the girlfriend was lazy and a pill popper she also moved 3 scrounch muts in my home who pooped and peed in my house,she even had the audacity to tell me i thought i was better than her,she never paid rent utilities or groceries.Now my brother in law will be home less and my husband says if it will keep his brother from being homeless,he will allow the ***** to move back in.what do i do?
2007-09-21 04:36:30 · 16 answers · asked by izzysgma 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your hubby must not care at all about your feelings, tell him that she will not come back and if he tries to let her back in, then he can go with her, cause you are not having it
2007-09-21 04:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should talk to your husband and tell him that this is a serious problem. Add up all the extra expenses that the brother is costing you and show your husband. That should put a little pep in his step. Also, realize that it's not only your husband that is allowing them to use you guys but you are too. It is your house and you have some say so also. I would tell your husband that if he doesn't tell his brother in two days then you will. You can't let this go on any further. You guys are not helping him only enabling him. You have to stop worring about an adult and worry about your own family. Down bring yourselves down for them. It may sound harsh but it's reality. And next time, think twice before letting a family member move in. Chances are if he needed to move in with you guys in the first place then he wasn't handling business anyways.
2016-05-20 01:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is being an enabler and is really not helping his brother. If your brother chose to move out with his girlfriend rather than stay with his brother, that is his choice. Does he have a job? Chances are if the girlfriend is a drug user, your brother in law is also. Your husband should put you first.
2007-09-21 04:44:31 · answer #3 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and husband need to talk about your relationship. The situation with having other people, particularly druggie, cheap, leeching slobs, living with you is not an option. You did not marry his brother nor the girl friend.
If brother-in-law is in dire straights, can brother 'lend' him some money to get his own digs (probably never see the money again), or suggest they go to social services.
This kind of friction will lead to a sad place.
2007-09-21 04:48:53 · answer #4 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there some reason that these people cannot afford a place of their own? i have this problem with my hubby also. his family always wants to move in with us even though they are all grown adults and perfectly capable of working and finding their own place. i can understand him not wanting his brother to be homeless, but you should not have to give his girlfriend a home also. tell him that you will let the brother stay there, put a time limit on it, but make it clear that the girlfriend is not welcome. it's inconvenient enough to have someone living with you, let alone when they start bringing people in too.
2007-09-21 04:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him. It sounds like you already have but, do it again. Sit down and go over the way things are now to the way they were then. Also you might want to maybe let the brother in law live with you but, not the girlfriend might be a good compromise....
2007-09-21 04:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a nest of cockroaches.
how about you move out - ditch this weak man who doesn't respect you or your house and would rather have a couple of pill-popping, jobless, slobs than a hard-working, caring woman like you are.
Believe me - even though it will be tough going - you'll be better off in the long run to divorce this joker and make a life of your own.
2007-09-21 04:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got to put your foot down. There is no way that you should subject yourself or your family to someone that is a mooch, doesn't have respect for herself let alone you and is addicted to drugs. You've have to be crazy.
I think it should be made clear to his brother that he is welcome in your home but because of her choices and actions, his girl friend is not.
If he chooses, not to move in because she isn't allowed then that is his decision as an adult to be homeless, not yours.
Although your husband has some loyalty to his family, his ultimate loyalty needs to be with you and what is best for your relationship and your family.
2007-09-21 04:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground!! You and your hubby were and are not being shown respect!
Let the brother in but not the GF!! Tell hubby if he doesn't like it, he can join them in the homeless shelter!!
2007-09-21 04:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you were right, it is your house too, and your husband is putting his brother before his wife. My husbands main rule with his family, is nothing and no one comes before me. We have had many family members stay with us over the years, and he always tells all of them, that they are welcome as long as they do not bring their own problems home to us. It is a huge imposition, and inconsideration of them to not care how this affects you in your own home!
2007-09-21 04:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by C M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its both of your houses. I strongly suggest against letting people LIVE in your house. My Fiance and I just bought our first house and will NOT let anyone live in our house. It will affect your marriage in the long run.
2007-09-21 04:41:59 · answer #11 · answered by Bride2Be 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋