Did anyone divorce a bipolar person and feel guilt over it? How did you deal with it?

Question

about to divorce a bipolar off meds 4 mos. Its been hell but I do still Love her much to my dismay.

Answer 1

Yeah but he was undiagnosed and even though his father was he refused to seek treatment or accept that the things he did were damaging. I don't feel guilty, these people can do a lot of damage to others. Their behavior is often times abusive. And we say, "Well, they have this illness" This illness isn't an excuse for bad behavior and hurting others, plain and simple. They want to do that, then they should find another bipolar person and they can abuse each other.

"Dump the guilt, this about survival. It is your responsibility to take good care of the precious gift you were given: YOUR MIND, YOUR BODY, YOUR SOUL."

Answer 2

Bless you. I have been in the same boat as you are in. I divorced a bi polar alcoholic. It was a long and hard decision. The guilt that you are dealing with is the way I felt. It was a feel sorry for situation. I finally realized the relationship was very unhealthy for us BOTH. After a period of time and self help for myself the guilt has lessoned. I felt as if he were a child that I needed to take care of. Today he is even worse, but me, I have never lived life any better. All things happen for a reason and if you have searched high and low to find an answer to this and divorce is what you have come up with, go for it. There is one chance to live life and you better do it while you can.

Answer 3

Hi....

I have bipolar disorder, and I have been severely ill from time to time. I had to take the bull by the horns and do everything i could in order to manage my illness -- which meant therapy, following doctor's advice... and being consistent.

If you love her, and she loves herself too -- then she will take the measures to manage her illness. If not, then you will have to do what is in YOUR best interest.

It's a shame when people have illnesses like bipolar disorder, because it's not something the bipolar person created -- it's an illness... But when the person doesn't take care of themselves, does things to make the illness worse (like drinking or not taking meds and going to therapy), it's difficult to live with them.

Lots of us bipolars stop meds because of the side-effects or because we think we dont' need them anymore... it's hard for us and those who love us.

I wish you all the best..

Answer 4

I'm bipolar and quite frankly, I wouldn't blame my husband if he wanted to go. I know I'm a turd to live with. I can't even stand myself sometime.