hes a very possessive person and cant grasp the concept that i dont want him around any more .
2007-09-26 23:03:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i see that maybe because he is a possesive man thats one of the reasons you want to get rid of him?is he violent?what are you really scared of?have you sat him down and talked about this and been completely honest with him?unfortunetly it is aknown fact that men are not as good when it comes to reading emotions.so i hope you are being as straightforward with him as you say.if nothing works you will have to change the locks and tell him to get his own place.you will also have to see a solicitor and make arrangements for him to see his child.
2007-09-27 05:46:10 · answer #1 · answered by sarah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there is definitely something wrong. I wouldn't feel guilty. What you said was dead-on. She mellowed out because she was shocked you actually called her on her behavior and the depths it has brought your marriage to. If you had any hope for your marriage I would have encouraged you to do more of that. Don't just disappear, leave her a letter or something so it will be obvious you are not missing. Make it very clear why. You have more than enough reason to leave in my mind. Physical abuse is never called for. And freaking eye contact isn't flirting. What is the point of even going to a party if you don't meet people. Tell your family she's beaten you for years. They should have already known this by now. It's not something you should keep secret. They'll still disown you, I guess, but maybe they'll understand. Frankly she should be doing time for battery! I wouldn't stick around to get the degree. That's just using her, even though she richly deserves it. Get out of there while you still have your sanity and your life. I can't believe people are saying you should stay. As for alternative suggestions ... if you do love her, and you enjoy hanging with psychos, you could try an ultimatum. If she ever hits you again or breaks sh*t, or even just looks at you funny, you're history, etc. But you have to mean it and you ought to be ready to act on it. Honestly I think you should just leave. And you will want to get the divorce ball rolling. Get it done proper if you ever want to be with another woman. I don't think it's best for the child to grow up in an abusive household where he sees Mom beating up Dad all the time. If you want to stay in touch, you can write him letters/visit/or whatever you can stomach. If she won't let you stay in contact, that's her decision but it's not on your conscience. It is no reason for you to risk your life. If she ever touches him you can call CPS on her. Good luck. P.S. your wife is was already stretching it pretty thin even before this godly-speaking, she had a child outside of wedlock forcryingoutloud.
2016-05-19 22:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to leave him why are you still there hinting at him???
Just pack whilst he is out and go with the child.
If however you want him to go depending on the property and whose name is on the mortgage or rent book you may need legal advice to get an order to get him out.
Stop hinting and start acting.
2007-09-26 23:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by Frufru111 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those kinds are hard. I went through the same thing. One day, while I was pregnant with my daughter, I got home from work to a message from my landlord telling me a neighbor found drugs infront of my house. When I tried getting a hold of my at the time boy friend, he was no where to be found, his mom said he was one place, called there, and they said he was at the bar...so....I packed up everything that belonged to him, and when he stumbled in at 3am all his things were in boxes ready to go. He looked at me, I said give me my house key and get the hell out! He said oh but...I've had a really bad night will you just...." , I said, nope get out. After that he got the point. He had a mutual friend tell him everything I was doing, so she got booted from the friend circle, he would follow any guys I was seen talking to and tell them he was my boyfriend and they had no business talking to me. Until one day I met the man who is now my husband, who just so happened to be bigger and stronger than he was. The ex got the picture then, and has been out of it ever since. I consider myself lucky, but I knew there was no way I was going to let this guy ruin my life. No matter how big and bad he thought he was, or how much control he thought he had. My self and my child were going to be *** hole free! Put your foot down and up his butt if you have too!
2007-09-26 23:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by TMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is not something you hint about. Have the nerve to tell him straight out. If you have a child together you have to be able to let that child have a relationship with it's Father. So talk to him and work something out.
2007-09-26 23:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to leave your partner or are you trying to make him leave, making him leave requires hints or a more blunt "get out" approach. But if you are trying to leave that takes no hints but effort to pack your things and walk out the door, you might add "I'm leaving you" in there too.
2007-09-26 23:27:09 · answer #6 · answered by Wade C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's no good dropping 'hints' - either tell him outright that you're on the verge of leaving, unless he changes his attitudes....or actually do it. Think about your child - what life is going to be better for it?
2007-09-26 23:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by djdale99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight instead of dropping hints
2007-09-26 23:08:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll get the hint after you're gone.
2007-09-26 23:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out yourself, or if it is your place, tell him that if he does not get out, you will have him removed. Never hint. Tell him what you want straight up!!
2007-09-26 23:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋