Hi, I have been married with a wonderful man for 5 years and he has given everything to me, for him I was just like his princes but , I was like a little girl that wants everything for her and altough I always told him how much I loved him I never showed him my love with my atitud. so he went tired and 3 months ago I did not want to have sex with him, I don't know why I think it was something in my boddy. every morning he tried to touch me and I threw his hand away so he in an upset and crazy moment open a profile searching for a woman to have sex with. but a few days later we had a talk and since that moment we have a great relationship but two days ago I discovered what hi did and he appologize and explaind me he never pass to the next step he said it was just the anger of that day and he forgot about it almost immediately I believed him cause he has been so trustful and he doesn't have time to do it but I can't take that of my mind I'm so angry and disapointed. what can I do?
2007-09-21 05:16:24 · 8 answers · asked by sambabe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Treat it like it happened before your marriage. As if it never happened. If you love him and forgave him, then you are 'begining' again. It's okay to start again. When I ballroom dance with my husband (the lead in the dance), and I mis-step; it's hard to just keep going, no steps are right. It's only when he stops, listens to the beat, and begins again properly are we on the "right" foot.
Think of it as a mis-step. Stop, listen, and begin again. Don't think about what went wrong, focus on what you are going to do right!
2007-09-21 05:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by Xanadu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your truly lucky it never went beyond the point of no return and that u have a chance to make it right and go on with your marriage. get some christian counseling to help u through this, if u love him things will have to be different, this is truly a wake up call, and since he was just angry at u and did not really do it u have the chance to make it all good again. u did not cause him to search for someone new, but u did play a part in his hurt and dissatisfaction, so what u both need to do now is work really hard on being more giving. if he has acknowledged wrong than that takes quite a man to even do that. your truly lucky that u know what went wrong, some women are never told and they end up heartbroken and kicked to the curb. some women never find out till their man has already begun an affair. so make the changes u need to.
2007-09-21 05:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget those who are saying get rid of him because he is a cheater.... he is not a cheater.... as you said he didn't follow through....... it sounds like there is enough blame to pass around in this situation....I'm sure he did what he did because he felt rejected and unwanted by you at the time.... but when you started to communicate he came clean and the situation got better..... I'm sure as long as you keep the lines of communication open and try to be understanding of each other needs then things will be OK and you can get past this whole thing
2007-09-21 05:31:07 · answer #3 · answered by DavidV 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It appears that you have learned your lesson. You must communicate with your husband, and let him know how you are feeling, but GENTLY. What you did was wrong, but what he did was wrong. Perhaps you can forgive each other and move on. I wish you all the best.
2007-09-21 06:08:52 · answer #4 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex or no sex, attention or no attention...it is wrong to cheat. No excuses. Forgive him? Sure. Forget? You never will. Stay with him if you want, it's your decision. I would never stay with a man who cheated on me though.
2007-09-21 05:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
A man or woman that can just get up and cheat that quickly is not worth keeping....
Dump the loser.
2007-09-21 05:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
get counceling, and remember this, it works both ways also, if you caint get what u need at home, and u dont take care of ur spouse, someone else will
2007-09-21 05:31:53 · answer #7 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just leave him and forget about him.
2007-09-21 05:23:26 · answer #8 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋