what would you do if you where married to a man that was lazy,dont listen,always making bad choices that effect the family in a bad way,never cleans up after him self,very disrespect,and cant hold a job to save his life,never can admit when he is wrong,and thinks he only have to listen to you if you have a degree.should i leave him or should i stay because he is my husband?
2007-09-21 14:06:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
At this point you are beyond leaving. What in God's name are you waiting for? He is not going to change, I hope you know that. Why would you consider to stay with a man that doesn't work, doesn't help you in the house, is disrespectful, and probably doesn't even love you? Take a few seconds to relax and think about a single reason you should stay. I'm pretty sure you are not going to come out with any. You deserve better, you need a husband that cares for you, that loves you, that will provide for you, that will respect you, that will listen to you, but above all that won't be abusive towards you. Believe me, sweetie, you will be able to find one just like you deserve it. There are plenty good men out there, and there is no reason to stay with a sorry excuse for a husband. It is your call, but if you want my honest advise, leave him as soon as possible. Because one thing I can assure you is that he is going to get even worse.
2007-09-21 15:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your that miserable with the men then I definitely think that you should leave him. But, before you do that ask yourself these few questions......... Why did I marry him in the first place? Is there anything that we can talk about to change this situation? Is the marriage worth working out? and can I see myself with this person till death do us part? when you answer this questions I am pretty sure that more questions will arise. When you feel completly sure about your feelings then make a decision............ but don't make a decision before thinking thorougly! - Hope I helped you take care good luck!
2007-09-21 14:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by JustaThought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you two should sit down and have a one on one conversation about how you're feeling and what you need from him. If that doesn't work, maybe try talking to a marriage counselor. And if it seems as if he still doesnt want to act right then maybe you might want to rethink the marriage. I dont like to say that because you two promised to be together until death (unless there's some adultery going on). But you have a right to be happy! Hope this helps.
2007-09-21 14:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he is your husband doesnt mean that you have to be with him. they are the same as boyfriends almost. when your married you need to work on problems cause your married and its a special thing. but this. h*ll no! leave his ***. would you stay with a reg. boyfriend if he was like this? no. he wont change men never do. guys like are rare to find cause there are tonz more BETTER guys out there that are easier to find.good luck girly
2007-09-21 14:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had just awakened to this reality, I would file for divorce. He sure isn't gonna change now- are you willing to live with this for the next 20, 30, 40 years?
2007-09-21 14:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married to one of those for 8 years I don't regret it as it has made me a better person and a wiser one I kicked him out of my house and now he pays me child support so get out of the relationship
2007-09-21 14:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like that before you got married,cause if he was you can't change him now.He is already used to it.We all have a right to a divorce.Go with your heart.Only you can make this choice.
2007-09-21 14:18:46 · answer #7 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was my wife she would either whoop his *** into shape or leave. Never put up with being disrespected, ever!
2007-09-21 14:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by M M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every way you describe him is negative. If you can't see any positive there, why are you staying? I think you already know what you should do. Go for it.
2007-09-21 14:30:11 · answer #9 · answered by bluebell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For better or worse.... talk to a pastor ..... nooooo cookie for him ;) if that doesent work bail out burn the road up.
2007-09-21 14:17:48 · answer #10 · answered by chekwriter2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋