well she met him on some island trip or something and invited him for us to meet and I was casual about the whole thing. it turns out he's 'separated', i don't think he's divorced and just a year 'separated', so he says. i find out that during 'separation' he had another girlfriend (I saw her pic on my sis's mobile) and she was really slutty people. (this ex already girlfriend had brought in the cruise her 25 yrs old boyfriend while she's like 36 and said to everybody 'it's a sex thing'). he mentioned that several times, being bitter and all. listen, I really don't care about this guy. but pleassseee, is my sister stupid or what? and if she's not, hey, i don't think she thinks so highly of me, right? what a mess.
he said he'd like to see me again and his eyes were like he had taken drugs or something when he was looking at me. but now on second thought that would be stupid right? why do I have a feeling he's a sex maniac?
2007-09-21 06:03:08 · 18 answers · asked by sarah kay 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my sis is newlywed and tries to find me a husband!
2007-09-21 06:21:34 · update #1
She's dumb but he wins 2007 DICK of the Year!!
2007-09-21 06:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by Becky J 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your sister probably didn't do it intentionally. Just tell her next time that you don't need help picking up men and that the guy was not your type. If you have a strange feeling about the guy then go with your instincts. Better to not date him and find someone else if you are looking.
2007-09-21 06:16:40 · answer #2 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seperated does NOT mean single. Most seperated couples get back together anyway. My personal opinion is that your sister has a lot to learn, and that YOU are the wiser one. I would advise you to choose your own men, and do NOT let your sister set you up. She probably went out with him or slept with him anyway, so I wouldn't trust her setting you up with him. Your instincts are probably right about him. And you may be right---he may be on drugs. My advise---don't go out with him or ANYONE your sister chooses for you. It is YOUR choice, and she doesn't sound like the sharpest tool in the toolshed--if you know what I mean.
2007-09-21 06:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by lcamel2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
may be your sister wants him, but she think you the better prey to try. At least she is not the one who get hurt?
by the way, i totally agree with the description of the guy SM.
been into a mess relationship, is the choice of his. If you have a bad choice, tell it to your friend, not to any new girls or friend that you meet less than 5 times. Update me on him ya? i want to update my exprience in this kind of guys :)
2007-09-21 07:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like my sisters. They have a different idea on what it means to be "married". it also shows how they feel and see the situation.
My best friend dated a man who was married, but separated and was heart broken because he went back to his wife. Although, she doesn't see the man as being married, but I do.
Some people feel they need to have someone in their life. We all have our own ideas on what we want and need in a relationship. Do not bend your expectation to please another person. It's like changing yourself and it's never worth it.
If I was in your shoes, I would say "Thanks but no thanks". and I would tell my sister not to set me up with anyone else, but thank her for thinking of me.
I love being independent and on my own. The only time my older sisters saw me as an adult was when I "had a man in my life"...But that is them and not me. I am happy with my life and now newly married to my best friend!
2007-09-21 06:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice your description said you are a writer, maybe your sister was trying to put a little drama into your life?
On a secondary note, "dark, dirty and yet promising" sounds interesting. I would interested in reading some of what your's written.
2007-09-21 06:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound much smarter and gutsy than your sister.
Good for you!
Avoid this guy and tell your sister to never introduce you to anybody again. Chances are you are right and this is a recipe for a disaster....Trust your instincts!!!
2007-09-21 06:13:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree if she knew he was not divorced then she should of not done that. I would also say that yes she does not respect you if she is trying to set you up with a married man.
2007-09-21 06:09:43 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy...makes me wonder, is your sister married? does she cheat on her husband? this guy probably is not even separated... probably still married, lol... don't let her set you up w/ anyone ever again, that's for sure, lol! good luck and I hope you find a really good man =) God Bless! =)
2007-09-21 06:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about them but if that is a real pic, you are a hottie! Can't blame a man for wanting to hook up with you....
2007-09-21 06:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sister is stupid and that's very disrespectful. this guy sounds like a bad story, don't even think about it
2007-09-21 06:16:20 · answer #11 · answered by Adrienne L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋