I am a 19 year old guy and dont want to get married or have kids.
I ask questions like this and people say I am to young and will change my mind. Well I am not to young and have made my mind up on this one. I just wanna live in a apartment or condo by myself. I would rather be alone and not have to deal with anyone else. Why does everyone think all there is to life is marriage and having kids and then tell me there is something wrong with me when I dont want any of that. I stand alone and dont want or need anyone, I dont get lonely either, so no I wont be one of those grumpy old man when I get older( for most of you that answered my other question about this). Also people always say dumb stuff like "I was like you at your age and I changed my mind," well good for you, but I am not you so enough of that bull. People just cant except other ways people live
2007-09-26 16:38:52 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wont accidentally have a kid either, cuz you have to have sex to have a kid and I have never had it and never will, just something I dont care to do, the bad out weighs the good.
also people say cuz I dont have sex I am not having fun and missing out, so your telling me sex is the only fun thing to do in this world , holy some people are dumb
2007-09-26 16:41:03 · update #1
Well men tend to be the pursuers in a relationship while women tend to be the pursued. That makes it extremely easy for a man to avoid starting a relationship with a woman. All you need to do is nothing and nothing will happen to you.
Do nothing. Don't ask women out and you'll never have to date them, spend money on them or make love to them. Don't make any effort to meet women and you won't meet any. You will remain single and childless simply by default. It's difficult to understand what you're complaining about or who's trying to force you to do otherwise?
It's always puzzles me why persons who choose a single, celibate lifestyle seem to feel the need to get on Yahoo answers and announce their decision to a load of strangers. (Usually it's feminist women who do that. You're the first man I've seen on here behaving this way.) It's almost as if they're crying out for help, begging someone to challenge and dissuade them.
Don't ask me. Changing your mind doesn't interest me. I'll just inquire why you apparently feel the need to announce your solitude to the world? People who truly feel comfortable being alone usually feel no need to discuss or validate their lifestyle with anyone. They're generally the types who couldn't give a flying f what anyone else on earth thinks about them.
2007-09-26 17:26:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
where the hell are you living that at 19 people expect marriage and kids from you?
not here
in fact at 19 they expect you to live a little, get a degree, get a career going and maybe, if your dumb enough, marriage and kids..
it women who want to snare the guy and hence young unattached guys are prime targets
and young career aspirated guys more so ( especially well educated young men )
as for your aspirations to lead the solo ( not single ) life, congratulations on a good revelation so early on in life, you will do well and be way ahead of the curve mentally and financially, as for the sex part, that where i disagree with you, sex is fun, you just do not have to be committed or ever say the word "love" or girlfriend" to get it, their are plenty of girl who will give it up thinking you might be the one, but just never make the mistake of committing and letting her stay at your place, have your phone number, email, etc... and life can be really good that way, but other than that you are right on target.
2007-09-26 17:22:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know yourself well. Marriage, and children are for sure not for everyone.... You don't even have to defend your position... Just stay in school, learn what you love, get a job that is fulfilling and creative, and create your own world.... nothing wrong with that... and for sure nothing wrong with wishing never to have children... I decided I never wanted any at age 8. For sure this poor planet needs no more children... there are now 6.5 Billion of us on this tiny grain of sand... far too many... Never changed my mind about never wishing kids, and at 57 never sorry, not for one moment. I live a glorious life I would trade with no one, and have time to learn languages, travel, read, and $$ to do that.... people with kids don't. Each kid costs $250,000 to rear to age 20. Think what a lovely time you can have. You may, however change your mind about finding a partner. Sharing in a loving relationship is wonderful, but again, not for everyone.
2007-09-26 16:54:50 · answer #3 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that most people are telling you this because for the most part people change their minds and think different at different stages of their life's. So you may not want kids and are set on that, most people will see into the future for you and you never know what is ahead for you, maybe you will find someone to love and share your life with be it a woman or man. Right now you are thinking at this stage of your life.... No one not even you can say what you will do in 10 years it is just speculations on your part, but if it were up for bets you might lose your own bet.
2007-09-26 17:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't see anything wrong with being a single guy forever. I know some great guys who chose this lifestyle. You are right to not get into sex without marriage, and not doing it doesn't mean you are gay.
I guess if I knew you my only question would be "What DO you want to do in life? What are you goals?" Make sure you are aiming for something and aren't struggling with depression or anything. Otherwise, have a great life!
2007-09-26 17:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by GrowingMama 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just say...I'm not mature enough to handle a wife and kids. I'll let you know when I'm ready.
Why are on earth are they asking you at 19 years of age? That is way too young for anyone that age to get married and have kids. They need to grow up, go to college, and experience life before getting tied down.
Some men are born bachelors. There is nothing wrong with that.
2007-09-26 16:58:39 · answer #6 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is your age and people who are happily married often assume that most people want marriage at some point.
19 is (in my opinion) too young for anyone to be asking you about this at all. Even if you were in a serious relationship you are not I know. You are barely out of h.s. Marriage-!
I am with you shouldn't be asking.
My suggestion respond much more light hearted less passionate about it. I know you are determined for your own reasons and have a strong desire for bachelor lifetime. Just respond like "Whoa, slow down with that stuff, I haven't even figured out what I am ordering for dinner yet and your asking about a major life decision/change. Jeez." They'll see they are out of line and probably laugh it off" Done.
Segway to next topic.
Some people may get a rise out of you (since you are passionate about it) or may be questioning your sexual orientation (nosy-trying to figure it out)
Either was none of their businnes just be nice about putting them in their place they will stop.
Good luck
2007-09-26 16:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow!!!! somthing musta realy happened to u to make u so mad at the world... u sound like u must realy HATE women... some girl musta burned you real bad to make u swear off women an marrage an famly an even SEX that way!!!! like i agree with u there... theres plenty of things id rather do than have sex an most other women feel that way to cuz sex always turns out lousy for us girls... but this has to be the 1st time EVER i herd a guy say that he dident want sex??? but i spose theres always a 1st time for evrything...
2007-09-28 16:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by Gold Digger 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Not really sure what the question is..? If that's what makes you happy, then okay...I personally can't imagine never having a close relationship with someone, but I guess if that's your thing. As long as this decision isn't stemming from a deep within trust issue or fear of something...ya know what I mean?
2007-09-26 16:43:47 · answer #9 · answered by ladybug 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well people like you are rare they do exist...at least you don't have to worry about child support.. or alimony..and if you truly don't get lonely.. bonus.. most of us do..but if it works for you .. i wont knock it.. hell my life has not been so great with the 2 failed marriages and children..and my bf who is anti marriage.. i think i could have learn a few things from him.. may you too if you had been around when i was younger.. but people change as they get older.. you might.. you might not..but i will not knock what your saying.. marriage and children is not for everyone.. hell having a gf and bf is not for everyone..
2007-09-26 17:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋