Why does he avoid when he's turned on??

Question

There are times when I wonder whether is it me or is it him. Sometimes when he hugs me, when we woke up in the morning and he hugs me, I can feel him turned on... but then, he won't let it continue on. He would just turn around and let that feeling passes by. I don't understand why. Is this normal? Or is he just not interested in me anymore? But then, there are also times when we tried to make love, he'll just turn on for that couple minutes and then he became all soft.... why?? Is there something wrong???

I don't think he's not good... he used to be so good.. until recently. Is it because of stress or is it because he's not satisfied with what I can give in the past??

Answer 1

There could be physical or psychological reasons for him not being able to maintain an erection, and if he feels that he's leaving you unsatisfied, then that might be part of it.
Physically there are medications and conditions - blood pressure, diabetes, depression, stresses, etc - that might interfere with his getting or maintaining an erection.
Then if he feels he's failing you, that adds the psychological aspect to it too.
Talk to him and gently ask if he thinks it might be worthwhile to see a doctor about it.

You can of course use a devise and satisfy yourself, as some have suggested, but that's a short term fix. Wouldn't you feel much better, if it got to happening between the two of you again?

Answer 2

Sounds like when you wake up in the morning, he has morning wood. And just because he does have morning wood, does not mean he wants to have sex. When i wake up in the morning, sometimes my nipples are hard. This does not mean I'm horny. As far as his two minute sexual performance, that's weak. Time to get a toy like some of the other ladies have suggested, preferably one that vibrates. Good luck.

Answer 3

Use that couple of minutes efficiently or get a vibrator.

ps: Thanks Chiksita; it's good to know there are some level headed women out there.

Additional:
Maybe there is stress. But making love with your wife is a good destressor. He could have some physical ailment troubling him, like bloodpressure problems. A man's pecker is a good thermostat for the rest of his health. When the body is having problems, it shuts off blood to areas not as important to survival. He could be on the verge of a heart attact. I recommend a checkup at the doc's.

Answer 4

Yeah, what Bottom Contributor said. Forget that he's lying there, period. Get a vibrator, some jiffy lube and make a lot of noise. Look good when you do this. Remember, he IS NOT there. If you don't exist, then neither does he. He will want to join this one-woman show, but you aren't hiring. Got it? Good.

PS: Enjoy!

Answer 5

I am going through the same thing. My husband will be hard and ignore the stiffy sometimes even tell me he is just trying to relax and it's not like we do it very often, but when we do it is amazing I almost always climax. But, here recently I told him to be honest with me once and for all and cut all the bull**** and he told me he wasn't motivated anymore but was trying to please me because he loved me. I don't know when you find out how to fix this problem im or email me and let me know to!

Answer 6

I swear some men are real stupid..and I suggest go to porn store get some toys and play or share with him..if his not closed minded ..if he is open his mind..and do things to him like go down on him so it could get up lol..or better yet..do your thing okay..and when his in mood he will join ya..if he does not than his GAY sorry..lol..

Answer 7

maybe he is having trouble keeping it up. you need to just ask him if something is wrong, maybe he is embarassed