Marriage & Divorce - 26 September 2007

When I managed to get away from my abusive husband after 4 yrs of torture,I met a man that treated me like a princess,found myself in a world of luxury I never thought would ever experience and got carried away with it all. Slept together once and then after I called it off realised I was pregnant. If i tell anyone that child has different father I will loose all my friends as I am a christian and this was just a moment of madness after being so low. Also would hurt other child from marriage.
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2007-09-26 10:54:32 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

We live in a house that was purchased in my name during the marriage. There is no hope of saving the marriage. How do I get her out?

2007-09-26 10:53:55 · 22 answers · asked by imsurroundedbyidiots 2

2007-09-26 10:46:35 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

It is only $1100 so far, and he set up pmts of $100 a month to stay out of collections. But at the time of injury he was unemployed. I was not working for a couple years cuz I went back to school, and he didnt pay my bills. I was lucky to get gas and grocery money. I had to live on my student loan checks. We lived with my mom at the time cuz he lost his house. He has had at least 10 jobs in the 6 yrs we've been together, and now that I finally got a decent job, I do not want to spend all my money on his bills. That is my grocery money I'm spending. I also want to buy stuff that I need sometimes too. I don't buy high-end things, but feel I deserve to spend my check on some new shoes if I need them rather than pay all his crap. I am already paying his cell phone bill and a legal bill.
This was not even medically necessary. Paying it will put a burden on me and my kids. If I had the extra to spare, I would do it. Hes a good guy, just unstable, so plz dont say divorce him!

2007-09-26 10:37:54 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

why do guys always say no fighting below the belt when their play fighting with me? whats that mean and why do they say it?

2007-09-26 10:37:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a few friends that have lover that are locked up right now...some of them said yes they would and others said no...i feel as if when you love the person that you should stay with them no matter what...but on the other hand it all depends on what they went to jail for...

2007-09-26 10:22:11 · 23 answers · asked by Taurus P 1

WE often are at odds w/ith small conflicts.. he is almost narsistic.. He makes all decisions without asking me.defensive and quick to anger... what is he hiding?
Should I be suspicious?
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2007-09-26 10:17:45 · 7 answers · asked by kittycat 1

IHave been with my BF for 21/2 years and living together for 1 year . I just found out 2 weeks ago he cheated on me, I looked trough his phone and I found a text were he was telling the girl the sex was great when can we do it again? I confronted him about it he said he was sorry and cried and said he loved me and didn't want to loose me. He asked if I could forgive him I said yes but I’m not sure I can now. I think I’m starting to fall out of love with him. And I feel sad about that. I need good advice

2007-09-26 10:12:40 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous

my partner is recently divorced but the assets are still being divided. they have a house which has been on the market for ages which she still lives in mortgage free. he has 10,000 more than her in savings which he has to pay her half of and she is demanding this half now. we have a disabled 6 month old daughter and a huge mortgage along with 2 teenagers from my marriage years ago. if he pays her this money we have no safety net if he becomes sick etc and can't work and would risk losing our house. the court order states that these assets have to be divided but she has already spent money in her sole name but her solicitor is threatening us with court action if we touch his savings. as most of the capital is tied up in the house we want to hold off on dividing these assets until it is sold. she has no children and a good job and i have had to give up work to care for our daughter. we have had to let our solicitor go as we can no longer afford him and we're confused!! what can we do?

2007-09-26 10:02:26 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-fiance and I broke up 5 mos ago. We have 2 children together a 2 year old and 1 year old. I didn't want to be so quick to put him on child support because I wanted to give him a chance to support his kids without using a 3rd party and most of all the LAW. I notice that every month he gives me stories (LIES) about his finances. Story after story and I keep on catching him in lies regarding his finances. The money that he do send is chicken feed and I know that this is done for spite. However, I still want to be reasonable about this and do not want things to get UGLY. I was thinking about sending a certified letter to his house with a well outlined agreement of how much of his share he should pay every month along with his responsibilities and get his signature and just work out an agreement that way.... This would be more like a "promise to pay and take care of my kids" type of agreement that can maybe be used in court........ Or should I just go on and file child support?

2007-09-26 09:54:11 · 9 answers · asked by Alexis 1

He quit suddenly on Sat night after all his adult life smoking. Sunday he was extremely nasty all day, and in front of the kids. I suggested he get patches or something and tried staying out of his way. He only dcided to get the nicotine gum on Tuesday .I smoke under 10 a day and since he quit I've been going outside the house. Tonight I stood at the back door, door open and kitchen door shut (so it wouldn't go further in the house) as it was cold and dark. He came storming in shouting at me saying how hard it is for him etc You might think I am not being supportive but there have been times over the years eg when I was pregnant or ill and I stopped smoking and he kept smoking in the kitchen. I never asked him to stop or go outside, and he never offered. As he was so nasty on sunday, it is hard to feel supportive of someone who called you a f*ing b*tch in front of your young kids, said he hated you etcHe has never asked for my support, just ranted and shouted more than usual.

2007-09-26 09:46:35 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-26 09:35:12 · 22 answers · asked by babypants 1

I went to a niteclub and was dancing with this really handsome guy and as we were dancing I kissed him about 3 times, should I tell my husband? I love my husband but he never tells me that I am attractive or that I look good,(I know I am a pretty girl but like to hear it from my husband) so when other men show me attention I love it, but would rather get it from my husband. I have talked to my husband but he says that its just the way he is.

2007-09-26 09:29:32 · 64 answers · asked by rscottsluv 1

2007-09-26 09:28:13 · 18 answers · asked by Mama 81 4

BF is great does everything well! Treats me well all and all that! But he has one flaw and it bothers me alot. He's not very book smart nor does he speak intelligently. Its almost embarrassing to the point where i don't want him around my friends or anyone i associate with. All my friends are really smart and i don't want them looking down on him. How can i deal with this? What should i do?

2007-09-26 09:16:12 · 22 answers · asked by T 2

2007-09-26 09:16:01 · 19 answers · asked by chuminera 2

2007-09-26 09:03:47 · 37 answers · asked by brian b 2

My man finally confessed he played the rule. We met at a club, I got a little tipsy so my friend gave him my number. I was ready to blow him off when I heard from him on the 3rd day. I always suspected he was playing the game and he finally told me. We're not young kids, I'm 38, he's 36 so I was a little annoyed. But, I'll be honest, he kept me on my toes, waiting for him. Why do people do this? I say if you like the person, call them!!! What do you u think?

2007-09-26 09:02:45 · 11 answers · asked by Lily 3

about to divorce a bipolar off meds 4 mos. Its been hell but I do still Love her much to my dismay.

2007-09-26 09:01:40 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Would you stay with your man for the sake of your kids if he:-

- Controlled you with money?
- Locked you in the house?
- Hid your car keys, tax disc & drained your fuel?
- Left you without food or heating?

2007-09-26 09:00:58 · 52 answers · asked by Steven 1

He is a man to take charge and navigate during trips and he is very resourceful in many ways. He smells bad even after taking a bath and he really has no sex appeal and he doesn't seem to need sex anymore. I wish that he would take charge in the bedroom but even if he did, I would get so grossed out from his breath!

2007-09-26 08:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by cheery 1

My husband pays child support (on time and in full). In his divorce decree he pays 1/2 of copayments, medicine, daycare, ect. but it says nothing about lunches. It does say that he has to pay for post secondary education but that is college. Does he have to pay for 1/2 of school lunches. He thinks not, but his ex says yes. I thought that child support covers food, shelter, and clothing the necessities. School lunch is food, a basic necessity so what do you think.

2007-09-26 08:48:58 · 15 answers · asked by Julie2008 1

She has been married before and has three children. Everyone she dates isn't good enough for her and she constantly compares their negative qualities to her ex. She calls me constantly wanting advice or sympathy. I really don't know what else to say to her.

2007-09-26 08:47:30 · 4 answers · asked by Junebaby 3

2007-09-26 08:46:26 · 24 answers · asked by Monica 2

Would this man be guilty of sexual abuse?This happened several times& he would put her his belly & go up & down like riding a horse. This made her very uncomfortable. She told him that she was going to tell her mother,& he told her if she did he would leave & they would starve to death. So she didn't tell her mother untill she found out they were getting divorced, 2yrs. later.

2007-09-26 08:44:32 · 23 answers · asked by GREGORIOUSITY 5

My wife is obessed with weight... mine, hers, the kids. It's driving me nuts. She is a recovering anorexic and works out 2 hours a day, doesn't eat after 4, doesn't eat sweets, counts every calorie. That wouldn't be so bad but she hounds me and the kids (twin 4 year old boys) even though no one in our family is even close to being overweight. She wont let the kids have ANY sweets or desserts and bitches to me if we go out to eat and I order something fattening or if I skip a day at the gym. We got in a huge fight yesterday because my son was hungry at like 8 so I gave him some crackers and cheese and she freaked out and said they can't eat between meals. . Outside of this, our marriage is very happy. Is this an unhealthy obsession and should I encourage her to get help, or is she just a health nut? I don't think our boys should even be thinking about "getting fat" at their age and it bugs the hell out of me. Plus, I don't want them to see overweight people as weak or bad. Suggestions?

2007-09-26 08:41:09 · 22 answers · asked by Yogi 6

How do you deal with these things when it comes to loving others???

2007-09-26 08:23:58 · 24 answers · asked by Rita 6

My wife of 14 years,(recovering alcoholic) has replaced her booze with pills,through perscriptions with several different docs or stuff available on the street. Her favorites seem to be vicoden, clonapin, and percocet. She does suffer from long term depression and is on meds for that as well. Through the years I've done the cat and mouse thing, removed her access from bank accounts (which she previously raided numerous times) tried to be "supportive" and attend meetings, counceling sessions with her , ect. Recently she spent time in a rehab/physc. center for an overdose/suicide attempt after a fight over her taking $2000 in cash, and deniying it. We have 2 children in their early teens that are mostly sheltered from the chaos and doing well, but it will start to affect them if she doesnt get her act together. I'm contemplating a divorce but have a sizable salary and assets and am worried that if she gets kiddies and access to cash the results will be disaterous. I feel trapped

2007-09-26 08:23:19 · 15 answers · asked by basketone 2

We met about 3 years ago. We started dating and soon we had a relationship. SEx was never that great, he was 24, and i was 20, which i thought it was odd, since he was in a relationship with a 27 year old when he was only 19, i thought he had experience but i soon founded out he didnt. To make the story short, we started having sex like 2 a week, and honestly for me that was very little, im a very senxual person so i understood that he was not like me. Umm 2 years after we got engage and we currently are, during those 2 years i noticed that sex was not important to him, we would do the same things, so i suggested we should do different things. That worked out for a while, then from 2 a week went to 1 a week, and now is like 1 every 14 days. I mean we are getting marrie in a few months and i think this is really breaking up things, i have talked to him and he says is not me, is him that he is happy with the things we have now, i dont wanna think is me, i mean im 5'5 and 125lbs,

2007-09-26 08:21:52 · 22 answers · asked by mel 2

I found out a couple of months ago that my husband cheated on me with and ex-girlfriend, but he is still doing it! He told me then that they didn't do anything, they just talked, but I beg to differ, from what I know, found out, and have seen, I know different, he says he is a man and has no reason to lie about anything, but obviously he does, cause he is!! How do I handle a situation like this, I have debated leaving, but I love him so much, I cannot imagine my life without him.

2007-09-26 08:20:00 · 35 answers · asked by Jess 1