tell me ladies the must be something going on
2007-09-23 23:18:32 · 79 answers · asked by john b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You bet, it doesn't seem normal behaviour!
2007-09-23 23:22:42 · answer #1 · answered by scottie 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
she must not be a very busy person if she has time to send that many texts.... yep, there is something going on. Do you know who this other man is? Has he been a part of her life for a long time? I would be suspicious of my husband if he sent 1 or 2 texts per month to the same girl, let alone 400 to 600. That is crazy and absurd. You have a right to know what they discuss, and you should ask her to stop. If she refuses, then she just placed that "friendship" above your marriage.
2007-09-24 01:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Aw, hell yes there is. I have a stalker ex husband who does that **** to be all the time. Runs the cell bill through the roof. There are some logical reasons for the texting, though:
1) She's testing the SMS service.
2) It's her family member. You know that family members don't use any other form of communication other than text messaging. Everyone knows that.
3) She's trying to text you but ACCIDENTALLY is dialing some other guy's number.
4) Her phone has a ghost and the ghost likes to text strange men.
5) She's doing random acts of kindness by sending text messages for people who don't own a cell phone.
2007-09-23 23:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Email and text messaging has created a new way to cheap on your partner. While she may not be physically involved with this man, she is creating on an emotional level.
Her "relationship" with this man is fulfilling a need for her that isn't being met by her relationship with you. She might feel like this man listens to her while many husbands "tune out" their wives. He may be complimenting her so she feels attractive.
I suggest you talk with her about this situation without getting angry. Tell her you don't feel comfortable with her regular contact with this man "even if it is only a friend" and you would like her to stop communicating with him. Ask her to participate in marriage counseling with you so both of you can determine what is lacking in your relationship.
It is worth making an effort to improve communication between the two of you. Also, I suggest you both read:
When Bad Things Happen to Good Marriages by Leslie Parrott III
and/or
Take Back Your Marriage: Sticking Together in a World That Pulls Us Apart by William J. Doherty
2007-09-23 23:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by ALR 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In her defense they MAY just be friends.... but if so there is still somthing going on.... she should not feel the need to have a male friend that close... She has you!
I liked the advice about contacting the phone company. I would for sure do that. If you can read the messages then you will know what her intent is with this other guy.
I am SO sorry you have to go through this.... hey if you wanna get even just text me! LOL......
2007-09-23 23:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
400-600?! Wow, thats a lot of texting! Even as a friend that would be somewhat unusual, so reluctantly one would have to conclude something very intense was indeed happening. Ask her and see what she says. Ask to see the texts. If she refuses, you should worry, although there's always the chance that she may just be planning a huge forthcoming birthday surprise...?!
2007-09-24 04:32:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a lot of txts to a friend.How many txts does she send to you? Must be some close friendship by the sounds. You could ask her to show you some.But then she can just show you "made for you to see" ones,coz she already knows you are onto her. It sounds dodgy but is that enough to go on? Trust is a big thing,but when it is questioned,what can you do? What's she doing when she isn't txting him? Apart from the txts how is your relationship with each other? It sounds dodgy, but I think you both need to do some serious talking to get things out in the open. Best wishes:)
2007-09-24 00:01:49 · answer #7 · answered by Forgetmenotshell 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get a hold of her phone and review the text messages. Aside from her "most likely" cheating on you, your paying through the nose for the text mesages.
NO MARRIED WOMEN texts another guy that much, no matter how close of friends they are! I personally would put an end to it!
2007-09-26 05:45:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
400 600 times a day? Oh man let's just say it... There is something fishy in this.. investigate now.. do you have a way to text this man from her own cell phone if I were you I get to the bottom of this..text him and talk to him as if you are her... say something that you know he is going to respond the first text should say Hey where are you? or something like that and continue the texting from what ever he respond to you.. how you do this is without telling your wife get to her cell phone and "misplace it" cell phones get lost every day.. or you can wait till she is sleeping or something,but the best one is just taking the cell phone and act like you don't know where is at just for one day.. you have the right to know. good luck.
2007-09-24 01:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If it were only 300 times then it's just friends but 400-600 hey she's been skipping work to add some texture to her texting I'm afraid. Confront her with your accusations but do it by text.
2007-09-24 00:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by duttyjoncrow 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
unless you can prove that there is more than just texting, don't worry to much. I just recently went through the same thing with my wife. the stress I was going through, plus returning back to iraq, wasn't stress enough. I actually made her sit down, turned her puter off, and made her listen to how I was feeling.
My wife was spending about 6-8 hours playing eoudine, a new internet computer game, she would talk to people,on team speak, but everytime i walk in the room, she would quite talking and start typing, then close it out. I was furries with questions and finally when we sat down, we came to an understanding that I was paranoid, and I have come to believ my wife that she would never cheat on me, or even consider it. we have been together for 12 years, married for 9, so it's easier for me to believe her.
point is relax, just sit her down, let her know how you feel, and if she says trust her, then do it. ( if you wanna be sneaky, get her cell phone and readwhat the texts are, but you will be breaking her trust)
2007-09-24 01:04:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋