I found out a couple of months ago that my husband cheated on me with and ex-girlfriend, but he is still doing it! He told me then that they didn't do anything, they just talked, but I beg to differ, from what I know, found out, and have seen, I know different, he says he is a man and has no reason to lie about anything, but obviously he does, cause he is!! How do I handle a situation like this, I have debated leaving, but I love him so much, I cannot imagine my life without him.
2007-09-26 08:20:00 · 35 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's just trying to protect your feelings, he knows you would bug him for details about their sexcapades so either move out and on or get over it.. If you want the details ask the woman tell her he said bad things about her and he only messed with her out of pitty, you know play both sides to get her on your side.
2007-09-26 08:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He lies about his adultery because he knows it is wrong. If you stay with him he is having his cake and eating it too. He is totally disrespecting you. Walking all over you and his x gf. His head must be so big he can't get through the door anymore. Why do you still love someone who treats you like trash. The man you thought he was, is not who he is, he is a low down lying, cheating adulterer. I would boot him to the curb so fast, divorce him and get every thing I could from him.
He wouldn't be wiping his feet on me!!! No way.
There is life after divorce. No need to stay where someone is just using you and that may come home with some fatal disease and give it too you. Yeck! You really want his girlfriends seconds and by the way she is not his x any longer, now is she?
2007-09-26 08:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well telling the truth will not do him any good. Just start finding other things to do to occupy your time and hang out yourself sometimes. If he loves you, he'll start staying home more often to keep an eye on you. If he uses it as an excuse to hang out more then hire a detective give him a copy of the pictures and tell him you want a divorce. If he does not straighten up then leave him. A woman should always have enough money put to the side to leave when she feels uncomfortable in any situtation.
2007-09-26 08:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by My two cents 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you imagine the REST OF YOUR LIFE like this??
Wondering if he's cheating again and knowing he is, coming on here and asking for advice about it???
Come on.
It will be hard, but LEAVE HIM!!
He has obviously made it perfectly clear that he has no intentions of stopping and that those wedding vows you two took together, really didn't mean a whole lot to him.
Leave him.
Good luck!
2007-09-26 08:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!! What a horrible situation! First of all, when a man says that he has nothing to hide, that usually means that he knows you know something, but doesn't know to what extent, so rather than be upfront and honest and risk losing you completely, they lie to cover thier asses... Men are stubborn and most of them do what they want whenever they want.
The fact that he cheated doesn't neccessarily mean that he doesn't love you, otherwise, he would just tell you and let the relationship end. Most men are just sexual creatures.. This doen't make it right by any means...
My husband cheated on me early in our relationship. I flipped out and it almost ended right there, but like you, I was so in love with him, I REFUSED to let some floozy come between us. We talked until we were blue in the face and went round and round in circles until finally, I came to a conclusion that, to my knowledge, ended his little cheating habit. I turned it all around by simply telling him "fine. New rules. You want to cheat? Then cheat. But I get to cheat too." After rendering him speechless, he finally replied "I can't stand the thought of you with someone else" and I said "exactly." He's never cheated again, well, that I know of anyway. It may not be the healthiest way to handle it, but it works.. And if I ever suspect anything, all I have to do is say the 4 magic words... You cheat, I cheat. (I have never cheated on my husband, just thought I'd throw that out there)...
The biggest thing you need to make sure of is that you get HARD evidence.. Never go by hear say or intuition.. My mom always told me to listent to my gut, but in a situation like this, even an accuastion can end your relationship.. Plus, a lot of women are guilty of getting something in their head and then thinking themselves into a fury. Don't say anything unless you have personally seen it or you have actual physical evidence you can show him..
I hope this helps you, it's what saved my marriage..
Good luck...
2007-09-26 08:41:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If he is cheating and you know for a fact that he is....why would you want to be with him? You should leave him...he is a cheater and a liar. Why do SOME husbands think it is ok to cheat and lie about it? Well in my opinion they don't really think it is right...therefore they lie to try and cover up their cheating ways. Hoping they can still have their cake and eat it too.
2007-09-26 08:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It really sucks to be in love all by yourself.
Honey, yes you love him, yes you cannot imagine your life without him, but can you REALLY continue life with him, knowing he is cheating?
It would be one thing i he had asked your forgiveness and is turning away from the cheating... but he wants his cake and to eat it too, and is LYING to u about it.
Of course he will lie, he doesnt want to hurt you, but is too dumb to realize that his lies are what is hurting worse, adding salt to the injury if you will.
I hope this all works out for you. I know if my husband cheated, lied, and continued to cheat it would be so hard for me to leave, as i love him completely, but I would have to. Someone has to love and respect me back, and if its not gonna be him IT IS gonna be me.
2007-09-26 08:55:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not support cheaters but I have to inform you that numerous studies show that women now cheat as much or more than men so the question should be why do people cheat and lie about it...
2007-09-26 08:23:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
why is it that when someone (other than our husband/wife) does something just as dumb...we dont let that bother us..as a matter of fact we tell them that it is dumb and that we dont agree with it and that we want no part of it..but when it is our spouse, we think that the whole world is coming to an end!...be strong and let him know that this is not ok..and as far as him lying to you about...he feels ashamed because he knows what he is doing is wrong..dont let him walk on you like that..get up and leave...you can do better than that..he will only continue to do it if you let him
good luck
2007-09-26 08:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by Mindy S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-20 01:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋