I think my husband is cheating on me what do Ido?

Answer 1

just because he is sleeping with me? how did you find out?

Answer 2

Does he have a cell phone where the bills come to your home? If so, look at them, and try and the "reverse look up" number on the Internet.

If you already "think he is cheating" you may be right. If you have children, I would protect myself first. If your marriage is at a point of being salvaged, you could talk to him, if he's not that kind of guy..
You will need to have him actually caught on Adultery.

I suggest starting a daily diary. Write down everything and do not let him know you are doing this. Write down the things he says, what he does. you may begin to see a pattern. Make sure you also keep dates, times, etc.
Once you have done this and you see a pattern, you might want to contact an Investigating company to have him followed. But, he may also be looking over his shoulder, so find out about the company before you give them any money.

I'm sorry to hear this, I hope you're wrong, but since you asked, you really should protect yourself in more ways than one and that includes ... no more sex with him if he is still wanting it.

Good luck~

Answer 3

Talk to him. If he is cheating, there is a reason. That doesnt excuse the behavior, but there is a reason, and you should determine what it is. Maybe you arent having sex with him as often as you used to, maybe he feels like he cant talk to you,maybe he thinks that you dont understand him, perhaps he foudn himself falling in love with someone else, or maybe hes just a cheater who likes sex.

And of course, maybe he ISNT cheating. Not all men cheat!! You married your husband for many reasons...one of which was that you trusted him. So what changed? Why dont you trust him now?
Think about the reasons you married him, think about the reasons you are questioning him now, and then talk to him.
A great way to open might be, "I want to say something, but I dont want you to respond right away. If you could please just hear me out, and then lets take some time to both think before you answer, okay? I am afraid you're cheating on me for xyz reason(s). IF you are cheating, I'd like to understand why you are. What is the problem in the relationship, what could I do better, what am i not giving you?"

When he gives you his answer, you can then decide if you want to make changes in your behavior, work on the relationship together, or if you want to kick his cheating butt to the curb. Or if he isnt cheating, you need to address the issues that made you question him in the first place (he stays out late, goes out with his female friend too often, etc).

The first step is to log off the computer, walk into the next room, and start talking to your husband. A marriage worth having is one that you work on.
Best of luck!

Answer 4

Sometimes instinct is our best friend, but other times it just makes us paranoid. Write out all the reasons you think he is cheating. See how it looks on paper - is he gone for long periods of time, unexplainably? Has he stopped having sex with you? Does he talk about other women (or one other woman in particular?)? Have his phone calls gotten suddenly very private?
I think most of us know when we are being cheated on.... you just have to look at it logically.
HOWEVER - if you are just being paranoid, you run a real risk of making him very upset or angry if you confront him over nothing.
I've found it best to just say "I've had this odd feeling lately that you're just not completely here. Is there something going on that i need to know about?" - Of course, a cheater is also a liar, so.....

Answer 5

I caught my ex from 5 years cheating on me since..his lover came to my place and told me she is knocked up..I suggest you find out the easy way than the hard way unlike myself..The signs are:
he has his own phone and uses it outside when someone calls
he say's his going w/his friends not true his lover.
he comes home tired and smelling like sex
very cold and demanding and distant
hates to answer questions about having a affair
lies about everything
plans something else when his soposed to be w/you
makes comments about how you look or what you should do to improve yourself..or make yourself feel bad
smells like womens perfume

I USED to work 2 full time jobs and slept 4 hrs/I barely had time for him let alone for my kid..I was main bread winner..W/my own money and my car he was taking this girl out..I mean that hurts the most..I used to confront him and all he did was deny it..until he knocked her up..that is when he came clean.Makes me sick..that I so called loved this Demon..lol..I don't dwell on it..I just live and learn and I will love again I hope..and nothing is worth while than my kid..I work now 1 job and only during the summer..

Answer 6

why do you think he is cheating. Is he working late and his pay remains the same? Does he smell funny when he comes home, hell does he come home? You may want some proof before you go all willy neily accusing him of cheating, because he is going to accuse you of cheating. Kill him with kindness. Be super nice. He will break.

Answer 7

Get proof.Check cellphone records (incoming and outgoing),text messages , calling card records , bank records. Frequent trips out of town constantly. Look out for sudden hang ups on the phone. He may have a cellphone that the lover gave him. Search his automobile for clues,clothing , closets ,dressers. Follow him , make him think you are at work one day and watch his place of employment.

Answer 8

i think women have a sixth sense when their husband is cheating, things just don't seem right? follow him, know for sure, say nothing about it till u know for real, than when u know confront him, give him an ultimatum, and when u hear his response, u will know what to do.

Answer 9

follow your instinct you got this feeling for a reason don't confront him. just watch his everyday actions. im sure he is acting different. if possible do a little p.i. work yourself. when he is leaving and tells you he is going somewhere respond to him however you usually do then when he leaves go to where he is suppose to be or get a friend to follow him. later ask him how it went and see if he tells you what you or your friend saw. good luck

Answer 10

go to cheaters.com and get them to investigate. or put a keylog on ur computer. that way if he flirts online with someone the key logg will pick up every key that he hits. remember its called a key log.

Answer 11

What you do in the dark comes out in the light so just wait you will see, don't you watch him enough to know his ways and how he is changeing because i am sure that he has changed. best of luck