake of my kids future and mine (he is wonderful around them). Please give me your advice. Do you think I am waisting my time? Or should I date behind his back. He is financially stable but most of all I would like to take care of him in the way a wife should. I'm so confused??

2007-09-21 05:19:56 · 26 answers · asked by Janie C 1

Hi, I have been married with a wonderful man for 5 years and he has given everything to me, for him I was just like his princes but , I was like a little girl that wants everything for her and altough I always told him how much I loved him I never showed him my love with my atitud. so he went tired and 3 months ago I did not want to have sex with him, I don't know why I think it was something in my boddy. every morning he tried to touch me and I threw his hand away so he in an upset and crazy moment open a profile searching for a woman to have sex with. but a few days later we had a talk and since that moment we have a great relationship but two days ago I discovered what hi did and he appologize and explaind me he never pass to the next step he said it was just the anger of that day and he forgot about it almost immediately I believed him cause he has been so trustful and he doesn't have time to do it but I can't take that of my mind I'm so angry and disapointed. what can I do?

2007-09-21 05:16:24 · 8 answers · asked by sambabe 2

Okay so here goes. I am a 21 year old mom to two gorgeous boys. My husband and I have been married for a little over a year. I have been with him since I was 17. Too make a long story short we have had a VERY rocky relationship. To the point where he works long days and long hours, I wanted him to spend some time with the kids but it seems like the more I ask of him the more he resists. So I had sent him som divorce papers off the internet I guess I was trying to show him I was serious about changing things. He got upset and went online and signed up on a website to meet women to have sex with? I understand yea I should have NOT showed him the divorce papers but does that give him the right to get online? I mean he has looked at porn MANY times and I have caught him. I see nothing wrong with porn but he ONLY does it when I'm not home?? I mean I would think something was up...I need some feedback on what you would say to him or what to do??? Thank You

2007-09-21 05:14:21 · 24 answers · asked by Chrissy S 1

2007-09-21 05:02:53 · 26 answers · asked by peter 2

2007-09-21 04:44:21 · 12 answers · asked by Aquatic Rodent '") 2

There is a picture of our 3 kids to start with.

I just wanted you to take a long look at the kids that you helped possibly distroyed. I know this doesn't all fall on you but you should have not slept with a married man, with or with out kids. I know that is was him, that he couldn't keep his **** in his pants and trust me he is paying for it. But guess what, by you having no self respect for you self or others you have taken everything Tristan, Danik and Mikkaèl know away. You have contributed to what they know in life and turned it upside down. They are pending 2 separate lives, 2 separate parents, 2 separate houses, and not as good of life financially. They possibly will not be raised by a mother and father together to become great men and a great life with both parents. Think about what you would want one day for your kids, a daughter that has a husband that has cheated on her or your young boys thinking this is ok to do to women. Would you want this? I hope the answer is NO. I really hope someday this never happens to you when you are married with kids. I do not want a response nor would it be good to pass this on to Francis as it would be compromising things further. I hope you are out of the picture, if not I would suggest you do so immediately. Enjoy your new relationship and think about thing further next time, you could be having for a few min of pleasure but a life time of pain for others.
Take care of your self.
Tasha

2007-09-21 04:39:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

the girlfriend was lazy and a pill popper she also moved 3 scrounch muts in my home who pooped and peed in my house,she even had the audacity to tell me i thought i was better than her,she never paid rent utilities or groceries.Now my brother in law will be home less and my husband says if it will keep his brother from being homeless,he will allow the ***** to move back in.what do i do?

2007-09-21 04:36:30 · 16 answers · asked by izzysgma 1

I was just wondering why guys choose to masterbate versus being intimate with their wife? I had my second child 10 weeks ago by c-section so we are way past the "okay to begin having sex again" stage. But latelty when I suggest having sex my husband gives me an excuse like he is either too tired or he isn't feeling well. I know that I have gained some weight but nothing drastic. I only gained a total of 26 lbs during my pregnancy. So it's not like I'm a fat unnattractive heffer. However, my husband came home from p.t.this morning and before I made it down stairs he was already in the bathroom. I assummed that he was taking a casual crap until he went back to work and I had to rotate laundry and I stepped in something wet and gooey. Well I looked on our bathroom rug and it had *** on it. . Wouldn't it have been just as easy to come upstairs and fooled around with me? What can I do from a guys stand point to "heat up" things in the bed? What could be the cause of him "rejecting" me?????

2007-09-21 04:27:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 23 years and even though we have had plenty of good times we also had our share of pain. He says he wants his freedom, he can not be himself around me, says he loves me but does not want to be married anymore. I am confused and hurt by this. He had no direct complaints about me until recently he started saying that I criticize people and keep him away from certain people. Which is mainly his sister who is not a nice person and she is the one who really does that. (they also had a "relationship" together until they were 17 & 18 so I feeI very uncomfortable with her) I told him I do not understand why I am the one being ripped from his life and she is still in it when I have only tried to defend myself and our family from her. I do ok some days and others I am a real mess and can barely function. Our 17 yr of son is with him and they went out of state without telling me. He is a narcissist which makes our lives hard but I still love him. Any Advice on anything?

2007-09-21 04:27:09 · 10 answers · asked by just me 1

Guys does this mean he's lost interest?
In my 30's, guy is 6 years younger. When we are together he is all about me and he's the one who pursued me in the first place coz i was a bit hesitant about the age diff. We went for a function together last weekend and he was very interested and we even kissed; Met again on Mon for a while coz i initiated it and again we had a great time. On Wed i sent him a text asking if he's ok and he didnt reply. Last night he sent me a text asking if i'd gotten another text he sent me earlier.....i said no and he replied just basic and that was it. What is going on here? When i had issues before with age after he asked if we could hang out sometime, he insisted that he had dated an older woman before and he was ok with it.

2007-09-21 04:25:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Married 7 yrs. We have 2 kids, ages 5 and 7. They love their dad to pieces.

We used to be best friends, he still calls me that sometimes. He is a liar and has a drug problem where he cashed an refund check for 1000 to pay for his debt. He lied and said "why woudl I do that" AND tried to claim it as stolen, they sent the forms and he finally relented.

I found he saw a porn site 2 months ago and that broke my heart.

He does laundry, dinner and plays with the kids, they love him to death b/c he's a good dad but I hate him beyond measure.

THanks for listening. You guys are always helpful.

2007-09-21 04:20:14 · 12 answers · asked by Angie 1