hi, i wonder if anybody can give me some advice?
i am living with my ex partner and her 2 children in a three bedroom council property. we have a joint tennency. the relationship as broken down and she has asked me to leave the house. at the moment i am living in the dining room.i know i have as much right to be there as she does but she is making my life impossible and her children are now turning on me, i also have a 8 year old daughter who stays with me every weekend and the situation is affecting her also. if i move out i can only afford to rent a room and they dont allow children to stay, if i stay where i am its gonna make me very ill, im already under a shrink, the situation is getting worse by the day, shes now said if i dont go she will phone the police and say i hit her and her children saw it also and get a restraining order, please help.
2007-09-23 23:37:55 · 7 answers · asked by big-steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
could you not contact your local council about the situation and be registered as homeless? that why you could get a place of your own.
2007-09-23 23:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by Beautiful - 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok I'll be as honest as possible. firstly, although its a joint tenancy, the house is for the family which is your exes kids, so really she has the right to keep it, sorry. however, if you have access visits with your own daughter you are entitled to your own council property with enough room for your daughter to stay, ie a 2 bed flat/house. You must get away from the situation as its not helping anyone and the longer to refuse to move out the worse it will get. If she doesn't want you there you have to go. Ring the council asap tell them your predicament they will class you as homeless and have to rehouse you. I am sorry if i sound harsh but you and your ex need to be moving on...you CAN do this and you must. Please don't drag things out longer than it needs. I don't understand why you'd want to stay there when they don't want you there...be a man and show them you can sort yourself out, it'll look better on you in the long run!! Good Luck and ring your council TODAY!
2007-09-24 06:48:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can contact the local council but as a single man you will be treated appaulingly, the first place they send you is a homeless unit, not nice and EVENTUALLY they will offer you a place, and its a one off offer, if you refuse it, you go back to the bottom of the list, and it will be a flat in a run down area that they find hard to let. you are in a really bad situation i'm afraid, contact your local citizens advice first of all, make an apointment and also one at your local Q&A at the council offices, seek out your local housing association, they are a much under used source and their houses are always very nice, and waiting times are surprising, especially since you are single, most will be families waiting. ok i know you have your daughter staying, but with 1 bedroom you just make fun times and camp out together! its your own place it will be fun, more fun that you seem to have had in a long time, good luck
2007-09-24 06:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by ♠ Merlin ♠ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're living in a situation reminiscent of a Lifetime movie, not just living in a dining room. The kids are turning on you because they love their mother and their mother doesn't like you. In fact, she hates you. A lot. Move out. Give up a few weekends with your daughter until you can afford to move to a location which will allow for children. If YOU don't move out of your joint tenancy situation, her drama will cause the two of you to end up sharing adjoining cells in the 'I Didn't Di It Wing' of your local jail.
2007-09-24 06:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for god sake do not go to the council and register as homless ive got a friend who has been on the housing list for 10 years waiting for them to house him.... unless you have dependant children living with you the council with give you a lodgings list end of... they don't care.. you have joint tenancy so your partner cannot throw you out she will have to take you to court to get you out. i was lucky i got joint custody of my daughter so they helped me now i have full custody they housed me. be carefull go to the citizens advice bureu and get advice b4 you do anything.
2007-09-27 19:19:59 · answer #5 · answered by pete t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and see your local council. As you look after your daughter
i would have thought you should be entitled to 2 bed flat at least
2007-09-24 06:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by huw g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
with the sickness and stuff whywould you want to stay get moving out now.
2007-09-27 22:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋