When i am 20years old I fall in love with some one who is handsome and dynamic.He also liked me and after 4years my parents disagreed for our marriage and I married with some one else.My husband loves me very much and he is a nice gentle man.After two years i met him in a function and again we used to meet but this time we came closer then before.I know that it was wrong but I cant live away from him I cannot tell it to any one.I am afraid that I will go into depression. He also loves me but now a days he thincks that it was wrong and avoiding me.I also know it was wrong but talking with me like a friend is not wrong. Shall I still love him or forget him?????????
I practiced but my mind is not listening to me
2007-09-26 22:39:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What a horrible situation to be in i know how strong the need is to be with the man you wanted to marry. I'm trying to read between the lines,did you have sex with the man you are in love with now and he thinks it was wrong and now he won't talk to you,is that what you are saying. If it is you are feeling really down right now and your heart is bleeding for this man. I feel really bad for you I have been where you are right now and i swore to myself i would never ever let myself or put myself in that position again. Your emotions are all over the place right now please what ever you do think before you act on anything you do. You should have never been stopped from marrying your first love this is all your parents felt. I'm sorry i can't help you but this is something that you will have to play out yourself know one can really help you with this. Sorry
2007-09-26 23:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, people get confused. The only thing I have for you is a story about my best friend. Her and her husband got into a big fight and he kicked her out of their home. She, feeling rejected and alone ran to another man she had feelings for and could relate to. She ended up pregnant, and confused. She confided in me, and I told her to write out the pros and cons for each man. Her husband, loved her, and they already had one child together. He was an honest, hard working man, who took very good care of his family, but she felt as though she was no longer sexually attracted to her husband, and he did not excite her. The other man, had no job, a child he was not able to care for, but she was attracted to him and felt a connection to him. She didn't know who the father of her child was, and she was torn. She stuck with her husband, knowing he was better for her in real life, and not just as a fantasy. They worked on their marriage and are now very happy and just gave birth to twin girls, who are indeed her husband's babies. Sometimes, our hearts will lie to us. First think which would be more logical, and better for you in the future. Then think about what your heart is telling you. Love and lust are two different thing, we often find ourselves, wanting what we know we can not have.
2007-09-27 05:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by TMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is nothing wrong in loving a person but it depends on your status. In your case, no one can stop you if you love the person because forgetting is very hard!You will always remember how much you love the person and all you have to do is treasure it and be thankful that you experienced how to love a person like him but since he is avoiding you...then...girl.......just treasure everything you shared with him but never bring it back again...........I don't think it's wrong if you still love him because he is a part of your past that helps you who you are now!.....He already gave you a sign that shower your husband with your love..........instead of bringing the past again and don't feel guilty if he avoids you, be thankful because he is helping you not to cheat to your husband!
2007-09-27 06:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by mackenzie 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl you are in such a mess....
What are you talking about....you love your husband and yet you let yourself to grow love for someone else...
IDK but when you see that you are going deep with someone besides your husband it is not a good sign...you just push yourself away from him if you want to keep your marriage.
If not than you need to make a decision.
Good luck.
2007-09-27 05:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by Aquamarine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then let your body listen to this... Stay away from him. It is amazing to me that we as grown people can not practice self control. I know you'll learn how to practice it if your husband finds out and leaves you.
2007-10-01 05:20:45 · answer #5 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sure the ole bf, wnats you back, now, your'e married, and then he'll dump you, he'll know ya are a cheater!! And he 'll know yuo'd cheat on him too!!! Pull yourself together lil lady, you've started a life w/some else!!
2007-09-27 05:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by happywjc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
swapna .. its a simple choice ... your husband is your present and your future... choose him {}
2007-09-27 06:35:36 · answer #7 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋