2007-09-26 09:28:13 · 18 answers · asked by Mama 81 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It works for some people. People who aren't too concerned about love....hahaha. But I think to really make 2 people happy they should know who they are planning on spending the rest of their life with. I would not do it, but I don't come from a culture that practices it.
2007-09-26 09:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by Fancy Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's silly. But, at the same time, and this might be crazy, you learn to appreciate someone. Most people that get stuck into this thing also believe that once you're married you're stuck. Being stuck and miserable sucks so they TALK to their partner to make stuff not as bad, sometimes it works out good.
Ever since divorce was invented people just divorce their asses off. Almost like suicide is a permament solution to a temporary problem. Where as arranged where you have to actually work thru difficulties or in countries where divorce isn't legal.
I couldn't imagine being forced to marry a toad but I think there could be something learned and taken from arranged marriages.
2007-09-26 16:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it be so stupid to be stupid enough to think it's somethin so stupidly stupid???
You may find true love at times ...but u can't find yr Miss/Mr Right all by yrself evrytime,ya need help with that and thats when yr pals and parents come in.They know u better than yrself ,so they are a catalyst in finding yr right match sometimes when you have hit the wrong corners.I have seen umpteen cases where ppl have eloped with their so called 'Love' and then regret or have a torrid time later...it would have turned out to be much better had they got their parents green signal and carefully meted out their 'compatibility' meter prior to gettin hitched all by their own 'right' selection. Arranged marriages do work wonders ,they are decided upon only after the would-be pairs approval,so you consent(get consent,thats IMPORTANT ),get married ,and true love blooms, and there you go.....a happily ever after....!
Marriages are made in heaven after all,,,you never know...
2007-09-26 16:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by cerebral onus 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is about as stupid an idea as you can get.
Two strangers are forced into a relationship with no consideration of their compatibility, personality, sexual compatibility, interests, and so on.
Imagine we did the same thing with cars. You go into a dealership and they do an arranged sale. So you hand over $30,000 and they give you a car, with no choice as to options, color, brand, model, size etc. How would you feel about that?
Arranged marriage is a relic from backwards cultures, and has no place at all in modern society. Marriage is about two people that fall in love and want to be together forever. The thought of being thrust into a marriage with a random person only to hope it works out is quite awful.
In addition, I think it is especially hard on the woman, who usually ends up subservient in this relationship. Right after the marriage she is basically raped by her new husband, and pretty much just has to learn to live with it.
As you can tell, I'm not a huge fan.
2007-09-26 16:30:31 · answer #4 · answered by ZCT 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I think that for some people this can be a good thing. It is very common for people in arranged marriages to fall in love. There is a difference between arranged and forced. I don't think it is important how one becomes married but what you do after you are married that is important.
My husband and I didn't marry for love, but we did fall in love after we married. This is common for both of our families.
2007-09-26 16:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think is the worse thing parents can do to there kids. I raised in a culture that believe in arrange marriage. but I never agree with is it never last.
2007-09-26 16:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just think about it..? who program your computer..arranged marriage is like programing a robot, love the person who you will feel for and love from your heart.
2007-09-26 16:32:10 · answer #7 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think forced love is not fair. People in arranged marriages miss out on falling in love with that one special person.
2007-09-26 16:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by new_mom 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Hello??!! The year is 2007 not 1007... Arranged marriages are gross and unnatural. Two people should marry on their own free will.
2007-09-26 16:36:44 · answer #9 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't agree with arranged marriages.
I think marriage should be entered with someone you love,not a virtual stranger.
2007-09-26 18:51:38 · answer #10 · answered by Candi Apples 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋