Marriage & Divorce - 26 September 2007

2007-09-26 18:26:12 · 7 answers · asked by butterflylover 4

My husband never wants sex with me, and tries to blame it on his medication, but I notice whenever I am asleep or not home he overloads on the porn. He tries to swear that he doesn't jerk off, but I know he does. What the hell is wrong with him, I know alot of other men that would love to be with me. I am not trying to sound cockey, but I am not unattractive and the rare times we do have sex I always ignitiate it, and he cannot ejaculate. Are there any other men that have this problem as to where they would rather jerk off then f***k their wife.

2007-09-26 18:19:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok.I met a wonderful man 2 1/2 yrs ago and we fell madly in love.On our 37th day 2gether he took me to our fav place & asked me to be his wife.I said yes!Since then our situation has virtually remained unchanged.We were both still married to others(but long separated) and needed to obtain divorces.I got mine a year and a half later while he stated that she was giving him trouble.Then at the 2 yr mark I went to the courthouse to check, since it is public info, & found that he was granted a divorce 2 weeks after I was.I've asked why he bothered to ask for my hand while seemingly he wasn't prepared to marry me & he stated that he's nervous.Well,we still don't even live together and I'm tired of the holdup.He's good looking & has cash, while I'm HOT and broke.We each have kids who r teens.He declares his undying love 4 me & says he intends 4 things to change but can't say when.O Brother! I dont like the situation at all but love him with all my heart.Stuck in a bad place. Give me ur thots.

2007-09-26 18:10:38 · 12 answers · asked by babydove 1

My spouse pays more attention to what I am doing then what the kids are doing. I ask him to guide the kids and help out and he says, "why they have brains?" But he watches my every move, asks me why am I doing this or why am I doing that...yet he can't bother to get the the kids doing their homework or going to bed when they are tired. He's more concerned with controlling me (his wife, an adult) then helping with the kids. He denies controlling me when I confront him, by either lieing or saying he worded something wrong. The other thing is the kids can sense this and use it for their advantage (but thank god they are good kids). The other night after I told my son 3 times to go to bed they were carrying on in the kitchen and I said why don't u spport me in parenting? Hoping he would also say, your ma said "go to bed". Instead his response was well if he can't get up for school then it's his problem. Are men really that fffffing stupid Or WHAT?

2007-09-26 18:09:27 · 12 answers · asked by Cyndia 2

Hi, my sis and her husband are separated, he lives in PR she lives in FL.. she moved here to get better help for her son who has cerebral palsy. the husband cheated on her now, he has 3 kids with this other one and does not want to keep supporting my sis and nephew. he told my sisther he can not pay hor the house any longer and dont want to send her money either. My nephew is almost 21 y.o. and because of his condition he can not work, he is like a baby, everything needs to be done for him.. IS IT OK FOR MY NEPHEW'S DAD TO STOP SUPPORT FOR HIM AND MY SISTER AND JUST LEAVE THEM TO THEIR LUCK??.. IS THERE ANYTHING THAT CAN BE DONE TO MAKE THE BASTARD SUPPORT MY NEPHEW FOR LIFE???..PLEASE HELP.

2007-09-26 18:04:27 · 2 answers · asked by ohjoana 1

Recently I've met a few people who talked about being currently married (one is a professor who talks about his family in class all of the time) who don't wear rings. According to my friend, some people just don't.

I can't think of a reasonable explanation for why someone who's married would choose not to wear a ring unless they wanted to mislead people about their marital status when it suits them. Are there other reasons I'm missing??

2007-09-26 17:59:50 · 41 answers · asked by quirkyfunnyone 1

my sister who is a homemaker saved her little money from odd jobs like helping clean homes, babysitting doing whatever to save $ to buy her husband tickets to a pricey comedy show. They have 2 boys 8-10 yr old,rarely do they get to go out due to their income & time,he leaves the show several times to go bathroom, phone calls coming in at midnight the next day he's a cop and works 2nd shift, text messages blowing up his phone the morning after. She asks him casually if everything is ok he says things are great its just work. Women intuition or suspicion whatever you want to call it she checks the phone. Its his female partner from work texting saying " i know you can dance baby " , " i bet your date is boring", " when are we going out again " and so on this is on my sisters special date that shes been killing herself to make happen. She calls phone company on the third day hes been talking to her on a few occasions for over 1hr without her knowledge. She confronts him, he says nothing.

2007-09-26 17:58:15 · 21 answers · asked by ? 3

At 10 months old, I have read and believe that my daughter should have some ability to soothe herself to sleep at night. Mom feeds her a bottle and rocks her for 30-60 min until she is sound asleep and then puts her to bed. She cries and appears defiantly not to want to go to bed. I say as long as she is good: fresh diaper, properly fed, warm, secure, soft music, nothing hurting her---she might have to lay there and cry for 10-15 minutes. Am I mean? An older friend told me she always regrets not doing that with her own daughter---teaching them to soothe themselves to sleep. my baby sleeps well at my house--sometimes cries for 3-5 minutes--- No one can seem to get through to her--Any ideas IF my ideas ar---What is right? If she awakes at 230a, Mom fixes a warm bottle and rocks her back to sleep..? How can I get through to her without pissing her off and causing problems. Why won't she bring our daughter to my Mom & Dad's? every other day at her parents Please help

2007-09-26 17:52:32 · 7 answers · asked by boyfromtoledo 2

2007-09-26 17:28:58 · 32 answers · asked by huntress 1

I'd especially love to hear from older women who are truly living it.

2007-09-26 17:06:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-26 16:59:34 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

we've have been married for 4 years he was never really a romantic person. well when we first started he used to give me a little affection even in public now we hardly kiss we don't cuddle and he doesn't hold my hand. he touches me only when he wants sex we have sex every single day (except that time of the month). when i asked he said I don't give him affection and if he doesn't get it he is not going to give. I do hug and kiss him every now and then but not the way i would like to sometimes i feel the same way if he doesn't do it why should I. i don't think he is cheating he is a good man and is always home. what do i do?

2007-09-26 16:58:34 · 5 answers · asked by Janice 1

I am trying to keep good relations with my daughter's father. He see's her once every 6 months or less. And she's only 3. Anyways... I've tried to ask nicely..for help..any help... $20, 30, 50....every so often something.... but he never does. I have been really nice ...but how long do I let this go on. I could really use the help. But I don't want to make him mad and just not have anything to do with us, or rather her. She deserves to have a dad... and I have never kept him from her. So tell me guys... do you get mad when they ask for child support? What do you suggest?

2007-09-26 16:56:24 · 20 answers · asked by ol me 2

I am a 19 year old guy and dont want to get married or have kids.
I ask questions like this and people say I am to young and will change my mind. Well I am not to young and have made my mind up on this one. I just wanna live in a apartment or condo by myself. I would rather be alone and not have to deal with anyone else. Why does everyone think all there is to life is marriage and having kids and then tell me there is something wrong with me when I dont want any of that. I stand alone and dont want or need anyone, I dont get lonely either, so no I wont be one of those grumpy old man when I get older( for most of you that answered my other question about this). Also people always say dumb stuff like "I was like you at your age and I changed my mind," well good for you, but I am not you so enough of that bull. People just cant except other ways people live

2007-09-26 16:38:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are a very happy couple. We have no trust issues, He and I have friends from the opposite sex. We love each other very much. We have a mutual friend that is Bisexual. We were talking and we both had at one point in time wondered what it would be like to have a threesome. I have never been with anyone, except for my husband. I have been very curious as to what it would be like to be with a woman. I am just wondering what others think on this subject.. The threesome would be me, my hubby, and another woman. Please let me know your imput on this. Thank you so much.

2007-09-26 16:31:47 · 39 answers · asked by Bubblebunzz 5

My long-term boyfriend cheated on me. He had about a 3-4 month affair, and told the woman that he was in love with her. What he did really hit home with me. I think that my boyfriend and I have something so special, so we're still together. I tried ending things with him, but he was very persistant with calling me afterwards and begging for me to take him back. He made it VERY clear that he'd never cheat on me again and that he was sorry. I eventually decided to give him another chance. I feel like I've done all the crying in the world and I've asked him almost every question I could think of regarding the affair, but the pain is still there. I constantly have nightmares about him cheating, and I don't trust him at all. I have all of his passwords for everything so I can keep tabs on him. It's sad that my "perfect" relationship had to come to this. We don't have money for therapy, so what's the best way that we can try and work things out ourselves?Talking doesn't seem to help anymore.

2007-09-26 16:28:09 · 22 answers · asked by Amanda 1

We want to try a threesome but where we live there is noone even remotely interested. Should I search proffessionally or try the internet? It is a fantasy of ours but how to go about finding the right person for a one time thing

2007-09-26 16:24:28 · 29 answers · asked by mollyc 1

2007-09-26 16:21:47 · 30 answers · asked by chill 1

family like your parents and your sisters because he dose not get along with your family. and that he will divorce you if you do talk to them i don't know what to do please if someone can give some advice thanks.

2007-09-26 16:19:08 · 42 answers · asked by kristic07 1

2007-09-26 16:16:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

So according to many people on here this guy I work with seems to be interested in me (I hope). So I'm just wondering if this is another good sign or was he just chatting today?
We were talking and the conversation got around to me asking him if he'd ever been to Paris. He said he hadn't but was planning a trip there this summer and then asked if I was interested in planning a trip there too (or something to that effect). I then told him I'd already been and he thought that was very cool and told me he'd love to see my pics sometime.
I can't remember his exact words about me taking a trip too but I know it was something to the effect that I could have taken it as an invitation or not. It was not like he said "hey do you want to come with me" or anything but he didn't just say he was planning on going.
Does this sound like an invitation to mention this again or just something to say at the time and he's already forgotten it?

2007-09-26 15:49:58 · 7 answers · asked by jenny s 2

What are some things i can do 2 to turn my wife on more 2 get her more interested in me in the bedroom?

2007-09-26 15:49:20 · 14 answers · asked by J J 1

2007-09-26 15:46:24 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

I get mad at everybody, for little reasons. I holler at my kids. I get mad at my husband for no reason. I am jelous at him for nothing, when I know he's trying his best to make me happy. I get mad at my friends, till nobody wants to talk to me anymore. Seems there's no end to it. Is there any help for this???

2007-09-26 15:30:58 · 8 answers · asked by lightning struck 2

I've been marriage 26yrs,right out of H.School. We have children, and I haven't been happy for many many years. My kids don't know,they don't, but I am torn between being a father who doesn't want to hurt his children and me wanting to find someone else. I am asking for advise from only those who have been or are in my lonely and sad position.

2007-09-26 15:28:26 · 22 answers · asked by dadeo 2

to recomment to a friend. She has been dealing w/ an out of control, drug addict, alcoholic son for almost 10 years now. She has tried to get him help but nothing has worked so far. This is really affecting her everyday life and it would be great if someone that has gone through a similar situation could recommend a place where she, herself can get counseling to deal with this issue.

Thanks :)

2007-09-26 15:15:34 · 7 answers · asked by gaby c 2

2007-09-26 15:14:41 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a program on my computer for my kids to track what they go to well it tracks mine and my husbands too. I found out that he is emailing his ex and now he sometimes tries to meet with her when he dont have the kids and I have to work....should I quit my job? Question him? He talked to her before and a bunch of bad stuff happened how do I go about telling him that I found out? He doesnt know I have the program mainly of trust issues.

2007-09-26 15:10:15 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

What will you do to find out that your husband, who doesn't want you to know, he is a gay? He only marry you just to show the world the he is not a gay but he is.

2007-09-26 15:06:47 · 20 answers · asked by r002 1

my bf is at the end of a long and hard 2 year divorce process. although he has moved on and dated other people between now and then, we've been together for 4 months. it is all coming to an end in about 3 weeks and is getting hard because he just found out his ex quit her job and refuses to work until it's over bc she thinks coming to court with $0 income will get her more money, even though he adopted her daughter that she had previous to them. anyway, too much info. i know he's stressed but doesn't really talk about it. i just let him tell me when he wants to. i asked him if he wanted to go away for the weekend after it's final and he expressed he most likely would want to be by himself. i just want him to know i'm here and that i care without being pushy or asking a bunch of questions. do guys like getting flowers? and guys...would it mean something to you or would you think it was wierd? any other ideas or things you would want?

2007-09-26 15:03:17 · 9 answers · asked by Jax 3