ok me and my husband have been having problems for a while and i have been wanting to leave cause we dont get along. we have alittle girl also. anyways things went worse when he started another job and made some single guy friends then he started to stay out late blah blah. i left to go on a break from him for 5 weeks, when i came back things were great tell i found out that he was joining single sites. then he was staying out late tell 430-6 am and lie about it. he just lies about EVERYTHING! it drives me crazy, he smoked weed AT WORK with his stuiped buddys and i cought him cheating on me. oh and he can get violent also. anyways i lived far away from my family and was waiting to move so i could leave or see how things go between us. we are here with my parents and i just have major trust issues with him cause the cheating and staying out late happened like 3-4 weeks ago. he gets mad cause i have trust issues with him. oh i have seen him tell girls to lift up there ..................
2007-09-21 14:10:24 · 12 answers · asked by kitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
there bathing suit tops before also when we were out with friends on a tube ride down a river. there was tonz of people. i just hate him for everything! anyways 2 days ago i was had it with everything and got all of his stuff and put it in a black bag and said im done. he was saying im not leaving and got into a fight, i left crying and came back 30 min later and went to bed. my parents were talking to him and my dad is trying to keep us together. so even though i said its over my dad is like oh this and that things will work out. then everyone acts like nothing happens. what do i do? what easy way can i get rid of him. i dont love him anymore and i dont trust him.
2007-09-21 14:13:55 · update #1
oh my,this is not easy ,I know..but you have to do a few things here.One is to talk to your Parents and let them know that you are done with him and tll them that you are the one that have to be married to him ,not them.If he to not leave and your parents still take his site then you need to leave or make it clear to them that you and your daughter will.But let me ask you this ..Why are you all staying with your Parents???? Maybe that is the reason for him being the way he are ,seems like that he dose not have to do much to support his own familie to me.But I dont know. I realy think that you need to move on ,do it at least for the child ,and try to make your parents see what you see. It will be def, better for you and your child...seems like he dont do much for you all anyways ,so you already know what to do..just do it soon...
2007-09-21 15:00:35 · answer #1 · answered by siggi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, if things are that bad, first, file for legal separation - really live apart and see if it makes things any better. If not, file for divorce.
Second, seek counseling - marriage counseling might help save this marriage, but it might not. You also should seek counseling just for you. Sounds like you have some issues needing resolved before you can move forward in your life - whether in this marriage or on your own.
Me personally - I wouldn't think twice about raising a child in that type of environment - I'd split and never look back. But that's just me - and I'm big on second chances, but it sounds like he's had more then 2.
Best Wishes
2007-09-21 14:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Ariana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make your parents understand that it is you, their daughter or him, a lieing cheating soon-to-be ex husband. You want him out of the house now. Pack his stuff and again and put it outside on the porch. If your parents step in again. pack you a bag and your daughter, and go live with a friend and tell your parents in no uncertain terms that your and their granddaughter will not be back until he is gone.
2007-09-21 14:23:42 · answer #3 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are living with your parents, you need to get them on the same page you are on. Let them know it's over and you want him out. They may have to serve him with eviction papers to get him to move out of the house. Your parents need to know you're serious, sit down and talk with them when he's out. Don't let them walk all over you, this is YOUR decision and they need to respect it.
Good luck.
2007-09-21 14:22:31 · answer #4 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok, leave him... you can do much better than him, he is a dirt bag that has no respect for you whatsoever. File for legal seperation, then divorce. No one should have to live that way.
2007-09-21 14:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YUP, sounds like its OVER to me!! Should my wife act out like that she/I would be gone!! Quit sobbing&do something about it. The big D might be that answer!! But don't live like that!!good luck
2007-09-21 14:24:26 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love or trust him any more, there's not much point in staying, is there? Resentfulness won't make things better.
2007-09-21 14:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by bluebell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pack your bag again and get out while you can,go to a womens hostel or whatever it is you have to go to.Just do it.
2007-09-21 14:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
then get out of your parents house make your parents see the monster he can be and the way he treats you
2007-09-21 14:20:55 · answer #9 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. you will be happier once you do. You already know u dont need him, so what more do u want to know. i think you already know the answer.
2007-09-21 14:28:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋