Okay so I'm worried to cut a long story short.
My bf split with his wife over a year ago. Tehyre still married but she moved out.
Shes really nasty to him and is costing him a fortune.
I moved in about a month ago.
He claims to love me and all the usual.
He rarely makes love to me, claiming he has a extremley small libido. But like sto get me worked up.
I've now found a pic of them two together on his desk he wants to keep it up claiming theyre like 'brother and sister' but it freaks me out that this is a wedding pitcure and that theyre that close.
They dont even see each other anymore as she refuses to speak to him other than regarding the divorce etc.
Am I being silly or is he just using me? (Been here before)
2007-09-26 23:08:13 · 12 answers · asked by UniBeauty 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he still has a photo of his first wedding on show and yet his ex wants nothing to do with him, Id say he has a problem.
Id be very wary. Ok so he may have a low sex drive......how old is he? But if you have only been together a while you should still be honeymooning.
Think carefully before you commit yourself, somethings not right here and it may be he is fixated with his ex and thats why he doesnt want to make love with you too often.
2007-09-26 23:18:03 · answer #1 · answered by Frufru111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully, you are the "other woman" in this trio because he is still married. Separated is NOT divorced. And why isn't he divorced after a year? You don't know...because you only know what he wants you to know. You don't know what he really feels about his wife. You only know what he tells you which may not be true.
I really think you should not be having a relationship with a married man. He may care about you in some way, but she is still his WIFE.
Even if he were actually divorced, he would still probably need time to get over a life altering situation like divorce. Separation isn't reall preparation for getting over divorce...it's a totally different feeling when a divorce actually takes place. I know....I've been there.
2007-09-27 06:46:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like this either. it has been my experience that men have a hard time letting go of a failed marriage. As his divorce grows closer he will go through more of a hard time as reality will realy set in. You are in for a rough ride. Sometimes they realize what they have currently and sometimes they don't. You need to take action for yourself so that you don't get hurt. Make him talk to you. Talk to him so that he really hears you. If that photo is up, then he is not fully focused on you, he is still healing, not a bad thing. Be careful, it can work out, however he has to go through a full grieving process.
2007-09-27 06:52:42 · answer #3 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just take a long time to get over things, and it looks like he may still have some issues to sort out, I'd back off and wait til his divorce is through before attempting any sort of relationship with him.
2007-09-27 06:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Truely... it sounds as if he is using you. A man who wants to cutt all old strings and begin a new relationship with someone dont carry their wedding picture around.
It sounds more like he is trying to get his wife back but in the mean time need someone to fill the emptiness that he is experiencing at the moment.
Be carefull. Be very careful. You could get hurt really bigtime.!!!
2007-09-27 06:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a very frustrating situation. To me it seems like he's having a hard time getting over this other woman. You need to talk with him and tell him that it bothers you and that you will have to reconsider the relationship if it goes on. Perhaps he could speak with a therapist as well. It doesn't sound like he's using though. It sounds like he having issues moving on.
2007-09-27 06:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Whatever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not really over his ex. I'm told that my ex keeps pics of me. It doesn't bother me, if it doesn't bother his 3rd wife. I can't say anything about his sexual habits. Some people have low sex drive. I always look at situations like this as... everyone have a past. It is not suppose to disappear, because you come into the picture.
2007-10-01 05:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too little info, but it sometimes takes along time to get past a divorce!! I saved r wedding pictures, for the kids, when they grew up, and they relly appreciated it!! They were little adn don't remember alot, but these helped them!! He needs to get the picture off the desk, its not his sister-its his xwife!! good luck
2007-09-27 06:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living with a married man and you want to know if you are being used?
Well if you need someone to tell you that, then yes you are.
2007-09-27 07:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
using you.
2007-09-27 06:31:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋