Here's the deal: in june of this year my hubby went out and bought himself a 40k car without having any sort of approval from me. At the beginning of the month I had an accident with deer (dang wildlife doens't look before crossing the road) and totalled my car, which was all paid for (by me, before us). Since the insurance money came in I've been trying to purchase a vehicle that will be reliable and winter driving friendly and plan to spend about 8,000. However, every time I set up an appointment to go see a car he 'needs' to take his car (the only vehicle) somewhere in the opposite direction. I need to get a new car soon because he quite often works out of town and I have a 45 minute commute to the rural school where I work. How do I metaphorically smack him upside the head?
2007-09-23 08:33:58 · 10 answers · asked by bluearia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is there anyone else around that could take you car shopping? It's obvious he for some reason is having trouble accepting that you need to go and find a car, and is being unreasonable with letting you borrow his to go and find one, your best bet is to circumvent him and find another way to get your car. Tell him flat out that you are going to look for a car on this certain weekend, and if he doesn't feel he needs to go, then you can go by yourself, if he puts up a fuss, find alternative means of getting there.
2007-09-23 08:43:49 · answer #1 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever problems he's created, let him handle it; DO NOT help him in any way. If the garbage needs taking out, put it in front of the door, so he has to trip over it going outside. If repairs need to be done in your house, pay someone else to do it, don't rely on him. Be glad and thankful that you don't have children with this person, because they'd be just like him, or worse. If he needs a ride somewhere, don't give him one; tell him to use one of the other cars, or take the bus. Obviously, he's still acting like a child, wanting Mommy to take care of him; don't become a Mommy for this guy, because he will never grow up. Good luck.
2016-04-05 21:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my god I had exactly the same thing happen to me except mine was a wombat. My husband sounds like a relative of your husbands lol.
I didn't give my husband an option. Either he took the kids everywhere or I get my car. I chose it. I paid for it. I won. If you don't have kids just ask a friend to go with you. tell him if he isn't going to help you, you will do it yourself.
He'll turn up and you'll have a new car. They hate not having an option of looking it over and giving there approval
2007-09-23 08:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by mljq_74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to sit down together with a calender in hand to see what days is the car available, until you get one for yourself. It's not fair that he's not being a supportive husband by not sharing the car with you. Good Luck :) In the mean time look at http://www.autotrader.com
2007-09-23 08:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a friend to drive you to the places you need to go.
If the car is at a dealership ask the salesperson for a lift in a courtesy car. If they want to sell the car they'll pick you up.
Beware that once you are there, they might not want to take you back home unless you but a car, then call hubby and his expensive ride to pick you up!
2007-09-23 08:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by CARL B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a little scary. Either he wants you to be confined to your home with no vehicle or he wants to spend the money on something else. I would get someone else to give me a ride to the dealership and i wouldn't come home until I had my new vehicle.
2007-09-23 08:44:12 · answer #6 · answered by fnd40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rent a car using his credit card since he can't seem to make the time to take you....go car shopping and find a new car at his expense
2007-09-23 08:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by DavidV 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a taxi. Don't bother asking him for advice... he's clearly not interested in helping you. and SHAME on him for that.
Spend the money on taxis and make sure it's money he uses for something else.
If not a taxi... call a friend for help and the heck with him! seriously!
2007-09-23 08:43:47 · answer #8 · answered by teritaur 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trick him or take a cab to where you need to go
2007-09-23 08:51:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with zyggy.
2007-09-23 08:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋