What will you do to find out that your husband, who doesn't want you to know, he is a gay? He only marry you just to show the world the he is not a gay but he is.
2007-09-26 15:06:47 · 20 answers · asked by r002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
IF that happened to me, I'd talk to him about it.....you married him because you love him right? You can't just fall out of love that quick......YES it would be a TOTAL SHOCK BUT.....be honest with yourself and him. I know it has to hurt but it's not about you....not at all.
2007-09-26 15:11:09 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's gay, he has to have a boyfriend somewhere. Have someone follow him for a few days, and maybe you'll find him. You still won't be able to prove he's not bisexual.
Make sure you want to know before you ask the question. Make sure you can deal with the fall-out. And make sure that anytime he comes near you, he has a condom. Unfortunately, if he's gay, his mouth is probably off-limits, too.
Best of luck, honey. I don't envy you your situation.
Debbie
2007-09-26 22:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess you can try ro keep and eye on him. See how he acts, any late night trips, out of town trips, etc. Make sure you have a valid reason(s) to suspect him? Or If is is really bugging you, ask him? It's your life too and you have aright to know. Good luck.
2007-09-26 22:11:28 · answer #3 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an Aids test than hit the road. What is a marriage without honesty?
2007-09-26 22:10:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's fraud. Personally, I would hire a private detective to take some photos and then file for divorce and nail him to the cross.
2007-09-26 23:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit and ask him and explain to him that he needs to be honest with himself first of all and than with me. He needs to think how this will affect you and if you have kids them also. But don't do it in accusing manner. I know it will be hard but do it as a friend.
2007-09-26 22:16:54 · answer #6 · answered by cmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ha ha ha! I have a kid with a gay man who STILL won't say he's gay. (by the way, we don't live together anymore)
just accept that he may never tell you.
2007-09-26 22:10:13 · answer #7 · answered by bee p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are married you have to trust each other. Just suspecting is not good, you need to ask and find out for sure.
If this would happen to me, I would ask myself and him, what went wrong with us.
2007-09-26 22:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd come out and ask him. Don't do it in a threatening way, but tell him you need to ask him a serious question...and then ask it. He may get defensive, but it's not fair to you...to live a lie FOR him.
2007-09-26 22:10:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him first. Then I would look for clues. If I find anything disturbing, I would leave him. I refuse to share.
2007-09-26 22:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋