2007-09-26 08:46:26 · 24 answers · asked by Monica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The wife was really trying to find a job, but was just unsuccessful. They went to the infertility clinic and according to medical science nothing was wrong with either husband or wife. The husband made enough money to support them. He also, allowed his mother to try and run the wife and the home. When the wife even acted as though she did not like suggestions that the mother in law made; the husband got furious with the wife. The wife now does not make enough money to be self supporting, but she does work and has worked in the past. The wife is trying to find a better job. The husband was very hard to please and he filed for the divorce and left his wife. He even wants to put the only place this lady can call home on the market for sale. She can not afford to keep it. Any advise is appreciated.
2007-09-26 10:23:19 · update #1
Since the house is going to be sold she will get half of the proceeds. She can take that and get herself a place to live. As for the rest of it, sounds as if she is better off without him, he is obviously controlling and emotionally abusive. As for whether they are good reasons for him to leave his wife, no but it doesn't matter, I say "Good riddance to bad rubbish." and move on.
2007-09-26 14:04:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abuse would be a good reason.
However, as to the other things you have written, were kids ever discussed? Did she know that she was unable to have children? And if so, was that okay when they got married?
Too often people get married without discussing the most important things about marriage. The couple is all caught up in the passion of early love and they don't realize how many things will cross them up along the way. This is one reason why a long engagement is preferred.
The job shouldn't be an issue. There are other jobs. Not having children however, can be very integral to many people. Some folks agree to adopt, but others feel the need to sow their own seeds, as it were.
2007-09-26 15:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by huckleberry 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't sound to me like those were the real reasons why he left her. Those were probably the excuses that he gave, but definitely not the reason.
Take the "job" issue... Two people, with no children, could easily live comfortably on one person's salary.
As far as not being able to have any children, there are so many options available to women in that area...this is the year 2007. Not only that, were they sure that it was her inability to conceive? Evidently, adoption was never an option, either.
2007-09-26 16:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by dark eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on the man. Some men want kids, not to adopt but to have kids of their own. So this could be enough for him to leave. As for the job, again some men are into money, and if you can't keep a job, this could also make him want to leave.
2007-09-26 15:53:08 · answer #4 · answered by harold 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not trying to sound mean but I have a girlfriend that was married to man that couldn't have children. She wants kids more than anything in the world, so she left her husband.
It wasn't a very nice thing to do to you but maybe deep down your husband knows that he wants children someday, maybe he feels the same way my friend did about the issue.
I'm sorry that you had to get hurt out of the deal though...Good luck.
2007-09-26 15:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If the guy really wants kids, and his wife can't give him kids, then yes, that is a perfectly good reason. As for the job thing, no, that's stupid. But if he wants children, he should be able to do whatever he can to get them.
2007-09-26 15:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by allisonnnn :] 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my humble opinion, the only "good" reasons to leave one's spouse are infidelity, lack of trust, or criminal activity. If this man wants to leave his wife because she had a hard time with a job (I am guessing this means either she got fired or can't find work) and is physically unable to have children... those are not good reasons.
2007-09-26 15:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by vaughnc5920 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I've found that whatever the reasons for someone leaving, if someone actually leaves then it should be left alone. For someone to leave over issues like that, either there were other, unmentioned issues, or it was really important to him to have children.
2007-09-26 15:50:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course no!!! that's really sad that some men keep with that attitude of believing they're not equal than women, and they think they're much because they're stronger physically. He's a jerk and those aren't good reasons for leaving her!
2007-09-26 15:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
could just be an excuse. UNLESS of course, she let that be the only thing that dominated her life; she was not functional b/c of it; or became a completely irrational personal b/c of the hurt and anger; which led to total breakdown in the marriage.
2007-09-26 15:51:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋