I know that reading this you all probily will not undrestand full whats going on but i need advise badly, I'm a 21 year old married mother of two amazing kids but the problem lies in the fact that I think I married to early and now have found my-self in love with some1 else and even though I have tried my hardest not to . I am taken for granted by my husband and don't feel love. The other guy make me feel amazing and my kids love him to bits I know that he feels the same about me and the kids and he has told me that if my-self or the kids need him that he'll be there for us. I don't feel like I love my husband, I do care about him deeply but thats all and I feel really about not being able to stop my-self feeling this way, what should I do?? my husband does put me down on a day to day basise and I work my tail of for him and the kids, he will not even go out and get a job, plez help me I'm going crazy!!!
2007-09-26 19:44:04 · 5 answers · asked by ali 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
When reading this I was thinking Hard work but give your marriage a chance you owe it to the kids
Then your last sentence changed my mind. You husband is a looser if he cannot get up and work for his family and still manages to put you down.
So I would leave him BUT I would not dive into this possible new relationship. Move out divorce heal Start dating this man get to know him better Then when your healing is done move into a full relationship.
How long will this take? For some a few weeks, for some a few months for some a few years, but set no timeline You don't want to end up making the same mistake twice.
2007-09-26 21:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You DID NOT try your hardest not to. We are never faced with a temptation that we can't overcome if we want to bad enough. You didn't want to. Be honest with yourself...you could change this if you wanted to. You just don't want to.
You took an oath before God. You need to think about that before running around with this other man anymore.
Also, a spouse always starts to look so much worse after meeting someone else. If you put the time you spend cheating into your marriage, you may be able to remedy what went wrong. You did love your husband once...remember?
Keep in mind that Mr Wonderful won't be perfect forever either.
2007-09-27 04:04:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do understand.. having your hopes dissapointed and feeling you deserve better, but yet you want to do the honorable thing by your kids daddy..
1.Sort out issues in your marriage. Can yur husband change? if not, make the hard decision to leave because when a man starts putting down a woman coz he cant do the manly thing and support his family, chances that things are going to get worse down the road are pretty high.
2. Dont complicate things with an affair. By the way, why would a man want to have an affair with a married woman? Tells you his opinion about marriage! From your description, i hope he doesnt want to but is a friend supporting you. Two wrongs dont make a right. Cheating on your husband sinks you to your lazy husbands level. So dont cheat on him!
But i totally understand your feelings towards this guy, he treats you nice and its normal to want to be treated nice.. so dont feel bad about it. But just dont act on those feelings yet till you resolve your feelings about your marriage.
Hang in there.. If this guy truly cares for you, he will respect your decisions.
2007-09-27 03:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by tandeamara 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow, your husband puts you down and won't even get a job? Time to dump this guy. Go with your other love. Sounds like your husband is a waste of space. Let him have a relationship with his kid, but you and he do not belong together. Sounds like you two did get married too young and he just doesn't know how to handle all this.
Go with your other love. You speak of him in such a flattering way I can tell you truly are in love with this man. Good luck
2007-09-27 02:59:11 · answer #4 · answered by yomama23 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ru married to my lil brother!?!?!? He's such a bum!! His wife is leaving, and now he wants the family to feel sorry for him!??! I don't, I just want him to tay away. His wife has moved on,(i told her 2 yrs ago she should lv). He won't work, mean to wife&kids, drinks&drugs all the time!! Is this your husband??
2007-09-27 05:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋