At 10 months old, I have read and believe that my daughter should have some ability to soothe herself to sleep at night. Mom feeds her a bottle and rocks her for 30-60 min until she is sound asleep and then puts her to bed. She cries and appears defiantly not to want to go to bed. I say as long as she is good: fresh diaper, properly fed, warm, secure, soft music, nothing hurting her---she might have to lay there and cry for 10-15 minutes. Am I mean? An older friend told me she always regrets not doing that with her own daughter---teaching them to soothe themselves to sleep. my baby sleeps well at my house--sometimes cries for 3-5 minutes--- No one can seem to get through to her--Any ideas IF my ideas ar---What is right? If she awakes at 230a, Mom fixes a warm bottle and rocks her back to sleep..? How can I get through to her without pissing her off and causing problems. Why won't she bring our daughter to my Mom & Dad's? every other day at her parents Please help
2007-09-26 17:52:32 · 7 answers · asked by boyfromtoledo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I did the same thing with my son, rocking him off to sleep, never putting him down unless he was asleep first, and had a kid who didn't sleep through the night until he was over 2 1/2 years old! I thought I couldn't let him cry because he might keep the other kids or hubby awake.
But because he didn't sleep well, I didn't sleep well.
In the end my husband and I agreed to try some sleep organization, so we could both get some decent rest. It involved putting him to bed while tired, but mot yet asleep, letting him cry for a little while, going in a reassuring him, but not picking him up, or taking him out again. Each night making the time in between a little longer. It only took 8 days to have him sleeping 8 hours without waking! Wonderful!
Try it, get a book that explains it and try it, it works.
Both Mum and Bubs will benefit.
2007-09-26 18:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your method of allowing her to fall asleep is not wrong or cruel. If baby is always rocked to sleep and put to bed asleep, she will need that every time she needs to take a nap or go down for the night. Let her cry for a while, and if she doesn't soothe herself after 10 or 15 min, try going in and patting her back or rubbing her tummy, patting her leg, softly touching her head or face, anything to let her know you are there, but don't pick her up!! Let her feel safe and secure with you present without you picking her up. As far as her not bringing the baby to your mom and dad's, I can't speak for that. Maybe she doesn't like them, or she feels unsure about the care she would receive there. What kind of formal custody arrangement do you have set up, if any? You could try inviting her there along with your daughter and stay for the duration of the visit so she can see that she would be well cared for and looked after. I am sorry to say I can't offer much advice in that particular situation as I don't have enough specifics. Back to the crying thing...look up articles on the internet about Ferberizing your baby...that may help if she needs to see documentation that it works. Good luck!
2007-09-26 19:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by kendi 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have a daughter that is almost 10 months old...and she goes to sleep around 8 pm and I don't hear anything out of her until 12 hours later....she sleep great through the night. I am sorry that you little girl is having a rough time. I don't think you are being mean...your daughter does have to find a way to soothe herself and if that means crying for a bit...then let her cry Have you tried advising the mother to give your daughter a bath just before bed time? That is what I do...and it has worked for months.
2007-09-26 18:01:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
At 10 months the kid ought to be sleeping through the night.
See if you can keep her sleeping area consistent... the moving around may be an issue.
Other than that, you need to put the kid to bed with all her favorite pillows and soft stuffed toys, turn out the light (perhaps have a dim night light on) and prepare to have her raise a ruckus for half an hour... after a week of that, they tend to settle down.
2007-09-26 18:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No offense, yet why are not you 2 married? you may shelter the lifelong dedication of being a father, yet being a husband is merely too a lot? i don't get it. In any experience, there's no longer something incorrect with slightly one soothing herself to sleep. we've 17 month previous twins, and specifically circumstances they do merely no longer prefer to bypass to sleep. One gets herself sooooo disappointed that sometimes she would be in a position to throw up. it is by no skill good. So in the event that they do no longer cry themselves to sleep after 10-quarter-hour we frequently get them. merely this nighttime I went in to get one in all them and that i fell asleep together with her interior the front room. We laid on the floor, her in my palms, and she or he went surprising to sleep. specifically circumstances they only prefer slightly love. yet whilst your lady chum (as antagonistic on your spouse) is rocking her for 30-60 minutes each and every nighttime, then she'll come to anticipate it each and every nighttime. which will make it very confusing once you have her or your mom and dad have her. the answer? attempt fiddling together with her and wearing her out so she'll bypass to sleep quicker on her very own. And shop the rocking for the nights she desires some greater love and interest formerly falling asleep. good success!
2016-10-09 21:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yikes. If baby is dry and fed and nothing else wrong like sickness, then let her cry for a while, she will fall asleep. You are the dad and you sound very nice. Tell her how you feel and definately share with your parents as well. She needs to be fair.
2007-09-26 17:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by AskMe 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your daughter is probably in her separation anxiety period
Here is my previous answer to the question: I need help teaching my daughter to fall asleep on her own and staying asleep all night?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ahs.hwrJRayVxO4HNj4Oz_jsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20070524203941AAADX5p&show=7#profile-info-S9bAs8D9aa
Baby may also be teething on top of that!
2007-09-26 17:59:48 · answer #7 · answered by annelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋