If you finally found out who was the woman your husband had an affair with would you Blast her name?

Question

If you finally found out who was the woman your husband had an affair with would you Blast her name?
I finally found out everything about this woman and she also happens to be Married and has decided to make my life hell by calling me and asking me to meet with her becuase she feels the ugre to tell me everything that went on with My husband and her. I decided to meet with her next week but not to hear the details of the relationship just want to see her up close because I have been very currious as to what he saw in her. My husband and I are doing great. But this woman just wont let this thing go so I feel the need for revenge what should I do? should I invite her husband to the meeting since he has no idea till now about the affair. I just feel that an eye for and eys would be fair what my husband and this woman did turned my world upside down for a while and just when I am doing great now she is just relentless after me and feels she has to purge herslef. I need advise what should I do?

Just to clear up some pre consieve notions. this happend last October so it's been almost a year and My husband & I have put in lots of work in making our Marrige strong again I am not saying it has been easy but I am happy my husband made a mistake & I don't excuse him but I have forgiven him. The issue here is this woman who keeps calling to meet with me. what her intentions are who knows. & yes I still feel anger this is very natural I had moved on and now she is calling and trying to come clean & feels that she feels that I need to hear her side of the story. & so I saw this as a avenue to invite her husband to the meeting.

Answer 1

If you and your husband are happy, and have moved past everything that happened.. then there is really no reason for you and she to have any contact whatsoever.

You know he had an affair with her, and she knows you know.. What could the two of you possibly have to talk about? She wants to tell you everything that went on?? Well, it sounds to me like she wants to remind you that for a time, he wanted to be with her.. as her way of keeping the pain there, in hopes of hurting your marriage once more. She doesn't care about your feelings or how it all affected you. If she did, she wouldn't have messed around with him to begin with. She is up to not good, and only wanting to cause more trouble.

It really doesn't matter what her husband knows, and I think it would be best to just let it go, and not worry about trying to get back at her for it. Two wrongs don't make a right. She messed around with your husband, while being married herself. That is beyond messed up.. but nothing you can say or do is going to change the past. There's no reason to drag the issue out, or try to "blast" her.

If you have truly forgiven your husband, and the two of you are happy.. then let it go. Break all contact with her, and make sure she knows that you have no interest in meeting up with her, and stop answering her calls.

Focus on your marriage, rather than getting revenge on the other woman.

Best of luck!

Answer 2

I know revenge might make you feel better in the short term but if you are your husband are trying to work on things then I think part of that is letting her go. Ignore her, block her and try to put her out of your life. It's really hard I KNOW BELIEVE ME I KNOW really really hard to not want to blast her whore *** to the whole world but in the end being the better person will leave you in a better place. Her husband will find out about her soon enough if he doesn't already. Even if you don't believe in karma, this type of person will get it back someday. Take a deep breath and walk away from the situation. Good luck!

Answer 3

I would go and meet with her and be polite as possible, don't let her know shes gotten under your skin. Find out what you can from her , you never know when you might need to know what signs to look for. Then after you find out everything, put her info all over then net. YES, invite her husband, why make her feel better and ease her mind. She did both you and her husband wrong. my man did they same thing and he tells me that it doesn't concern her, well it most certainly does just as it concerns her husband. I put that B*&^tch's info all over the net and even hired a detective to keep track of her. I told all women in her area to beware of her with their husbands. How long ago was this and how long are you married? Have her husband just stand off to the side where he can hear but can't be seen. He'll no when the time is right to apppear.

Answer 4

I've been there done that. I didnt blame the woman, I was angry at her, and we ended up friends. But that is still really hard knowing she is the rebound of his affair. Like I can only make friends from his affairs. His current girlfriend, is a girl I went to high school with 20 some yrs ago. this really pisses me off. she told me she wont stay away because she likes my husband. So they keep seeing each other and emailing each other. I am the 3rd wheel on their trips together. It's awful. I think I recommend you not meet with her. regardless of friend or foe, it's not fun!
Best of everything to you, you are what's important! not her.

Answer 5

I think you should forget this woman...why put ANY ENERGY into finding out anything about her? She is suppose to be history right? I think you are wasting your time by meeting up with her and I think you would be incredibly cruel to tell her husband. It sounds to me like you want to blame this woman totally for the affair and not hold your husband responsible for any part of the affair. Just let it go!!

EDIT: Why in the world does she still have your phone number? You should change your house number and any cell numbers....that would have been the first thing to have done. No good will come by talking to her...NONE NONE NONE! What she has to say is not important at all! Why do you want her side of the story? Do you really think it will help your relationship with your husband? I think you could be making things worst for your relationship.....trust me....don't have ANY contact with her...seems to me that she is having trouble letting go of your husband for good....there is no reason for her to be calling and wanting to meet.

Answer 6

My 1st husband's very 1st affair rang me to go meet her so she could clear the air and explain why they did what they did and how it effected her I stupidly went to the meeting and listened to her babble on about how much she regretted it but how they couldnt help it , it just happened , she couldnt move on with her life until she had released herself by giving me details , I stood up looked into her eyes sad as they looked , and said , you did this to me , I am the victim not you , you lowered your standards , you have no self respect and you have no respect for other's I hope 1 day you feel the pain I have felt and I hope it hurt's you so bad you cant live with it , then I threw a glass of alcahol in her face all over her nice white top and white slacks and walked off.

Did it make me feel better? no , but damn it felt good at the time.If your going to meet this skank make sure you get her husband there without her knowing and then dump her in it , she deserves what's coming , even if your marriage is ok now nothing stopping her trying to get him back again , she just wants to see what is so great about you that he couldnt leave you for her , they never totally understand that 9 time's out of 10 the husband's never CHOOSE them over US.Stupid brainless twits lmao.

Dress snazzy , rub it in then walk away and forget about her.Dont let her get the closure shes looking for if thats what she claims she needs.

Answer 7

Why would anybody mix trash with a precious jewel? Don't let your curiosity get the best of you. Don't lower yourself to this woman's level. I would never meet with my husband's lover. If things are fine between you and your husband, why would you let this woman's bad intentions poison what you two have -astonishingly- been able to fix? I'm sure she has nothing good to say to you. And, although letting her husband know about the affair sounds very tempting, make sure it's not you who speaks to him directly. Have someone -your best friend- do this for you. And she better say you know nothing of her talking to him or you would "kill her". This way, you do not get involved in any more conflicting issues that will surely arise after her husband finds out. Be careful, you don't now if this woman's husband is a violent or dangerous man. Unless you want something bad to happen to your husband, be careful!

Answer 8

She's got her own issues to worry with. Your husband cheated on you, she didn't.

You and your husband are NOT doing great if he's cheating on you. You need to deal with your husband and let him be accountable. Don't try to put the blame on this other woman, as if your husband had absolutely nothing to do with having sex with her.

ETA: You're giving thumbs down to everyone who isn't saying what YOU want to hear but the bottom line is YOUR husband cheated WITH this woman. Was she innocent? No. But you are not married to her.

Honestly, you sound like you're enjoying the drama and you sound like you just want a little revenge. You don't need approval for that, but it's clear that you're not over the whole incident. However, I maintain my position...if things are great between you and your husband, let it go.

Funny thing, you want revenge on her, but you're sleeping with the man who actually cheated on you. There's so much logic in that.

Answer 9

I would have to disagree, that you and your husband are doing great, when he had an affair! It would seem that this woman needs to find a closure of the affair, or , she is out to make your life a pure hell! My advice is to take the high road. Meet with the woman, but ask that she not contact you again for it is a hard moment in your life. If she is agreeable, then let it lie in peace. If she persists, then roll up your sleeve and let her have it, by letting her husband in on the 'affair'. "Be careful not to muddy the water around you, you may have to drink it later!"

Answer 10

i would feel the same way, an eye for an eye you know. but maybe that aint the best approach, i don't know. i think you should invite her husband to the meeting, insist on it and let him know all those juicy details. maybe she's still trying to hurt you because she's not happy in her life and was sure you and your husband would split. i just don't understand people who cheat but i am glad you were able to get past that and you and your hubby are doing good now. after the meeting, where i'm assuming you will tell her to leave you alone, if she keeps harrassing you, go talk to a cop or whatever. make her stop one way or the other. you deserve happiness and oh my goodness you are nearly a saint for being able to forgive your husband!