my fiancee has grown up in nebraska. he is OBSESSED with the huskers...which i realize that it is his passion..which i am completely for! but he is refusing to consider moving to colorado with me after the wedding..he says that he will not move anywhere out of nebraska..now i have lived in close to thirteen different states throughout my life and i LOVED the experience of new things...i want our kids to be able to experience life outside of nebraska...how do i get him to realize that a college football team is not important enough to dictate our future?
2007-09-21 07:05:48 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I doubt this is just about the football team. You don't say how much travelling he's done, but whether out of fear because he's never been anywhere else or a feeling that other places didn't match up to home if he has, he doesn't seem to see it as the positive you do. If you want to reach any kind of understanding on the issue with him, you need to be able to see his perspective and share your point of view without judging. It may well be that this is something you're never going to agree on, and it may be serious enough to warrant reconsidering the idea of marriage.
2007-09-21 07:19:34 · answer #1 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can still root for his team in a different state! He can come back to Nebraska for some of the games. He is being a tad bit ridiculous, but like someone else said, it's probably not just about the huskers. He might be scared to move and leave his friends and hometown. That's a bit immature but some people are just like that.
I know how you feel, I've lived in alot of different places with my family being in the military. I even joined the army cause I like moving so much. New places and people are wonderful, I love to experience new things.
I say you move to Colorado anyways. Maybe that's the type of thing it will take for him to realize that there's a whole world outside of Nebraska and the cornhuskers.
2007-09-21 14:49:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Part of being married is understanding that your partner has rights and needs that you may not understand but must respect. I'm sure you have a few quirks that he's dealing with in his own way. Learn to compromise. That's what happilyy married adult couples do.
2007-09-21 14:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be happy you found this out now than later, sports are great, but there's a time and a place for everything. He needs help !!!
2007-09-21 14:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that there is more to life than college football and if he doesnt' see that he will miss out on you and your family.
2007-09-21 14:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by ilovelilPhof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋