There is a picture of our 3 kids to start with.
I just wanted you to take a long look at the kids that you helped possibly distroyed. I know this doesn't all fall on you but you should have not slept with a married man, with or with out kids. I know that is was him, that he couldn't keep his **** in his pants and trust me he is paying for it. But guess what, by you having no self respect for you self or others you have taken everything Tristan, Danik and Mikkaèl know away. You have contributed to what they know in life and turned it upside down. They are pending 2 separate lives, 2 separate parents, 2 separate houses, and not as good of life financially. They possibly will not be raised by a mother and father together to become great men and a great life with both parents. Think about what you would want one day for your kids, a daughter that has a husband that has cheated on her or your young boys thinking this is ok to do to women. Would you want this? I hope the answer is NO. I really hope someday this never happens to you when you are married with kids. I do not want a response nor would it be good to pass this on to Francis as it would be compromising things further. I hope you are out of the picture, if not I would suggest you do so immediately. Enjoy your new relationship and think about thing further next time, you could be having for a few min of pleasure but a life time of pain for others.
Take care of your self.
Tasha
2007-09-21 04:39:21 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should have wrapped your husband up with a shiny bow...walked him to her house...and said, "Congradulations !! You just won a total loser !!!"
2007-09-21 04:51:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to Tango.
Your relationship with your husband must not have been perfect otherwise this would not likely have happened.
Live and learn, forgive and move on if necessary. Most relationships can work even after an incident like that, but it takes a lot of work, including absolute forgiveness.
Sending this letter to the third part is a questionable thing to do. She may or may not appreciate your 'advice'. She already knows she has done something wrong and to raise her guilt levels and lower her self-esteem even further is perhaps an unkind thing to do. She needs to be forgiven and it will actually HELP you personally to forgive her even if you don't think so at this time.
2007-09-21 05:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This other woman is not innocent either! She had a choice and and she choose to not have any morals and be with your husband despite whatever the situation and it shows how she is messed up herself.If I knew that a man was married and even though there was problems in his marriage I would expect him to end it first.I would do that out of respect for myself.Anwyays I think that if the letter makes your feel better and gives you some closure on this ugly situation then go ahead and give it to her.It's all about you now and whatever the other witch thinks of it doesn't matter as long as it helps you.I hope you are still not with that man unless you guys are getting serious help with your problems.
2007-09-21 05:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I honestly think the letter is useless. Don't send it. Trying to make her feel bad about herself isn't going to work. The guilt is on your husband.
She may have slept with your husband and ruined your relationship, but SHE owes you nothing. She wasn't the one in a commited relationship and although she may have known what she was getting into, she definitely had nothing to lose.
Let her know that your husband leaving you has not broke you a down one bit and that you can do it with or with him.
Besides, had he not cheated with her, it would've been with somebody else.
2007-09-21 07:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by JMC 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeh thats pretty justified. You are going to get loads of people on this site telling you not to send it, because its his fault, not hers. Well I think you should send it. It is his fault and nobody elses but if I was you I would send the letter. There are things you need to say to this woman, and despite the fact that its 100% his fault for hurting you and your children (after all she has no obligation to you or your children) she still entered a relationship with a man knowing he was married with children.
I could never do that, many women wouldnt, but she did. And what she did had consequences. The letter isint that nasty, its just telling her what she has done. Id send it. I hope you get through this difficult time. good luck
2007-09-21 04:49:17 · answer #5 · answered by eva m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on your reason for sending this... One of the worst things we can do is plan our enemies reactions. They never react the way we expect them to, and if you sent this letter hoping she will regret her actions, go to church and smite herself to death for her sins, that ain't gonna happen. She probably does not care at all.
Now, if your reason for writting this was to vent out your hurt feelings, then it's a good excercise, write more letters, and some to your husband as well, getting out of your system everything you think about him. But if this were the case, then the letters were/are not to be sent.
I suggest counseling for you and your children, it will work miracles. Give your children the benefit of a faster healing, and a good healthy mother. As for the other two, they deserve each other. Scum belongs with scum.
2007-09-21 05:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
You wasted your time. She doesn't care about you or your kids, she only cares about herself and what she wants that's why is did not matter if he was married. Hard as it will be, it's time to move on. Will you be able to forgive him for this? he has shown he has not respect for your marriage, you, or the well being of the children. It's sad that a man is willing to throw everything away for the thrill of some new..you know what.
2007-09-21 06:04:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tasha, I know your hurt and you have the right to be. Best thing to do is to get out of that mess as quickly and dignified as possible. You have said your piece to this woman. Never forget, he's the one who cheated on you on a personal level, broke all those vows, betrayed your trust. Nothing could be more painful. Now it's time to take care of Tasha and those kids. Put all your energy into that.
2007-09-21 06:10:45 · answer #8 · answered by Brad M 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, that's a mouth full... But, You should of said.... You will be served with the notice of court appearance , you are being named in a Divorce settlement as a party to the marriage dismissal.
I wouldn't of went on what she did or didn't do to you or your kids. She already knows and doesn't care... Feeling pity is all you can tell her besides... She's got what she came for.... name her in the Divorce. Let the Judge hash out what she could get coming to her.
but, your better than me i would toren her apart piece by piece and then him for ruiening my happiness as well as the kids as a stable home.
2007-09-21 04:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Petunia 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I think you should just burn the letter for yourself to let go and move on. She doesn't know you or care for you. Keep your dignity by not giving her anything. Take your cheating husband to court and let the Judge give him what he has coming. Your husband is the "real" person to blame here, he is the one that is destroying your family. Put the blame where it belongs.
2007-09-21 05:10:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think that is the most selfish, vindictive, hateful thing I have ever read. Why would you do that? Did it make you feel better to strike out at her for something your husband did? Not only was mean, but it could be used as a threat ("I hope you are out of the picture, if not I would suggest you do so immediately.") in court and cause you to lose custody of the kids about whose lives lives you claim to be so concerned. This other woman was a symptom, not a cause. You are being unfair to her and thinking only of yourself and your feelings. Try not being a typical woman and think about someone else for 2 seconds.
2007-09-21 05:10:01 · answer #11 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋