How should I comfort my friend who just broke up with a man?

Question

She has been married before and has three children. Everyone she dates isn't good enough for her and she constantly compares their negative qualities to her ex. She calls me constantly wanting advice or sympathy. I really don't know what else to say to her.

Answer 1

Just listen to her thats all u can do, ask her if she needs anything and let her know she can count on u anytime... Its a rough situation and this is the time u need ur friends so just keep doing what ur doing...

Answer 2

Perhaps your friend hasn't taken time for herself to readjust to life and grieve over her losses and the bad marriage she had before?

It takes time to get over a long-term relationship... but the person can still get out and do things -- join a gym, take karate or another class, find a hobby, have a meal out with a friend, etc. Setting small goals and making plans for the future also helps.

Your friend may not have given herself adequate time to get her life back together. She really needs time for herself, and to figure out what she wants from life. Just be supportive.

she can also look up LIFE AFTER DIVORCE, SURVIVING A BREAK UP for more info.

Answer 3

if you are a real friend, you will tell her the truth. if you think that she can't find a decent relationship because she constantly compares people to her ex, then tell her that. no one else is going to tell her. i once had to tell a friend that constantly complained that she couldn't find anyone that it was because she was just too picky. i mean a guy literally had to be perfect for her to go to dinner with. she might be mad at you for a while, but at least she knows the truth.

Answer 4

Don't give her the sympathy anymore. It is apparent that she has unfinished issues with her ex that she needs to put to rest before she can move on. She can't continue to punish her current relationships for all the bad that her ex did.