He is a man to take charge and navigate during trips and he is very resourceful in many ways. He smells bad even after taking a bath and he really has no sex appeal and he doesn't seem to need sex anymore. I wish that he would take charge in the bedroom but even if he did, I would get so grossed out from his breath!
2007-09-26 08:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by cheery 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he didn't stink when I married him.
2007-09-26 09:06:19 · update #1
no I wouldn't dare hurt his feelings.
2007-09-27 06:55:25 · update #2
First, you are not alone. In various polls women state the top turn off from their husbands is their hygene. My husband also has bad breath. But I gently ask him to brush his teeth daily. Don't divorce someone because of the physical part. It is only a small part of your marriage and when your 70, it won't matter. Try going to a counselor just on your own first for tips on how to get him to shape up physcially. Then try counseling together. The reason that he doen't seem to need sex anymore is because you have given off some clues that you don't want to have sex with him. Which can be very natural, don't feel bad. I hope you can find some attractiveness to him that you found when you first met.
I agree with the other person that his breath smells bad probably because he has not visited the dentist and his gums are infected or have gingivitis. If you look at his gums they will be bright red if infected(like my husband's). Hopefully you can get him to the dentist. If not buy some floss, a proxy brush(goes between the teeth), tongue scrapper, and Listerine. If he does all four of these twice a day it will really improve his breath, just brushing won't. The reason I know this is that I have many crowns and I do these four everyday to get in deep and remove anything by the gum line.
2007-09-26 08:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Jino D 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about some Tri-Oral? Some people grow extra bacteria in their mouths and can't help the bad breathe; get him some of this to rinse his mouth out with twice a day and you won't have that problem. And smelling bad after a bath? I'd go to a doctor as this is not right; something wrong there. You say he has no sex appeal? Well, if he smelled good, would that be enough to turn you on again? You say he doesn't seem to need sex anymore; but are you telling him how awful he smells and all; which is a turnoff, I am sure. You two need to talk about this and fix it. Then the friendship will turn into something much more meaningful to the both of you.
2007-09-26 18:04:57 · answer #2 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could have a medical condition if he smells bad and has no sex drive. Or does he eat a lot of garlic?
If his breath always smells, it is probably the gums or teeth which are infected. He needs to make some visits to get some stuff checked out.
Perhaps he has no sex drive because he knows you don't want him?
2007-09-26 15:59:36 · answer #3 · answered by lefttheroom222 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many people become attracted to each other after several years of marriage. Depending how old you are - I would first seek counseling then perhaps divorce.
I haven't been intimate with my husband for years - but we are very close friends. It just works for us. I guess we are too lazy to get divorced.
2007-09-26 16:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by kimmer727 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should tell him, that he smells. Buy different soap and mention his breath, I know that if I smelled so bad my husband didn't want to be with me, I would want him to tell me so I could fix the problem. If it is not only the smell that makes you not want to be intimate, then I say its time to have the divorce talk.
2007-09-26 15:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by kei 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa...so why did you marry him? You may want to seek counseling to help you determine why you would marry someone you weren't interested in physically.
Did you not think that was important? Or did you marry him for something else...like stability, security? Either way, its not fair to him so you're not really being a friend are you?
Be blessed.
2007-09-26 15:56:30 · answer #6 · answered by trysh_mc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
there had to be some kind of attraction from the start, or you guys wouldn't have wound up married. COMMUNICATE with him, and tell him of his personal hygiene issues. If you're disgusted with it, i'm sure co-workers and friends try to stay away from him.... it would be a favor to him for you to mention this. Do it in a kind, loving and gentle way.
2007-09-26 16:01:27 · answer #7 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He needs to see a doctor and/or dentist to determine if there is a physical problem causing this obnoxious odor. You need to encourage him to do so, but be gentle about telling him that he repulses you. A physical issue could be the root of not only that but also his lack of sexual drive. Get him to a doctor.
2007-09-26 15:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to take a shower and eat breath mints before bed time. He may need to gargle with mouth wash. Tell him to take charge of his platoon and carry out the plan of the day.
2007-09-26 15:54:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
If he doesn't know there's a problem, it's hard for you to expect him to fix it.
Tell him. You'll hurt his feelings but your marriage needs this. Tell him that it's because you love him and want you both to be happy.
2007-09-26 16:03:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋