m 28 yrs old n married fm 2 ½ yrs. 1st yr of marriage went in taking abuse fm husband. 2nd yr I left him n went to live wid my parent..1year I stayed away fm him but was not happy widout him. The whole yr he tried to convince me to get back to him..said he is incomplete without me n misses me a lot. He promised me to fulfill all my dreams n will take care of me. I didn't get support fm anywhere I had to go back to him. I made him tell all his mistakes infront of our parent (which was of no use). Now it’s been 4 mnths living wid him..he has stopped abusing but doesn’t leave a chance to insult me. His nagging n taunting behavior has not changed. Recently I studied that when I was away;he developed frendship wid a female who is 10 yrs younger to him n he had been on a trip wid her for 4 days. When I asked he said he was very depressed n angry wid me that’s why he went wid dat female. I don’t understand this emotion of his. Now he has started doubting me that m going around wid someone.
2007-09-26 23:47:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, all of this back and forth is not good for you or your relationship, you have tried and tried, and only you.
From what I get, he has not even made an attempt to work on your relationship.
It is all you, and it is not fair.
I suggest you get out, and find another man who will treat you like you want to be treated, this back and forth and accusations is not good for you or your relationship.
You tried, you deserve someone better!!!!!
You do not need this abuse!!!!
You need to be happy!
2007-09-26 23:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said he insulted you, nagging n taunting behavior and even doubting you were all signs of abuse. He had an affair with another woman and turned around and accused you instead. I dont know how long can you take this abuse. Do you think you will have a future with him and prepare to have children. Give yourself serious thoughts. You are young and hv a good future. Dont allow this man to take away your dignity and self esteem.
2007-09-27 07:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds abusive and he is accusing you of cheating because he is actually the one cheating.
You really don't need to be in that type of relationship.
2007-09-26 23:57:54 · answer #3 · answered by Twilight 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not have children with him. tha marriage appears to be doomed. Try marriage counseling, or good luck with finding you a new place!! He is not going to change unless you insist that he does, and he truly loves you enough to want to see you happy.
2007-09-26 23:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
when someone accuses u of cheating and points the finger at u, it usually means he is the one cheating, its one way of justifying his own behavior, so he won't have to deal with it. promises mean nothing, his behavior speaks volumes about who he is. anger and depression is no reason to cheat on your spouse.
2007-09-26 23:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is a control freak and he won't change. Leave now. Be HAPPY. Good luck..
2007-09-29 12:50:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋