Does anyone out there feel like they are in a crappy marriage? How long have you been married? What is keeping you there? How old were you when you got married? What makes it so crappy? Please be detailed in your answer.
2007-09-22 19:07:38 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if your marriage is stale try your local swingers club
it will differently kill or cure it on the spot !
but you'll have some great fun on the way!
2007-09-28 02:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a crappy marriage but not anymore. I was almost 21 when I got married...It wasn't very crappy until the last 10 years of the almost 31 year marriage. He complained about my hair color, clothes I wore, friends I had, and places I liked to go..Even the 2 pt jobs I had.. He wanted me in the house most of the time whether he was home or not.. We were complete opposites.. I am outgoing and a social butterfly where as he was a scientist and very serious and no fun.. It just got to the point where I told him to get a life, as he had no friends and hated me going out. I had been a stay at home mom and raised our 2 kids, and now I was having a blast. He hated it. I tried to include him it going out dancing at clubs and concerts etc.. He felt that was all teeny bopper stuff and all my friends were so much younger.. Finally he said he had a lawyer and I should get one.. He wanted a divorce.Bingo, I did, and we got divorced in 2000. He had a new person waiting and in 2006 he got remarried. I feel sorry for her.. Oh well the crap is out of my house and it feels good.. But, I would have stayed til death do us part as the vows said.. He made the decision for us and that's that.. I see it was for the best now.. Good Luck to you and your crappy marriage.. You have to find a way to either deal with the crap or get rid of it..
2007-09-23 02:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by Joanie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in two crappy marriages but I'll tell about the second one which lasted 5 years. It is just ending now. Two kids from first marriage and the blended family did not blend. Soon to be ex husband was a very negative and grumpy person. I am more of a positive person and could not stand the black cloud that invaded my life every day. He did not like my kids, did not help to take care of them, yelled at them through me, and the only way he knew how to talk to them was by joking and teasing. He was a good person and provider but him and I did not mesh well at all, two different people with two different opinions and parenting styles. Nothing seem to work well.
I decided it was time to end it because I had lost the love for him early on and it was making me miserable. We have been seperated and I do not miss him.
2007-09-23 02:37:16 · answer #3 · answered by sistermoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married for a while. I can tell you that marriage is not always peaches and cream. Couples will have fight and they do have problems. Maybe you should look at yourself. I know that sometimes I feel like I'm in a crappy marriage, but after the anger or bad feeling goes away i realized that no matter what happens or how angery, mad i get at him, in the end I still love him.
2007-09-29 23:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by s.fetters@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are 26, been married for 3 years.
we are perfect couple for half of the week. really perfect and that no one can imagine that we ever fight or argue. we are young, no kids, and attractive. we party together and hang out together and get a long really well with eachothers' friends. but we fight every 3-4 days. at times it can be really loud and violent and end up with either him kicking me out or him packing his stuff.
why we fight?
in the past it was money issue. we were always broke.
now that he just got a good job, we just moved to a new town, new place. nice and big. thought the fighting will stop. but we find new topic to fight about i guess.
its usually about small things. but the fight itself that cause the problem.
small things, followed by name calling, briging up the past and using words that we know best will deeply hurt eachother's feeling, then we just simply hate eachopther and cant even remember what cause the fight at the first place.
we love each other. deeply.
we have a lot of sex
we are eachother's best friend.
we long for the other, miss each other at all time.
we are still madly in love for eachother.
but we just dont know how to fight the right away.
tonight i dont think he is coming home. he left with a small suitcase. i know for sure a million percent that he wont cheat on me.
our marriage is probably going to be over.
i never want it to end.
2007-09-30 13:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by problem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only live once......Make yourself happy. No one else can,
once you do, you will find alot of happiness around you, First I was 19...we had 3 children...that kept us together until i got a good paying job...we were too young to get married..we grew up with different ideas, tastes...I loved education, he did not. Just too young.
Many, many things can make it crappy.......It is crappy because you do not like it.......
Get out and enjoy your Life.
2007-10-01 02:11:06 · answer #6 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I've been married for 1 year and 5 months and yes sometimes I feel that way. What is keeping me with my husband is my love for him. Not just love the physical and emotional but by staying committed I believe is the greatest act of love. That's were those vows come in.Because I don't always feel like being married. Or feel like pleasing him. I was 23 and he was 26. We have fought a lot of about our finances. We came from totally different types of families. My family lived poor and his family middle class/rich. I'm low maintenance he is high maintenance. We see things differently about many things. We are Christians so we don't believe in divorce and we don't believe God (who created marriage) would set us up to fail. You have to pick your battles because everything is not worth fighting over. Get marriage counseling it really helps. You have to want to improve things and know that its not about you anymore its about pleasing your spouse. I hope this helps.
2007-09-23 02:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in a crappy marriage for over ten years! I am so glad I ended. I am now happy with a wonderful person who loves me and our children.
Life is too short to be in an unhappy realtionship. Get out of it, even if there are kids involved. They will be happy if you are happy. There is a person out there who has been waiting for you for along time. Find yourself then find your true love.
Good Luck
2007-09-23 02:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u're in a crappy marriage.
try and see if u can make it less crappy.
check out every way 2 make ur marriage work nad if there's no hope get divorced and wait 4 the one.
2007-09-30 03:01:41 · answer #9 · answered by Samantha P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your spouse. How do YOU feel about this marriage. Do you think it's crappy. and if so, what do you think we can do together to improve it?
2007-09-23 02:16:49 · answer #10 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋