2007-09-26 10:46:35 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No forgive... chop off willie! Then you will feel much better, and he no cheat.
2007-09-26 10:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by myalteriormotive 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Fool me once shame on you...fool me twice shame on me!
You should have left that no-good assh0le the first time. So, now...take this as a lesson. This guy apparently has no regard for you whatsoever. Get him OUT of your life. No second, third, fourth, fifth chances or whatever the hell it is and heal, then move on with your life and find someone that has some morals and ethics and actually lives by them.
There ARE men out there that are good, decent, loving, fun people that know how to treat people with kindness and understanding. Don't settle for the iackasses out there like this moron of a husband you have. If they cheat on you....time to say adios muchacho-dvmbass.
Good luck to you. You shouldn't have had to deal with someone like this. I don't think you should have stayed, but you apparently loved this man so much you were willing to try again and forgive him for it.....and you see what you get for your trouble.
That's why I do not and will never ever give anyone a second chance after cheating. Once a dvmbass always a dvmbass in my opinion.
It will be hard for you for a while, but you WILL be ok. HUGS....good luck to you!
2007-09-26 11:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
What does he say his reason is? That is the real key question. Ask him, listen to him, and then use sound judgment and don't just fall for the "...it's all your fault sob story." But do consider what he is telling you. Are you someone he can respect or has he lost all respect for you because.... Regardless of his reason, it is not OK to cheat, but knowing his reasons could help you decide what is best for you. If you have put on 150 lbs and spend your days in front of soap operas while the house goes unmanaged and laundry piles up....are some of the excuses I have heard over the years. If anything like this applies to your situation you have to decide what is most important to you...BUT IT STILL DOES NOT MAKE HIS ACTIONS JUSTIFIED AND HE IS IN THE WRONG! Sounds like you have been down this road before. I don't cheat, never have, and I will hopefully leave this world with that accomplishment. Apparently you have forgiven him so many times he thinks he has a free pass to do as he pleases. Stand up for yourself. Recapture your power and your self respect.
2007-09-26 11:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by r0cky74 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know a few reasons why they do cheat. People think that men do this for just sex , but they do not . There is an emotional neglect they feel ~ (not all but a large portion) they could feel unwanted unloved unappealing to their partner Ignored they could be afraid to ask or try new sex acts with their partners and it is easier to go out and "do it " with someone else they could be just unhappy and looking for a way out . They feel bored and are trying to spice up their life hoping to snap out of whatever they are in . You forgiving him is easier to do than getting rid of him. And he will do it again and again because what is lacking is with him not you ~ and that will always be there.
2007-09-30 06:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by silvertouch2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are tired of forgiving....then let him go. If he loved you he would not hurt you in any way. I think some people remain with those who cheat because we want to prove to them ( your husband), that you are all he needs, and he should not be cheating on you with anyone. Is this how you feel? That you are trying to prove to yourself and him that he will love you and only you. Its hard to feel rejected....I know...I have been there. But how on earth can one person define who you are and your meaning of life. Yes its nice to spend your life with that someone....but not someone who is capable of mental, verbal, or physical abuse. I would rather be alone. I hope you do the right thing. It will be hard, but you will save yourself in the end. God Bless.
2007-09-26 11:31:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband cheats because he knows that he can do it and get away with it. Every person deserves a second chance but not more than one time. It is time to get the man out of your life and he and your best friend sound like they deserve each other. A best friend would never stab another best friend in the back. Find yourself another best friend and a better man.
2007-09-26 10:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men cheat for a number of reasons but in your husband's case, I guess you've forgiven him 1 too many times. He knows he can get away with it now. Once that sacred trust is broken, it's very difficult to go back or save the marriage without intensive counseling. Just saying "we'll work on it" isn't going to cut it.
2007-09-26 10:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Quit forgiving him. Once can be a mistake but to hurt you in this way twice; that is on purpose. Sorry, but he is not the man you thought you married and you have every right to leave him. Some best friend, huh? For him to cheat with her only makes it twice as bad. He could not possibly care for you or love you to allow it this second time. Sweetie, I usually say to do everything you can to make a go of it, but not this time. You deserve much more than he can offer you.
2007-09-26 10:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
STOP forgiving him. He cheats because he is a cheater. He obviously doesn't care about your needs. Give him up before he drains you of every last bit of energy you have. I swear you will feel so much freer when you kick his lying butt out the door. And your best friend...NOT! Picture what you want in your life, what you want out of life and MAKE IT HAPPEN! You got the power! GO FOR IT!!
2007-09-26 10:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by mummy heffalump 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I agree with Psycho. If you are really pissed make a video of it and figure out how to let him see it without getting a copy. Or better yet. Post it on the web and let everyone see you talking about how he is a lousy cheatin SOB and not even any good in the rack.
2007-09-26 10:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by luckyone_27105 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry hun but you brought it on yourself..the first time it was his fault 2nd time yours you knew that this was his history and history does repeat itself you need to move on he obviously doesnt care but anybody but himself by you staying so many times it is letting him know that he can do what he wants and get away with it because you wont leave him you deserve better get out
2007-09-26 11:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by Tiffany R 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋