my fiancees mom went shopping with me right after the engagement was announced. my parents are out of the picture..we went to a bridal sale and bought a dress for $200..i liked it..but i felt pressure that i HAD to get a dress or i was going to hurt her feelings..well..now that i am looking back...i dont like it at all!! i dont know what to do..part of me wants to sell it..and then give her the money back...the other part of me thinks that it will cause too many problems!! what do i do!?!??!
2007-09-21 07:08:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Burn it!
2007-09-21 07:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by ranch_tester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a bit of a problem,but you do have options...Lets see what is going on...you don't want to hurt her feelings...but it is your wedding. It all depends on how well you know her and the type of personality she has.If she will not get hurt and resent it,tell her the truth and pay for the dress,but you won't sell it for the same price that it was purchased. If you decide to keep the dress,do other things that you love such as flowers,music,veil,etc....to make up the difference.Now,you could lie and tell her it doesn't fit just right,but I would go with option #2 and keep the peace and since your family is out of the picture this would do you well at the end of the day because getting married is an emotional time and you will not need the additional stress.Enjoy your wedding and maybe she is trying to do what a mother would do. Best wishes!
2007-09-21 07:33:37 · answer #2 · answered by ana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey!be happy that you have a dress...trust me shopping for a dress for weeks upon weeks is soooo hard and stressful.
What don't you like about the dress? If it is the sleeves, you can always take them off, or if you want sleeves have them put in. If its the length you can easily change that, and you can also take the dress in or out to make it look nicer if it looks too big/too small.
Plus...I am sure you are going to do you r hair and makeup nice, you can buy a beautiful veil and no matter what..its not the dress or the hair or perfect pictures that are important...its the wedding...trust me if I were you I'd worry more about the honeymoon! :)
2007-09-21 07:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dont look at that side alone. A wedding dress is nothing compared to a lifetime of marriage. If you dont like that dress, maybe you should tell him but he might get hurt that you dont appreciate what he gives. Whats important is your getting married, and hes giving you his love, and not a wedding dress.
2007-09-21 07:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by BubblegumFighter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this myself. I had a dress given to me because of financial reasons. The dress was awful. I told the woman that it wasnt my style and I preferred to find my own. She was crushed but the fact of the matter is that I was 20 years younger than her and she wore the same dress to her wedding in the same church. There was no way I was wearing that dress. Be polite, and simply tell her you dont want it.
2007-09-21 07:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say do the black and pink... yet do it in a rather undying style. Like stepford spouse meets Avril L. So once you look back on your pictures it is not the way it grow to be wih my mom finding back at hers. She in no way leaves her wedding ceremony pictures out because of the fact of those ridiculous puffs sleeves. she would be able to't have faith she even picked this manner of loopy dress and he or she hates it. yet you do prefer to be you, so p.c.. your hues, in spite of each and every thing... sometime in case you look back and hate the colours you additionally could make the photograph black and white however the dress nonetheless has class and is undying.
2016-12-26 21:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not all about you and it shouldn't be about the dress. Unfortunately it is. I was in the wedding video business for many years and never...NEVER heard any of the guys complain about the tux. By the same token, I don't like other people picking and choosing the clothes that I have to wear. I can't see where she gets off thinking that you have to wear the dress that she picks or buys for you. That just seems odd.
I hope you'll like your marriage more.
2007-09-21 07:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are the bride, you should choose your own dress! I would give her 200 S back, then say that my friends have bought me another dress as a surprise (of course I would check it with them).
Or try to adjust it somehow.
2007-09-21 07:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I went through somthing simalar and the best thing you can do is be honest, let her know that this is a one time event atleast for most people, and you would really like a different style of dress
2007-09-21 07:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by elsieangeles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's your wedding. Get the dress you want. You're marrying the son, not the mother. Give her the money back and say you changed your mind.
The mother-in-law will expect what she get hint..hint.
2007-09-21 07:22:02 · answer #10 · answered by Gem 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your day, sell it and get what you like, from now on stand up to the mother n law if you do not guess who is going to rule your marriage ??
2007-09-21 07:18:12 · answer #11 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋