I understand if you are both working at different shifts and come home at different times, but what I mean is that if you all are at home each evening, is it okey for the man to go to bed and wait for his wife to come on bed or the wife to be on bed and wait for the husband. Support your answer as this cause argument somewhere I was today and we have been given until sunday to come up with the right answer to win a real 55" inch TV Plasma. It was a question raised in church family discussion.
2007-09-21 07:09:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well i dont know if my answer is a case of right or wrong, but more of a personal preferance, but i like to be in bed 1st, waiting for him to come to bed, those few minutes of anticipation while he locks up & prepares for bed are great
2007-09-21 07:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever asked you to "come up with the right answer" for this needs to get into the real world! Within the partnership of marriage there will be times when one or other partner is tired before the other, and will go to bed. That's the sensible, sane and healthy thing to do. There will be other times when both will engage in intimate couple time before going to bed together...and there will be times when passion dictates that they don't reach the bedroom!!! Possibly a more important aspect is the fact that when one partner wakes during the night or first thing in the morning, the other is sleeping peacefully beside them or gazing lovingly at them as they drift into wakefulness...and therein is the real difference between marriage and a one-night-stand/casual encounter!!
2007-09-21 07:22:15 · answer #2 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right answer is "whatever the couple is most comfortable with." My husband and I seldom go to bed at the same time - most days he stays up later and works, and on the weekend it's usually me who's up til 2-3 am, and he goes to bed earlier. But we have separate bedrooms (he snores), so it's a total non-issue for us. In any case, if one person wants to go to bed before the other, I don't see why they couldn't do so. People often adhere to different routines and keep different schedules.
2007-09-21 07:44:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whomever is tired and headed for bed first, waits on the other one.
Of course, I would assume that coming from a church family discussion, that you may try to teach the children that the woman is up first and in bed last.
For me, that's in the past times and it's just a matter of who can stay up the longest, or get up the earliest, it's called working together to get the family rolling or keep it quiet.
2007-09-21 07:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by THEMrsMinLa&Momof2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no rules "set in stone" about this, only what the couple works out between them. Sometimes one of the partys will be ready for sleep and the other party is not, so to not disturb each others choices, they go to bed at different times. If lovemaking or cuddling is the choice of the couples, then of course, they should go together!! Personally I think it is no ones business but the couple.
2007-09-21 07:17:52 · answer #5 · answered by that judi 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We always try to go to bed at the same time. Sometimes if I am on the computer, he goes to bed first since he has to get up for work early. Every once in a while I go to bed first, if I am really tired.
2007-09-21 07:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man or woman can go to bed anytime that they want to or else anytime that they are ready. Some couples go to bed at the same time. My husband goes to bed before me and I sometimes stay up late. It really does not matter who goes to bed first as long as they both go to bed.
2007-09-21 07:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 06:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters who goes to bed first if you tell each other hey I'm tiered I'm going to bed do you want to go to bed to or are you going to stay up then let the other person decide or you can always cuddle with the other person and fall asleep on the couch until they other person goes to bed. but me and my husband normally go to bed at the same time unless one of us is completely wiped up and go to bed early and that's rare
2007-09-21 07:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by nikie_atkinson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I go to bed together. If he is tired or has a headache he will ask if I mind if he goes in early and vice versa. We don't have to ask, but it is just a courtesy we give to each other. Usually when we go to bed we spend a few minutes talking about things before we actually go to sleep.
2007-09-21 07:18:45 · answer #10 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋