I'm 23-years old and my girlfriend is 21. We have been together for five years and we truly love each other. I get turned on imagining my girlfriend having sex with another guy. I imagine both watching only and having a threesome. Don't get me wrong, I want a 2-girl threesome as well, but really, what guy doesn't!? I know how most guys are; they couldn't imagine their girlfriend or wife having sex with another guy, let alone get turned on by it! I know most people will tell me "its just a fantasy and if you end up doing it, you will regret it." Well, I can honestly say that I don't think I would feel that way because through our 5-year relationship she has "kinda" cheated on me with both guys and girls. We were on a "break" during those times so "technically" we weren't dating each other. Nevertheless, it had an impact on me. Aside from slightly getting jealous, I mostly got sexually aroused from the thought. I enjoyed her describing the experience she had! How should I react?
2007-09-26 22:57:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, it's difficult not to be judgemental when reading this and you're bound to hear opinions that you won't like or won't want to hear but since you asked, here goes:
I think for my part that you two have a twisted mind and are no good for each other.
Sex, for the two of you is meaningless. It's just a way to have fun.
I think that there are things you do with some people because ultimately, you don't contemplate a future with them and basically it's your partner in crime. Someone you do nonsense with, but you wouldn't let close to what you respect!
True enough, you'd have some degree of confidence in that person, as someone who'd know as much about you as you'd know about them, but this couldn't be love.
So, you can choose what you want from her: Your partner in crime, or the woman you want to love and be the mother of your children.
As for herself, she musn't hold you in high esteem either, if she goes to the point of describing in details the sex she has with others!!!
You two together is a receipe for perverted sex and nothing else!
You wouldn't bring any good to each other.
But, maybe as you grow up, and have finished experimenting hopefully, you'll both want true love which is the only one that involves two people!
2007-09-27 00:34:17 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know do you want to be with another guy? I mean its all in her mind not yours. As long as fantasy doesn't become a reality then you don't have a problem or do you ? Is that what your saying? The whole thing here is you can't really ask us whether we think it's weird or not cause in all honesty it shouldn't matter in the big scheme of things, its what matters to you and her. If you want to bring another guy into the mix then that's what the story is and you and she need to talk. Good Luck Sounds Like Your Gonna Need It>
2016-04-06 03:20:31 · answer #2 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just sexual exploration...if she is bothered by this try thinking up some other fantasies she will go for. My husband has his heart set on a threesome with a midget hindu woman. It ain't gonna happen, so I let him think of other things. I will gladly settle with a kinky costume and a ********* over a threesome :) Lots of people go through what you are right now, there's swinger clubs for that :)
2007-09-26 23:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by TMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are perfectly normal. People have fantasies about all sorts of things and it is OK. She just turns you on no matter what. Enjoy the relationship and have good time.
2007-09-26 23:08:17 · answer #4 · answered by sunny 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from, I have the same wish.
I can't tell you to do it as I haven't but I do think that if you stay together in ten years time you will always regret not following through.
What does she say about it?
2007-09-26 23:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by tayhay 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell her your fantasy and she may have the same one too. it sounds very exciting to me also. let me know how it turns out.
2007-09-27 00:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well yu lil devil!! If you have a fantacy, don't tell us , tell her, watch some movies w/her, see how she responds, its yours for the asking!!! I've had all fantacies lived out!!, and have now settled in down!! good luck
2007-09-26 23:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by happywjc 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well...i have known people having cases similar to yours...hmmm...it's pretty weird...and as far as how 'shoud' you react...there's no rulebook...go by the rule 'show what you feel'...but do try to find out 'why you feel that way'...
2007-09-26 23:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by mou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since both of you love the idea ,why not enjoy the pleasure!!!!
And plz,plz,plz keep us posted.....
bye for now!!!!!111
2007-09-26 23:02:10 · answer #9 · answered by lady"P" 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You sound like my husband. We've done it and it was wonderful and we don't have any regrets.
2007-09-27 00:32:31 · answer #10 · answered by Kathy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋